Why Do We Gossip and Allow Other's To Gossip and What Can We Do About It?

Gossip grows in unhealthy groups. Toxic groups, especially those with one or more narcissists or people on the dark triad, use gossip to triangulate, exclude and control others to fuel their narcissistic supply. Some group members gossip, showing their shared feelings and gossiping to bond. Others may fear if they don't allow others in the click to gossip or don't gossip themselves, they are excluded from the group and suffer from others gossiping about them.

 The danger is that the group may begin to normalize malicious gossip and escalate into abusive and dangerous behavior, accepting bad behavior of fellow gossipers and victimizing or even demonizing those outside the gossip click. In the presence of other toxic people who reflect "like" behaviors, they don't see their behaviors as unhealthy. In the group, they are whole and belong and feel superior to outsiders.

 HOW TO DEAL WITH GOSSIP

State the Specific Behavior

You said that Mary is a tramp because she is dating three different men

(Or you said the John is incompetent because he keeps asking for advice on data entry)

It doesn't seem very honest or kind when you talk about Mary to us and don't share how you feel about her directly.

State How Your Feel

I feel uncomfortable. I am being disrespectful. I am not honoring someone who is not here to defend herself.

State What You Want

If you have this serious problem with her, I think you need to speak to her about your concerns directly and honestly. Otherwise, you are all being dishonest any time you interact with her without telling her. That creates a lot of unhealthy Behavior and tension.

State What You Will Do

In any case, Mary is my coworker, and I don't want to hear you speak disrespectfully of her

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

JOE Biden's body language during his sit-down interview with Jimmy Kimmel, body language expert Patti Wood

JOE Biden's body language during his sit-down interview with Jimmy Kimmel, a body language expert said.

Expert Patti Wood told The Sun that the president showed unusual behavior as he sat down with the late-night talk show host on Wednesday, June 8, 2022.

https://www.the-sun.com/news/5525530/joe-biden-behavior-jimmy-kimmel-anger-stress/

https://www.the-sun.com/news/5525530/joe-biden-behavior-jimmy-kimmel-anger-stress/ 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Amber Head's Body Language in Johnny Depp Trial Courtroom Tesitimony

YESTERDAY, HEARD WRAPPED UP HER TESTIMONY AFTER FOUR DAYS ON THE STAND.

SHE WAS GRILLED DURING CROSS-EXAMINATION WHERE A VIDEO WAS PLAYED SHOWING AMBER HEARD TALKING ABOUT HOW T-M-Z KNEW ABOUT HER AND DEPP'S RELATIONSHIP IN 20-16.

SOUNDBITE – I’m looking for a link to this one

TRT: 12

OC: (HANDS UP TO FACE)

BODY LANGUAGE EXPERT, PATTI WOOD JOINS US NOW.

WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF HEARD'S REACTION TO HER OWN COMMENTS?

----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------

JOHNNY DEPP'S DEFAMATION SUIT AGAINST HIS EX-WIFE AMBER HEARD IS BACK IN SESSION.

YESTERDAY, HEARD WRAPPED UP HER TESTIMONY AFTER FOUR DAYS ON THE STAND.

SHE WAS GRILLED DURING CROSS-EXAMINATION WHERE A VIDEO WAS PLAYED SHOWING AMBER HEARD TALKING ABOUT HOW T-M-Z KNEW ABOUT HER AND DEPP'S RELATIONSHIP IN 20-16.

SOUNDBITE – I’m looking for a link to this one

TRT: 12

OC: (HANDS UP TO FACE)

BODY LANGUAGE EXPERT, PATTI WOOD JOINS US NOW.

WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF HEARD'S REACTION TO HER OWN COMMENTS?

  It’s interesting that her voice wavers as if she wants to cry as she says, “So he finds out about the divorce filings” From some other source rather than TMZ goes very logical and calm then she does a “FACE Cream Wipe” its emotional cleansing gesture we usually reserve to wipe away extreme emotions as in witness a shooting, But then she goes into an odd whipping her fingers of the emotion and looking at if trying to see if she gave enough emotion then whipping again. SO we are seeing her go to rapid mood changes.

 DEPP'S ATTORNEY ALSO QUESTIONED MS. HEARD ABOUT A COMPLAINT BEING FILED AGAINST A NURSE AND HER LICENSE WHO WAS DEPOSED IN THIS CASE.

LISTEN:

SOUNDBITE: https://www.dropbox.com/s/5xyeuj9kxggs5ym/SOT%20Nurse%20Complaint.mp4?dl=0

WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF HER RESPONSE THERE?

 Her elbows go out in a “bid to power

and then she does a “Adjustment Cue” Pulling down her suit jacket,

and blinks rapidly all cues that indicate she is preparing herself/gaining strength to answer.

 Then she holds her head down and looks down, and pauses closes her eyes and her head rises and she tosses her head and hair back and appears to, “get into character,” and she says, “ahhh , no, I don’t, I don’t believe I did then does a tongue thrust and glares with slightly pouted lips at the attorney showing passive-aggressive hatred for the lawyer asking her this.  The use of the words “I DON”T BELIVE I DID” are not common in someone asked a question about something a clear and specific as filing a complaint most innocent people would know with certainty that they DIDN”T file it.

 My Rough Notes in Preparation for HLN (Head-Line News Interview.)

 PROSECUTORS HAVE FOCUSED ON HEARD'S SUPPOSED FRIENDS AND ROMANTIC ENTANGLEMENTS WITH OTHER MEN DURING HER MARRIAGE TO JOHNNY -- INCLUDING A LATE-NIGHT VISIT FROM JAMES FRANCO THE NIGHT AFTER HEARD ALLEGES DEPP THREW A PHONE AT HER FACE.  

WHAT DO YOU MAKE OF THE BEHAVIOR BETWEEN THEM?

CLIP: https://www.dropbox.com/s/gmrbvyb6wgpy8it/SOT%20Franco%20Visit.mp4?dl=0

 

Franco visit Interesting that he goes to the corner immediately with his head down, clearly knowing how not show his face and retain anonymity. She also keeps her head down and face out of view, I think they know they could be watched an she moves backward towards him to still no show her face, but to gain comfort up against him rumba vacuum returning to its station and he moves his head forward to give her comfort. Unless she has to be with him to get him how through security, her going with him would signal a desire to be with him as long as possible, to linger with him, a signal of a stronger bond than just sex.

 

 

 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

What Can You Do If You Think Your Partner is Pulling Away By Dating Coach and Body Language Expert Patti Wood

1. To make sure you aren't imagining their actions or misidentifying the motivations for their behavior, notice their exact verbal and nonverbal behaviors, what they do and how often they do it, and in what circumstances they do it to see if it's consistent and triggered by interactions with you. 

2. Have a conversation sharing what your partner did and how you felt about it. For example, "For the last three weeks, when we sit together at dinner, as soon as I start talking about my day or something I did or read, your turn and look away or touch or look at your phone." -State the concrete result. "I stopped talking." State how you feel. "I feel like your pulling away from me."

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Why Do Airlines Seats Face Forward Rather than the Safer Option of Having Airline Seats Facing Backward?.

This is a question I get along with why do we all face toward the door on elevators.

Airlines don't have backward-facing seats as they are heavier and have to meet higher safety standards, and they would have to have all the seats face backward, so there is a cost issue.

But the other reasons are more customer service/ body language-related.

Some people feel more nauseous facing backward,

When we are a passenger in a car, we are used to facing forward toward the driver, so it gives a sense of familiarity and control over the experience.

Nonverbally the primal limbic brain wants to face the body is going.

Sitting backward triggers the same limbic brain fear response that having your back to the door (as in the caveman does not want to have his back to the entrance to the cave) makes you feel.

Some people want to face the way they entered the plane as it calms them down as they think they know where the exit is. (Thus, the flight attendant's speech that says the closest exit may be behind you.)

It's easier to get the passengers off if they exit up and out of their seats toward the front.

 

 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.