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Body Language Read of Rob Pattinson and Kristen at OTR After Party


First Video, 

He faces her and takes the crook of his arm and locks it around Kristen’s head in an ownership gesture. It is playful and brief. This gesture is typically done when standing to the side of a women when in the presence of others as a show of ownership, "She is with me.” In this case he does it standing facing her so it is to prove to himself that she is his. His smile and head shaking and playful touches indicate he can’t believe she is his. Her posture in response is a slightly hunched over she doesn’t touch back nor does she linger. At first she does not “respond it kind” to his advances. She is more shy.   

Later when he makes that ummm sound as he hugs her she does a comfort cue, putting her hand to her mouth and leaving it there as he tries to get intimate indicating she is not comfortable with his caresses. But when she sees him finally back up she changes. I think that when he backed up she felt that absence of his advance and  she reaches up and puts her hand around his neck so he comes closer.

At the beginning even when she tilts her head up to talk to him she doesn’t hold her hands up or touch him as she does to pull him closer to her.  She rests her head ever so briefly.

If you watch the tape several times you can see the dance of the relationship is him cornering her and moving closer and her moving back.  His odd shaking side to side is in part his frustration that she is not moving towards her. Again he is playful but she is not fully playing back in kind.

 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Tips to Get High Click-Through Rates and Counts on Facebook & Twitter


Facebook: For the best click-through rate, bitly suggests posting to Facebook between 1 p.m. and 4 p.m. EST. Wednesday at 3 p.m. EST is the peak time of the week to post. Traffic from Facebook fades after 4 p.m. Weekend posts often get less attention than weekdays.

Twitter: Your best chance of getting high click counts on Twitter is with tweets sent in the afternoon earlier in the week -- namely 1 p.m. to 3 p.m. EST, Monday through Thursday. Bitly suggests users avoid posting after 8 p.m. or after 3 p.m. on Fridays. As with Facebook, weekend tweets are less effective than those sent during the week.


Tumblr: This social network has a "drastically different pattern of usage" than Facebook or Twitter, bitly says. Tumblr traffic from bitly links peaks between 7 p.m. and 10 p.m. EST on Monday and Tuesday, with similar traffic on Sunday. Friday evening -- a time that's generally ineffective for other networks -- can be an optimal time to post on Tumblr. On average, content posted after 7 p.m. receives more clicks over 24 hours than mid-day posts during the week.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Happy Mother's Day to All the Mothers!

Ava Marie - My little niece

Mothers Are the Place Where Love

Mothers are the place where love
Emerges from the earth,
And happiness rings out like bells
In honor of our birth.

Mothers are the sun that lights
For life our inner sky,
So we may know that we are loved
And need not question why.

Mothers are the moon that shines
Upon our black despair,
So even when we weep, we know
That someone's always there.

Whatever fear, or stress, or pain
Might them to anger move,
We know that underneath the storm
We have, always, their love.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

What Your Walk Says About You

I was recently interviewed by the Huffington Post about what a person's walk can say about them and how they can modify it.  Click the link below to get my insights!

http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/2012/05/08/what-your-walk-says-about-you_n_1497198.html?ref=canada

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to Tell When Someone is Lying

There are subtle things liars do that give them away. You just need to know how to spot them.  Patti shares her expertise with Modern Man at the link below on how to know when someone is lying. 

http://www.modernman.com/how-to-tell-when-someone-is-lying/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Why did George Zimmerman Buy the Gun?


If you would like an explanation as to why George Zimmerman bought the gun used in the Travon Martin shooting here is a very informative piece on the incidents in Zimmerman’s neighborhood and personal life leading up to theTravon Martin shooting. It's long, but it's worth the read...




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Make-up Artist and Photographer for Patti’s New Headshot on her Newsletter and Website


We got so many requests about the details of my new headshot I decided to blog it.


The artist that did my make-up for the shoot was SUNNI.  She is so talented.
Siggers Hair Salon is off LaVista Road on the other side of 285 from Northlake Mall.


Another true artist is Enid Grigg.  She did the wonderful photography and lighting and photoshoping of the headshot.  She is a genius and you should go right now and book her for a headshot if you need one http://www.enidgrigg.com/ . Enid Grigg is my professional photographer. She has many talents and she has done corporate headshots for years. She did the videos of me on the stool in the black top on my website home page http://www.pattiwood.net/ as well as the fun photo shoot I did of different body language postures and what they mean that I did for CBS.com http://www.bodylanguagelady.blogspot.com/search/label/throat.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 22, 2012

Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti's Rough Notes from CNN and HLN Interview on Zimmerman's Body Language

Check the link below to view the video on YouTube!

Overall I see Zimmerman; defiant at times angry, upset and pained to have here is parents testimony.

See my notes below on how chained handcuffs may affect body language and make anyone angry. There is only one small piece of tape showing his sitting down so you can see the handcuffs.

In Courtroom, at beginning of bond hearing, Zimmerman is defiant and angry.  With the facial muscles around the mouth held tight he appears to be showing classic signs of anger he is biting down hard, and thrust the chin up and forward.  This body language says, “Don’t mess with me.” In body language we go forward with are bodies to attack. When someone is pumping themselves up to fight they may as Zimmerman is doing here, push their chests up and out and lead with their jaw.

CNN video tittles “Zimmerman’s dad” He has gashes on head”

As Zimmerman listens to his dad describe his injuries his shoulders are back head is up. One of the few times he blinks normally. Lawyer tweaks questions of Zimmerman’s father, “Did you see any pictures of that? Zimmerman does an eyes shutter closing his eyes to the situation.

Zimmerman is pained to have his father questioned.  When the defense attorney repeats the question you see (time code: 31 to 32) Zimmerman’s head go down and his whole faces to scrunches us in pain like a child about to cry.

In other tape today

Zimmerman also shows other classic anger signals. Anger – Anger shows pull your eyebrows down and together so the inner corners of your eyes go down and towards your nose then you stare so that your upper eyelids and your lowered eyebrows meet now press your lips together tightly lips appear very thin.  When someone is about to attack signal of a pressed lips tend to precede arms going out to attack. Zimmerman does lips presses of anger as well as lip puckering in distaste

There are contextual situational reasons that we may see some of the emotions in Zimmerman for example he is in chained handcuffs. In research on anger when physiologist are trying to create the emotion of anger in subjects they produce anger by holding the arms of the research subject so they cannot get free. If we are prevented from doing what we want to do, in this case Zimmerman wishes to defend himself, also when we feel that someone is trying to deliberately hurt us or denigrate us in any way the natural response is anger or fear. And if we are fearful a way stress response freeze flight fight fall or faint o reduce the fear and feel stronger is to become angry. Anger increases the heart rate produces adrenaline.

Also anger calls forth Anger. The Prosecuting attorney is very skilled. His voice is incredulous and angry and he attacks Zimmerman with his questions. Specifically asking about Zimmerman about saying he was sorry.  

As he comes in the courtroom and sits with the handcuffs.

Asked his name he reply’s  “George Michael Zimmerman” on head forward and chin up imperious shoulders back.

We see him take a breath micro facial cue . “as his lawyer says” anything he says, see his lips close on NBC NEW. Time stamp 17. showing he wants to keep something in, slight indication what is coming out next is not the truth.  

I wanted to say, I am sorry, for the loss of your son,  I did not know how old he was I thought he was a little younger than I am. I did not know that he was armed or not’ All addressed with his head to the lawyer his heart straight forward. 
When prosecuting attorney said (time :37 “ no to the mother and father CNN 10:54 in courtroom. His nose flares, his brow leaps to  up see the folds and his eyebrows went up asymmetrically his lips purse in distaste in slight anger. See how his chin stays up. He is confident.

Prosecutor says, “You told that to the police,” Zimmerman:58 presses his lips up and gives an asymmetrical grimace (Neocortex logical brain and emotional limbic brain in conflict. / note his eyes he glares. He is mad, but trying to suppress it and he feels caught in the lie.
“Who did you make that statement too?” Zimmerman replies, “Aahhhh” shakes his head no again as Prosecutor says, “I believe you gave five statements total” (Time code 1:21) He shakes his head no while saying, “Yes sir I am sorry, all the names blend together. Has micro facial cue again eyebrows up big smirk asymmetrical revealing anger and fear then purse. 
“I don’t remember exactly what verbatim,” His paralanguage is more abrupt he gives a vocal strike on the word verbatim. He gives an eye block (time code 1:40)
Time code 2:10 time on the clock10:56. You left a message for them to tell them that. Zimmerman furrowed brow lips again pursed in distaste.
Prosecutor, “Why did you wait so long to tell Mr. Martin” Zimmerman at time code  Zimmerman reply’s in soft submissive voice, “I don’t understand the question, I am sorry.” (time code 2:17) But he follows it wish a lip press of frustration, and a tongue thrust (sticking out his tongue to attack the prosecutor) showing he does understand the implication of the question and is mad>  

Body Language baseline in the First Court Appearance Rather than have what I normally see the turtle head bow their head erect posture, facial musculature stoic

Squirrel in the headlight Fear response especially when he first walks in White and Wide Increased sympathetic nervous system activity and elevated adrenaline anyone would have that, blinking increased.
Baseline Zimmerman’s body Language before First Court Appearance Turtle head bow their head erect posture, facial musculature stoic.

Squirrel in the headlight Fear response especially when he first walks in White and Wide Increased sympathetic nervous system activity and elevated adrenaline anyone would have that, blinking increased.

http://www.youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert/videos


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http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/news/national/judge-to-decide-if-zimmerman-can-leave-jail


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language Recommendations for networking event, group job interviews, group auditions and reality show competitions and parties.

A client of mine, who is now being considered for a reality show, recently sought some last minute coaching advice. Here are my rough notes to him that you may want to consider and adapt for your use when you are at a meeting or job interview networking event.  


1.       Be very present and connect with each person you speak with.

2.      Focus on them completely when you’re with them. That is the number one behavior of a charismatic person.

3.      If you are in room with other candidates, producers etc., get there early, stand near the door and introduce yourself and introduce people to each other.  

4.      You are a life of the party guy, very smart and very witty and I would coach you to be your wonderful self.

5.      Find something fun and cleaver to say about the day, the food or the ambiance.

6.      Find a fellow auditionee to have a little fun and laugh with so they can see how much fun you would be as a team member.

7.      Spend quality time with and make yourself memorable to the decision makers thank them at the beginning and be the last one to thank them at the end be grateful and happy to have a chance to be there.

8.     I was so impressed with you and your fun lively story telling ability when I we worked together I know they will love you.  

  • Most important get out sticky notes or 3 by  5 cards
  • Write questions you know they will ask
  • Write questions you hope they won’t ask
  • What situations your fear may come up one question/fear for each sticky note.
  • Turn each note over and come up with an answer you are comfortable with.
  • Come up with a few questions you can ask others to open them up and get them comfortable
  • Mix it up, be serious and be funny mix it up. Then have a few friends take the sticky notes and ask you the questions


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 21, 2012

If you don't ask, you don't get.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Retouching the void The WTC memorials impossible Compromises. Public space and nonverbal communication.

I just read an excellent article in Harpers Magazine. Mark Kingwell a professor o f philosophy at the University of Toronto talks about the effects of public space and interviews the architect of the World Trade Center Memorial.

The architect waxes profound about what he wanted to achieve with the controversial memorial. It is what he said about its meaning when asked by a security guard at the site that expressed it the best. “Well, I wanted to create a voiced—Two cascading voids.”  How interesting he should say that.  I think that is what 9/11 gave us. How simple a memorial. Something that doesn’t rise up to celebrate but instead recedes with tears of grief into a void.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Watch Patti on HLN and CNN regarding the Zimmerman Bond Hearing


I was just called to do several media interviews on Zimmerman’s body language during his bond hearing and I will be on HLN at EST and CNN tonight between 7:00 and 8:30. I will have the videos of the interviews up on my YOUTUBE channel tomorrow if you don’t see the shows tonight.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 20, 2012

No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 19, 2012

All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 18, 2012

If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Cell Phone Exposure May Prevent and Reverse Alzheimer's Disease


After  years of being told that cell phone use is bad for you here is some good news

I just read cell phone exposure may prevent and reverser Alzheimer’s disease

on scitech-news (one of my research junkie sites.) Here is the link and the article.

What do you think? t


Cell phone exposure may prevent and reverse alzheimer’s disease
1/16/2010 08:17:00 AM Publicado porJorge Franchín
Etiquetas:
Medicine

The millions of people who spend hours every day on a cell phone may have a new excuse for yakking. A surprising new study in mice provides the first evidence that long-term exposure to electromagnetic waves associated with cell phone use may actually protect against, and even reverse, Alzheimer's disease.

The study, led by University of South Florida researchers at the Florida Alzheimer's Disease Research Center (ADRC), was published in the Journal of Alzheimer's Disease.

"It surprised us to find that cell phone exposure, begun in early adulthood, protects the memory of mice otherwise destined to develop Alzheimer's symptoms," said lead author Gary Arendash, PhD, USF Research Professor at the Florida ADRC. "It was even more astonishing that the electromagnetic waves generated by cell phones actually reversed memory impairment in old Alzheimer's mice."

The researchers showed that exposing old Alzheimer's mice to electromagnetic waves generated by cell phones erased brain deposits of the harmful protein beta-amyloid, in addition to preventing the protein's build-up in younger Alzheimer's mice. The sticky brain plaques formed by the abnormal accumulation of beta amyloid are a hallmark of Alzheimer's disease. Most treatments against Alzheimer's try to target beta-amyloid.

The highly-controlled study allowed researchers to isolate the effects of cell phone exposure on memory from other lifestyle factors such as diet and exercise. It involved 96 mice, most of which were genetically altered to develop beta-amyloid plaques and memory problems mimicking Alzheimer's disease as they aged. Some mice were non-demented, without any genetic predisposition for Alzheimer's, so researchers could test the effects of electromagnetic waves on normal memory as well.

Both the Alzheimer's and normal mice were exposed to the electromagnetic field generated by standard cell phone use for two 1-hour periods each day for seven to nine months. The mice didn't wear tiny headsets or have scientists holding cell phones up to their ears; instead, their cages were arranged around a centrally-located antenna generating the cell phone signal. Each animal was housed the same distance from the antenna and exposed to electromagnetic waves typically emitted by a cell phone pressed up against a human head.

If cell phone exposure was started when the genetically-programmed mice were young adults -- before signs of memory impairment were apparent -- their cognitive ability was protected. In fact, the Alzheimer's mice performed as well on tests measuring memory and thinking skills as aged mice without dementia. If older Alzheimer's mice already exhibiting memory problems were exposed to the electromagnetic waves, their memory impairment disappeared. Months of cell phone exposure even boosted the memories of normal mice to above-normal levels. The memory benefits of cell phone exposure took months to show up, suggesting that a similar effect in humans would take years if cell phone-level electromagnetic exposure was provided.

Based on their promising and unexpected findings in mice, the researchers concluded that electromagnetic field exposure could be an effective, non-invasive and drug-free way to prevent and treat Alzheimer's disease in humans. They are currently evaluating whether different sets of electromagnetic frequencies and strengths will produce more rapid and even greater cognitive benefits than those found in their current study.

"If we can determine the best set of electromagnetic parameters to effectively prevent beta-amyloid aggregation and remove pre-existing beta amyloid deposits from the brain, this technology could be quickly translated to human benefit against AD" said USF's Chuanhai Cao, PhD, the other major study author. "Since production and aggregation of β-amyloid occurs in traumatic brain injury, particularly in soldiers during war, the therapeutic impact of our findings may extend beyond Alzheimer's disease."

The memory test used to evaluate the effects of cell phone exposure in mice was closely designed from a sensitive test used to determine if Alzheimer's disease, or its very early signs (mild cognitive impairment), are present in humans. "Since we selected electromagnetic parameters that were identical to human cell phone use and tested mice in a task closely analogous to a human memory test, we believe our findings could have considerable relevance to humans," Arendash said.

The researchers found a slight increase in brain temperature during the two one-hour periods when mice were exposed to electromagnetic waves each day. This increase in brain temperature was seen only in the Alzheimer's mice, and only after months of exposure. The researchers suggest the increase in brain temperature helped the Alzheimer's brain to remove newly-formed beta-amyloid by causing brain cells to release it.

The researchers were particularly surprised to discover that months of cell phone exposure actually boosted the memory of non-demented (normal mice) to above-normal levels. They suspect that the main reason for this improvement involves the ability of electromagnetic exposure to increase brain activity, promoting greater blood flow and increased energy metabolism in the brain. "Our study provides evidence that long-term cell phone use is not harmful to brain," Dr. Cao said. "To the contrary, the electromagnetic waves emitted by cell phones could actually improve normal memory and be an effective therapy against memory impairment"

"It will take some time to determine the exact mechanisms involved in these beneficial memory effects," Arendash said. "One thing is clear, however - the cognitive benefits of long-term electromagnetic exposure are real, because we saw them in both protection- and treatment-based experiments involving Alzheimer's mice, as well as in normal mice."

Previous human studies of electromagnetic waves from cell phones involved only brief exposures given to normal humans. While some studies reported small improvements in attention or memory (not enough to impact daily life), others reported no memory effects from short-term exposure. The new study by Arendash, Cao, and their colleagues is the first to investigate the effects of long-term electromagnetic exposure over many months on memory function in either humans or animals. The findings indicate that "long-term" exposure to cell phone level electromagnetic waves is needed to observe enhanced memory in normal or memory-impaired mice.

The USF researchers began investigating the effects of cell phone use on Alzheimer's disease several years ago, after several observational studies in humans linked a possible increased risk of Alzheimer's with "low-frequency" electromagnetic exposure -- like the energy waves generated by power and telephone lines. However, cell phones emit "high-frequency" electromagnetic waves, which are very different because they can have beneficial effects on brain cell function, such as increasing brain cell activity, Arendash said.

There has been recent controversy about whether electromagnetic waves from cell phones cause brain cancer. Some researchers argue that the risk of glioma (40 percent of all brain tumors) doubles after 10 or more years of cell phone use. However, others argue that since the overall lifetime risk of developing a brain tumor of any type is less than 1 percent, any doubling of this risk would still be very low. Groups such as the World Health Organization, the American Cancer Society, and the National Institutes of Health, have all concluded that scientific evidence to date does not support any adverse health effects associated with the use of cell phones. Consistent with the view of these organizations, the researchers found no autopsy evidence of abnormal growth in brains of the Alzheimer's mice following many months of exposure to cell phone-level electromagnetic waves. They also found all major peripheral organs, such as the liver and lungs, to be normal.
(Photo: USF)
University of South Florida
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 17, 2012

Get outside every day.  Miracles are waiting everywhere.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to Avoid a Hug

This is an excerpt from Patti's new book "SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" coming out this Fall 




The Hug Dodge

                So, you’re not a hugger and this whole hugging thing makes you a bit uneasy. There are many motivations for dodging a hug and more than one method to do it. It was front-page news in the Irish press with Bono, of the rock group U2 admitted that he dodged a hug from then-President George W. Bush by jumping behind a podium on the stage as the affectionate Bush came near him. Bono said he didn’t feel like being the recipient of a hug from someone he disagreed with on so many things.



                I’m a hugger, so I don’t worry about people hugging me. But I know there have been times when someone didn’t want to hug with me. Not everyone is a hugger. When you hug, you expose the front of your body, opening all of your body windows. It can make some people feel vulnerable. Others feel that hugs are too personal and intimate and even too sexual for everyday interactions in business and with acquaintances. Thankfully, their body language cues will let you know very quickly whether they are huggers.



What if I don’t want a hug?

                Carol, a pharmaceutical sales rep in my sales presentation skills class asked, “What if I don’t want a hug? Some of the physicians I call on immediately give me a hug and I am just not into that.”  This is a frequent question for women in business. The good news, Carol and all, “I am not a hugger” gals and guys, there is a systematic technique to avoid the hug.

                 If you see the potential hugger with both hands and arms raised and chest thrust out in the “hug” position, do the following:

1.      Break eye contact

2.      Step forward on your right foot (This is your “handshaking foot” – the foot that normally moves first for a handshake)

3.      Present only the right side of your body, which effectively closes off your body windows

4.      Extend your right hand for a handshake. (You can choose to make eye contact again at this point)

5.      After touching, step back outside the intimate zone of space to signal you are done, and you don’t want to follow the handshake with a hug. This step also sends the signal that not only is the hug unwanted now, but also unwanted in the future.

If extending the arm and presenting the right side doesn’t stop the hugger, wrap your left arm around the person’s shoulder. This way it becomes a side-to-side hug rather than a frontal hug. You can also pat their back or shoulder to insure you indicate you don’t want a sexual interaction.

The hug dodge does two things:

1.      It signals in those important milliseconds that you are initiating a handshake interaction.

2.      It closes and protects the windows of your body

Macey, a drop-dead gorgeous client of mine came in for a coaching session after receiving the hug dodge training in our previous session. She said, “I feel so empowered. Yesterday I was at a meeting. My boss’s boss, who goes in for the really uncomfortable, feel you up kind of hug approached me with his arms out at the meeting last week. I was able to use the hug dodge to change it to a much more comfortable handshake. I realized at once how powerless and uncomfortable I typically feel when I have had to interact with him after one of his inappropriately sexual hugs.”  


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life Lesson Quote for April 14, 2012

Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.  Your friends will.  Stay in touch.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Casablanca "Here is looking at your kid" - drinks for a Casablanca party night.


Rick's toast to Ilsa, "Here's looking at you, kid",  that is used several times in the movie Casablanca , is not in the draft screenplays, but has been attributed to something Bogart said to Bergman as he taught her poker between takes. It was voted the 5th most memorable line in cinema in AFI's 100 Years…100 Movie Quotes by the American Film Institute.

I just got Turner Classic Movie 70th anniversary edition remastered version of Casablanca

I just looked up the beverages that were consumed in the movie to inspire choices for a Casablanca movie viewing Party. In the Movie Casablanca the characters drank  Champagne, Champagne cocktails, wine, cognac, Cointreau, and bourbon. Nonverbally drinking all that alcohol effects the body language of the characters throughout the movie. They are looking off in the distance as they wait for a drink, they look at the drinks they look at each other and then the drinks.  This show the hopelessness and trapped feelings they have  at the onset of war. The alcohol is their escape from reality . Wow! You could get very tipsy if you played  a drinking game had people raise our glasses and drink every time they drink or toast in the movie.

Here is what I found on the internet at http://www.wineintro.com/movies/casablanca/ everything below is from this website.

From the start of the story right through the end, wine and Champagne were key elements..

The movie begins with Rick finishing a glass of Champagne. It's sad that in those days they used the giant-bowl glasses, which aren't very good for saving bubbles or flavor in a bubbly! Ugarte comes over with the two passes, and goes through two glasses of cognac.

Cut over to Yvonne, drowning her sorrows in Rick's private stock of brandy. I've tried to figure out which it is, but the picture is too small for me to see. She's soon escorted home by Sacha.

Now Major Strasser enters, and Captain Renault kindly suggests he try the Veuve Cliquot '26, a very good year for this Champagne. Laszlo and Ilsa come in and order two glasses of Cointreau. Renault seems to be fond of Champagne, because in a few minutes he joins the couple, and orders a bottle of Champagne for them (although, we might note, not the '26). Lazlo heads up to the bar before it arrives, and Renault meets him there and orders a pair of Champagne Cocktails. These people like to drink!

Later that evening, Rick is depressed over seeing Ilsa and goes most of the way through a bottle of bourbon. He starts remembering their days in Paris. This involves they drinking Cordon Rougue Champagne in his apartment, with the famous "Here's looking at you, kid" line. Later in La Belle Aurore, a little club, they're trying to get through the remaining bottles of Cordon Rougue before the Germans get into town. They even threaten to pour it in the garden rather than let the Germans get it. Their final kiss knocks over the glass.

The next morning in the Blue Parrot, Rick and Ferrari share a bourbon together. At Rick's later on, Yvonne and her new German soldier lover order "French 75s" at the bar. Carl, the waiter, then brings "the finest brandy" to the Leuchtags, who are preparing to leave for Lisbon. It appears to be Hennessey Cognac. Rick's drinking brandy when he chats with Annina, and then Laszlo comes in with Ilsa and order two cognacs. When Rick lets Annina win their 'escape fare', Carl pours a brandy for Rick in thanks.

Now we go through perhaps the longest wine-free stretch of the entire movie, until Ilsa gets into Rick's apartment. After the "pause" they are sipping Champagne on the couch. Then Laszlo comes into the bar, and Rick goes down to pour him some brandy

Six lines from Casablanca appeared in the AFI list, the most of any film (Gone with the Wind and The Wizard of Oz tied for second with three apiece). The other five are:

"Louis, I think this is the beginning of a beautiful friendship" – 20th

"Play it, Sam. Play 'As Time Goes By'" – 28th

"Round up the usual suspects" – 32nd

"We'll always have Paris" – 43rd

"Of all the gin joints in all the towns in all

One of the lines most closely associated with the film — "Play it again, Sam" — is a misquotation.[120][121] When Ilsa first enters the Café Americain, she spots Sam and asks him to "Play it once, Sam, for old times' sake." After he feigns ignorance, she responds, "Play it, Sam. Play 'As Time Goes By'." Later that night, alone with Sam, Rick says, "You played it for her, you can play it for me," and "If she can stand it, I can! Play it!"

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Life Lesson Quote for April 13, 2012

HOWEVER GOOD OR BAD A SITUATION IS, IT WILL CHANGE.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.