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Cuddling is Key to a Committed and Loving Relationship, Research on Touch

Cuddling is Key to a Committed and Loving Relationship, Research on Touch

This is what I have been saying for years in my workshops on body language!

Science: Cuddling is key to a committed and loving relationship

Hand-holding works pretty good, too

By Chris Gayomali | November 27, 2013

Sex, hugs, cuddling, hand-holding, and even innocent little kisses before you dash out the door to work every morning — all of them pay dividends toward a long and loving relationship. And now we have the science to back it up.
According to a new study, the culprit is our old friend oxytocin, a.k.a. the "love hormone." Its levels shoot up whenever we make physical contact with someone important to us.
It's widely understood that its reward system plays a crucial role in deepening the bond between two lovers. Past studies have suggested that it may help keep men from cheating, while others point to its dark side, which can make an abrupt breakup feel physiologically devastating.
Humans and many mammals are monogamous creatures (at least most of the time). What makes us go out of our way to lock ourselves into a committed relationship is still largely a mystery, suggesting there's some sort of biological advantage. "Monogamy is actually quite costly for humans, so there must be some form of benefit," said Rene Hurlemann, a psychiatrist at the University of Bonn in Germany who led the most recent study. "We'd expect humans, especially males, would disseminate their genes."
So what's inspiring warm-blooded males to stay loyal?
Researchers, publishing their findings in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences, discovered that regular jolts of oxytocin make our partners more attractive, to us and only us.

Hurlemann and his colleagues took 20 men who were in long-term and passionate romantic relationships with women, hooked them up to functional magnetic resonance imaging scanners, and showed them photos of their loved ones interspersed with images of an unfamiliar but equally comely stranger, or a house. Some men were spritzed with oxytocin, others with a placebo. To test whether oxytocin varied only with familiarity, they substituted highly familiar faces for the house images. Afterward, the men filled out the Passionate Love Scale questionnaire, which showed that their inner Romeo prevailed over their inner Lothario. They were fixated on their current romantic partner. [Los Angeles Times]

Makes sense. A "steady diet" of oxytocin helps trigger the release of dopamine, which means we're almost literally addicted to the person we're in love with. Cuddling is a drug, so to speak.
Such findings give us a better understanding of how some couples manage to make it for the long haul, and explains why physical support is tied so intrinsically with our emotional health. Take our friends John and Ann Betar, who eloped on Nov. 25, 1932, and, in addition to being completely adorable and amazing, are still madly in love with one another. What's their secret after 81 years of marriage?
"We always hold hands," said John.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

SHORT STATEMENT NECKLACES INSTEAD OF LONG ONES. A chunky collarbone necklace lights up your complexion and brings sparkle back to your eyes- especially in mixes of pearls, beads and stones that reflect light. A bib that starts at the collarbone and goes to mid-chest can even disguise sun-damage and

crepe-y skin. If you have a big or saggy chest, a short chunky necklace (+ a good bra ) can refocus attention up and away. Longer necklaces that dangle over the cliff of your boobs are no help- even your mother’s pearls or a “find” you brought back from Thailand. Keep amulets and charms no longer than mid-chest and loop those long necklaces lariat style like you do with long scarves ( check that Diana Vreeland photo for a how-to).

No, de-aging jewelry is not a pierced belly button ring or a nose stud. That looks like you’re trying too hard. It’s certainly not a watch since everyone n0w checks the time on their phone. Your everyday jewelry at 50 is probably a mash-up of real and fake selected by habit, emotional memories or a random just-throw-it-on attitude. Time for a rethink. I know you’re picky about everything from wrinkle cream to heels that won’t kill your feet so why not apply that gutsy attitude to your jewelry. Nothing personalizes or de-ages a wardrobe faster than jewelry. Three big swaps to make now:

No, de-aging jewelry is not a pierced belly button ring or a nose stud. That looks like you’re trying too hard. It’s certainly not a watch since everyone n0w checks the time on their phone. Your everyday jewelry at 50 is probably a mash-up of real and fake selected by habit, emotional memories or a random just-throw-it-on attitude. Time for a rethink. I know you’re picky about everything from wrinkle cream to heels that won’t kill your feet so why not apply that gutsy attitude to your jewelry. Nothing personalizes or de-ages a wardrobe faster than jewelry. Three big swaps to make now:

SHORT STATEMENT NECKLACES INSTEAD OF LONG ONES. A chunky collarbone necklace lights up your complexion and brings sparkle back to your eyes- especially in mixes of pearls, beads and stones that reflect light. A bib that starts at the collarbone and goes to mid-chest can even disguise sun-damage and

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elongated- a dangerous and aging look especially when combined with droopy lobes ( these noses, lobes keep growing forever ! ). Get your piercings sewn up by a cosmetic surgeon and re-pierce when all is healed. Even Oprah got her ears pierced ( first time) at 50 so it’s not a big deal. Studs are light and are a hot trend again- everyone from Tory Burch to Marc Jacobs are doing them but you can find low-cost ones for under $20 everywhere. Sparkly slim hoops are another option that looks youthful especially if your hair is long, you smooth it behind your ears or wear a ponytail.
STACKED BRACELETS AND RINGS INSTEAD OF SINGLES. Stacks of matching, similar or totally mis-matched rings and bracelets add personality and a contemporary look to your hands and wrists.

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They make trendy polish look cooler than ever and power up tees, fitted sweaters and 3/4 sleeve jackets. Wear stacked bracelets on both wrists for major impact. Don’t hesitate to mix your “good” bangles with rubber “cause” bracelets, chains with jewel-studded cuffs- the combo brings out your individuality and charisma even if you’re wearing a basic black tee and cropped pants. When it comes to rings, anything goes. Add skinny bands plain or fancy to your engagement, wedding and eternity bands for an update. Slip major cocktail rings on any finger you like ( see Oprah’s photo above for glam inspiration). I love baublebar.com for inexpensive finds and sophisticated rings from Kenneth Jay Lane and Oscar de la Renta . Check out these: Kenneth Jay Lane enameled 18 -karat gold and cubic zirconia ring ( $120, net-a-porter.com) and Oscar de la Renta two cabochon ring, Amazoni-rose ( $ 195, saksfifthavenue.com).
Use it or lose it goes for jewelry too !
For more de-aging tips and wardrobe revitalizing tricks check my new fashion book The Wardrobe Wakeup, Your Guide to Looking Fabulous at Any Age by Lois Joy Johnson ( $ 13.88, amazon.com).
Photo credits :
Oprah Winfrey : fashionista.com
Diana Vreeland: dianavreeland.com
Vera Wang : stylebistro.com
Jodie Foster : tvguide.com
Kenneth Jay Lane ring : saksfifthavenue.com

SHORT STATEMENT NECKLACES INSTEAD OF LONG ONES. A chunky collarbone necklace lights up your complexion and brings sparkle back to your eyes- especially in mixes of pearls, beads and stones that reflect light. A bib that starts at the collarbone and goes to mid-chest can even disguise sun-damage and

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Parents Using More Nonverbal Cues, Gestures and other Body language Can Improve Their Child's Vocabulary

Parents Using More Nonverbal Cues, Gestures and other Body language Can Improve Their Child's Vocabulary

Meaningful gestures and glances may help children learn more words, independent of how much parents talk to them

The more you gesture and use nonverbal signals to communicate with your child the bigger their vocabulary. I love to watch my niece and her husband play and communicate with their daughter AVA, They make funny faces and use gestures like a greatest mimes ever, but they do it while they speak to baby AVA. They raise their arms in the air and bring them down as they sing the theme song to Sponge Bob Square Pants, acting out each line of the lyrics. According the to latest research that should improve their child ability to understand language and to increase her vocabulary. Here is the research study I read recently in one of my favorite monthly magazines Scientific American Mind.

Oct 17, 2013 |By Janelle Weaver

Children with a large vocabulary experience more success at school and in the workplace. How much parents talk to their children plays a major role, but new research shows that it is not just the quantity but also the quality of parental input that matters. Helpful gestures and meaningful glances may allow kids to grasp concepts more easily than they otherwise would.

In a study published in June in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences USA, Erica Cartmill of the University of Chicago and her collaborators videotaped parents in their homes as they read books and played games with their 14- or 18-month-old children. The researchers created hundreds of 40-second muted video clips of these interactions. Another set of study participants watched the videos and used clues from the scenes to guess which nouns the parents were saying at various points in the sequences. The researchers used the accuracy of these guesses to rate how well a parent used nonverbal cues, such as gesturing toward and looking at objects, to clarify a word's meaning.

Cartmill and her team found that the quality of parents' nonverbal signaling predicted the size of their children's vocabulary three years later. Surprisingly, socioeconomic status did not play a role in the quality of the parents' nonverbal signaling. This result suggests that the well-known differences in children's vocabulary size across income levels are likely the result of how much parents talk to their children, which is known to differ by income, rather than how much nonverbal help they offer during those interactions.

This article was originally published with the title "Nonverbal Cues Could Boost Kids' Vocabulary."

4 Jewelry Tips to Make You Look Younger

No, de-aging jewelry is not a pierced belly button ring or a nose stud. That looks like you’re trying too hard. It’s certainly not a watch since everyone now checks the time on their phone. Your everyday jewelry at 50 is probably a mash-up of real and fake selected by habit, emotional memories or a random just-throw-it-on attitude. Time for a rethink. I know you’re picky about everything from wrinkle cream to heels that won’t kill your feet so why not apply that gutsy attitude to your jewelry. Nothing personalizes or de-ages a wardrobe faster than jewelry. Three big swaps to make now:

elongated- a dangerous and aging look especially when combined with droopy lobes ( Did you know that your earlobes and noses keep growing forever? As you get older they just get bigger! ). Get your piercings sewn up by a cosmetic surgeon and re-pierce when all is healed. Even Oprah got her ears pierced ( first time) at 50 so it’s not a big deal. Studs are light and are a hot trend again- everyone from Tory Burch to Marc Jacobs are doing them but you can find low-cost ones for under $20 everywhere. Sparkly slim hoops are another option that looks youthful especially if your hair is long, you smooth it behind your ears or wear a ponytail.

STACKED BRACELETS AND RINGS INSTEAD OF SINGLES. Stacks of matching, similar or totally mis-matched rings and bracelets add personality and a contemporary look to your hands and wrists. They make trendy polish look cooler than ever and power up tees, fitted sweaters and 3/4 sleeve jackets. Wear stacked bracelets on both wrists for major impact. Don’t hesitate to mix your “good” bangles with rubber “cause” bracelets, chains with jewel-studded cuffs- the combo brings out your individuality and charisma even if you’re wearing a basic black tee and cropped pants. When it comes to rings, anything goes. Add skinny bands plain or fancy to your engagement, wedding and eternity bands for an update. Slip major cocktail rings on any finger you like ( see Oprah’s photo above for glam inspiration). I love baublebar.com for inexpensive finds and sophisticated rings from Kenneth Jay Lane and Oscar de la Renta . Check out these: Kenneth Jay Lane enameled 18 -karat gold and cubic zirconia ring ( $120, net-a-porter.com) and Oscar de la Renta two cabochon ring, Amazoni-rose ( $ 195, saksfifthavenue.com).
Use it or lose it goes for jewelry too !
For more de-aging tips and wardrobe revitalizing tricks check my new fashion book The Wardrobe Wakeup, Your Guide to Looking Fabulous at Any Age by Lois Joy Johnson ( $ 13.88, amazon.com).
Photo credits :
Oprah Winfrey : fashionista.com
Diana Vreeland: dianavreeland.com
Vera Wang : stylebistro.com
Jodie Foster : tvguide.com
Kenneth Jay Lane ring : saksfifthavenue.com

Business First Impression Consulting Services

Please let us know, if you or your employees would like to receive one-on-one coaching from Patti. Patti also offers customized training in body language, first impressions, customer service, sales, and or presentation skills. She also offers a comprehensive consulting evaluation of your businesses’ first impression including your employee’s nonverbal behavior.

Business First Impression Consulting Services
·         Do you want to know what kind of first impression your business gives to your customers/clients?
·         Would it be helpful to have a fresh pair of eyes and the keen observations skills of a body language and first impression consultant look at your business?
·         When someone calls in or walks into your business how do they feel and what do they think?
·         Would it be helpful to know what you’re doing well and what and how to improve your customer service and first impression interactions?
·         Patti works with large and small businesses, hospitals, hotels and restaurants to improve their businesses.
·         There are several types 0f consulting available.
·         Observation and one-on-one coaching on you and your communication skills.
·         Observation and data collection of your business or businesses.
·         One-on-one feedback on your business.
·         Recommendations for training and changes.
·         Design for employee training.
·         Deliver of employee training.

You may be familiar with secret shoppers or had someone shadow your sales staff or listen in on your front desk or customer service representatives. Patti does all this and more and offers an in-depth evaluation of all your businesses first contacts. She follows up with one-on-one coaching, a log of all the data she taken about your business and evaluation and recommendation sheet and can also offer customized training based on her observations and data collection.

If you would like to learn more specifics about Business First Impression Consulting information, please feel free to call Patti or visit her website at www.pattiwood.net.

How to use Charisma to persuade and hold attention. A Walt Disney Body Language Trick

Walt Disney was “the great convincer” in the words of his marketing director, Card Walker. He liked to exercise his famous eye-lock technique in which he caught his victim’s face and held it tight. If he or she turned away, Disney would say, “What’s the matter, aren’t you interested.” Pamela (Author of Mary Poppins) was his match. She called him “Mr. Disney” and did not turn away during their long talk in Burbank that April working on Mary Poppins. This is a quote from a book I just finished reading “Mary Poppins, She Wrote –the life of P.L. Travers” by Valerie Lawson. Interesting as I say in my workshops on body language laser focus eye contact is a body language technique used by highly charismatic people.

What is the worst thing that ever happened in your life that led to one of the best things that happened in your life?

My answer to a great conversation starting question.

A media source asked me what was the best personal and business thing I learned from the worst thing I experienced in my life. Here is the answer.

Worst thing. When I was 28 I was teaching body language at Florida State, had a business as a professional speaker and working full time on my Doctorate when my best friend, my twin soul, Roy Moyer told me he was dying from AIDS. We were both devastated.

Roy who had so much to give was dying very slowly and painfully and I wanted to move from my home in Tallahassee Florida to Atlanta to be with him.

I sold almost everything I owned down to the bare walls and moved to a little fourth floor walkup and spent a little less than a year with him before he died.

It was horrible and humbling but I learned so much about love and friendship. One of the best things I learned is to try to say and show my friends and family that I care for them.

I also learned things that served me well in my business specifically about first impressions that led to me writing a book. That learning included time I spent in hospitals with Roy. I write and speak on body language, first impressions and patient care. I also went from owning a business to working as a temp secretary that year and learned a lot about how offices work, specifically the front desk and how unsupportive women can be to other women at lower levels which has led to my speaking on first impressions as well as women and leadership.

The best business thing that happened is that I moved to Atlanta and my business took off.

Roy was an amazing person and we had always been there for each other but when you have so little time you learn that each conversation is gift.

The best thing I learned or more correctly must continue to learn is that I need to be present with those you love.

Kate Gosselin, Loving Mother or Monster?

Patti analyzed the body language of Kate as her daughters, Mady and Cara, were being interviewed on the Today Show on Jan. 16th by Savannah Guthrie. Cara, when asked a question by Savannah, looked to her controlling mother for answers in the upper picture. Notice Kate's smile has tightness and is not an honest smile. Also, in the lower picture, when her daughters would not say what Kate wanted them to say, she snapped and stated, "This is the most wordless I've heard them all morning." Kate was forced to do the talking for the girls.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Lady Gaga and Taylor Kinney - What does their body language say about them as a couple?

What is fascinating is how her style, specifically her clothing and shoes, are hindering her connection to Taylor. The high heels and high split in the dress keeps her from walking closer and makes him have to slow down to her speed. The low-cut dress makes her posture pull back and makes her choose to put her arm on her hip oddly to look bold and powerful. Her dress seems a metaphor of her relationship, Split in two. You see half of her is dressed conservatively the other half is bare and bold. Half of her is in the relationship; the other half wants to be the Diva.

He is also split in his emotions. See how half his bulk and weight is held back to be with her. Very interesting!

They are split, but the handhold even with the pull of the bodies in two different directions is strong and interlocking.

I give them a 3 on the Life & Style True Love Rating Scale.

Body Language Analysis of Woody Allen in Response to Sexual Abuse of Dylan Farrow

What does a guilty person look like and what does and innocent person look like?

Dylan Farrow, adopted daughter of Mia Farrow and Woody Allen, has accused Allen of sexual abuse when she was a child. Last night on Dr. Drew I talked about Woody Allen’s body language in his first media response to the allegation in his interview with CBS “60 Minutes” in 1992.

Allen is a well-documented recluse and granted this rare interview in his home the first time he was accused of sexually molesting Dylan Farrow. Here is the link to the key 11 minutes in the interview that I analyzed.

http://tinyurl.com/pktmnrq

Over the years I have read his books, biographies of Allen, taken a Film class on his movies and then for the first time I read about the allegations in a recent Vanity Fair piece. Here are my rough notes in preparation for the interview. Again let me repeat these are rough notes, not an article so the writing and thoughts are rough.

Remember Woody Allen is a brilliant actor, writer and comedian. And he uses his skills in the interview that he gave in his home.

First he avoids the seriousness of the accusation calling it a “NON Event.” He does not say he didn’t do anything, that it didn’t happen nor does he say that he didn’t harm his child. That is unusual.

As he is being asked if he took his daughter into the attic and touched herm he does not look horrified at what is said, in fact, he poses and smiles.

When asked if there was any truth to the allegations, he does not say no... he does not shake his head no... he does not give any definitive emotional limbic brain response.

Instead he gives six anxiety cues he retreats going back, closes his eyes, and then looks down, does a seat adjustment then another retreat signal, then he puts his hand over his mouth and coughs as he says, “Be logical about this.” Again he does not look the interviewer in the eye and say, “NO I didn’t do this.”

NO, he uses humor to counteract and his communication becomes smoother less halting and makes a few anxiety cues. He actually begins to enjoy the interview as he spends most of it making Mia seem like she is crazy for being upset about his affair with Soon-Yi. He goes into a rather scripted comedy routine as he bashes her.

Notice how he does falter and have trouble with words “daughter” and explaining what he did and didn’t do with Soon-Yi.

It is very interesting how he spends his time in this long interview. People who are guilty of something want to avoid responding to the accusations and change the subject. Innocent people want to spend any time saying and showing they are innocent. Innocent people want to repeat their innocence over and over again till they feel the interviewer believes them. They don’t want the subject changed till that is clear.

If an innocent person has been wrongfully accused they may be mad at their accuser, but they don’t have to use humor to attack them. They may be mad at their accuser, but they do not do what Woody Allen did. They are not comfortable during the interview nor do they smile and use humor to attack their accuser.

This is also significant - Notice he does not show concern for Dylan or any of the other children for whom he acted as a father. Innocent people whose children have been harmed are concerned with the victim. If Woody Allen is innocent would he not be concerned that his adopted daughter is as he says, “been coached” by Mia to make these accusations?

Also notice how much pleasure he gets in saying how he hired another actress to replace Mia. If you read the Vanity Fair piece you realize Mia was paid minimally for all her parts in his movies and he at this time controlled her entire income and career. To go up against him and make these accusations would have been very frightening.

This was a media interview controlled by Allen, not an interrogation. I believe he is guilty of something, perhaps concerning Soon-Yi, but he is not asked enough interrogative questions concerning the molestation charges to have a firm conclusion on that event.

How to Get Media Interviews and Press for Your Business.

Tips from My Chapter of the NSA book PAID TO SPEAK

Since 2001, I have given an average of two national media interviews a week to promote my business, interviews with everyone from Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, Fox News and hundreds more.

Media sources are looking for experts they want -

· Someone who can relate his or her topic to current events, hot companies and products that are in the headlines and high in people’s Google searches. And someone who can relate their stories to Politicians, business leaders, Fortune 500 companies, famous people, who are currently in the media spotlight. You also need to know on any given day what other experts in your field are saying about your subject expertise.

· Someone who responds immediately. Have a smart phone and check it often. If you get a call and I have lost big opportunities because I didn't check my emails or texts for just a few hours.

· They need you to be ready NOW! The media are extremely hard working people, their deadlines are tremendously tight and they are under enormous pressure to find a good source quickly. Print and online media typically needs an immediate answer and broadcast media typically gives you a few hours’ notice before your interview.

Every day people you meet will tell you what your company represents to them, potential media pitch points you can put in press releases and how to prepare for your media interviews. You just need to listen. If you speak to someone and they ask you a question, write it down, and research the correct answer and craft your response and have it ready for the media. If you are at a networking event and someone makes a comment about your topic, product or company that is incorrect write down their statement later and ask yourself how you could state the information correctly or put their statement in the form of a question as if a media person asked it. For example, my cousin is an expert on coal mining and is the general counsel of the coal mining industry. He often has people share with him how horrible coal mining is for the environment. He keeps notes on all the statements as well as the questions he is asked and he makes sure he and anyone else that speaks and does media for his company has the latest research findings on coal mining’s effect on the environment, what the industry does to positively affect the environment as well as how the industry effects the costs of energy and builds jobs and is specific positive economic impact. It is clear when he talks he is the expert. He knows what he is talking about and he speaks passionately about it.

Why You Should Brag

My friend Sue and I have known each other since grad school and have always supported each other’s successes. She is a wonderful, talented author and beloved English professor and I am a body language expert and professional speaker. Sue arranged for me to speak to the student body of her University.

The day of my speech we went over my intro and I showed her how to turn on my 40 sec intro video with snippets of newscasters and TV show hosts introducing me on their show. We got to the room early and I put little bios and business cards on all the seats in the auditorium. As professors and students came in I introduced myself, “Hello my name is Patti I am your speaker today.” I gave my speech and then spent another half hour with students gathered around me asking questions.

All these were things that I did for every speech, but my friend said, “Patti, watching you do those things changed everything I thought about my career.” At first I thought, “Goodness, Patti is going over the top with all this bragging about herself in the intros and then I noticed how people responded to you even before you started speaking. She said I have watched 100’s of speakers in that same Venue but they were treating you with honor and respect that I have never seen given before. During your video intro, that I had thought originally was too much, I could see them get excited and lean forward in their seats. During your speech you gave brief, specific examples of how you used your body language expertise to solve a client’s problems and used it to analyze the president for the Today Show or CNN. Each example illustrated a learning point, and gave you an increased level of credibility with the audience. But here is the funny thing, I have had the opportunity my entire career to promote myself the way you did and I have never done it because I thought I was bragging!

I told her she was a remarkable author and speaker and should own it and start self-promoting because men do so all the time! I shared that for years I wanted to be a successful speaker but I never bragged and was too shy. I worked hard, but I’m not in the big leagues. I looked around and realized that the male speakers would do it. I noticed when I spoke the men would actually stand around before and after meetings and brag about the terrific job they did on a project, the great deal that they just made or the golf game or their new car. For men it is a way of showing their colleagues what they can do so that their peers feel confident in recommending them for projects, promotions and jobs. It is an effective way to communicate.

Sue quickly started using the same self-promotion techniques. Doing this, and her hard work, led her to earn a tenured position and the raise she had long wanted and deserved.

Body Language Read of Bradley and Suki

As Bradley Cooper, 39, and girlfriend, Suki Waterhouse, 22, strolled around Park City, Utah, Patti says there seems to be a slight discord between the two. Bradley is in better spirits than Suki is. Bradley is proudly holding up his shoulders and giving a slight smile but Suki is showing signs of tension in her face but she is holding onto Bradley's hand which shows genuine affection.
Patti gives this couple a 3 on the Life & Style True Love Scale!

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

A Couple in Sync!

Patti said that the excited parents-to-be Emily Blunt, 30, and John Krasinski, 34, are clearly in sync. They both have a relaxed smile and mutual gaze and their stride is long and easygoing as they walk. John is also already acting paternal toward their unborn baby girl. He is protectively walking a little bit ahead of Emily.
Patti gives this couple a 5 on the Life & Style True Love Scale.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language of Emma Roberts and Evan Peters

Although Emma Roberts, 22, and Evan Peters, 26, are now engaged, the couple don't always look so lovey-dovey even when they are on a sweet ice cream date. Patti observes that Emma's lips and cheeks are filled with tension and she is also not leaning into his body. Evan is not pulling her in, he's touching Emma in a very tentative way.

Patti gives this couple a 2 on the Life & Style True Love Rating scale!

Body Language of NFL Quarterbacks Cam Newton and Robert Griffin

The body language of NFL quarterbacks Cam Newton and Robert Griffin has changed significantly in their media appearances in the last year and The Washington Post asked me to analyze the specific differences and what they reflected. I have notes and links to two of the videos I watched on my blog ( Rough notes and links to videos) and there is a link to Washington Post article below (my quotes are at the bottom. to analyze the shifts in the confidence level of two star NFL football quarterbacks through their nonverbal communication during media appearances.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/sports/redskins/cam-newton-robert-griffin-iii-both-suffered-year-two-slumps--and-newton-rebounded/2013/12/20/e707ed7c-698f-11e3-8b5b-a77187b716a3_story.html

Patti Wood studies body language, and she was asked this past week to analyze videos from Newton’s and Griffin’s news conferences, one each from 2012 and ’13. In studying Newton’s podium sessions last season, she sees a man unsure of himself, whose expressions show sadness and defeat, whose habit of looking downward and sagging shoulders convey distrust in himself and his abilities — hardly the preferred message from a leader of men.

“He mumbles out some of the words as if they tasted bad,” says Wood, author of “SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language & Charisma.” She also noticed changes in Griffin from December 2012 to December 2013: Gone was the joyful, energetic Redskins rookie; in his place, she says, was a man whose posture and strained voice show defeat and frustration.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Iw0a60AL7I

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Neutron Dance

Fred Astaire and Steve Martin dancing to the Neutron dance in the same video. If you’re a fan on musicals and dance numbers you will enjoy this video of dance numbers edited together so all your favorite dancers and comedians who have danced in movies groove together. I grew up watching old movies of Ginger Rodgers glide across the floor in the arms of Fred Astaire and of course with Flash dance and Footloose. There is also Jim Carey and Jack Black and other fun favs cutting a rug. See if you can name all the movies in the video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y9SbtnSL5E8

What Your Gum Chewing Habits Say About Your Personality

My work as the spokesperson for Wrigleys spearmint gum

If you are a bubble blower who chews gum to tide you over between meals and use gum to freshen your breath or when you are bored, and when you’re not blowing bubbles your chewing style is steady and methodical then you are a helper.

If you chew gum because you enjoy the taste and you chew with gusto, snapping and cracking, in the same animated and energetic way you live your life and use it to ease your tension and reduce your stress and chewing just makes you happy you are a persuader.

If you rarely chew gum, except perhaps to stave off hunger or when you are working and or concentrating on a project and you chew silently and discretely in a reserved and conservative manner then you are an analyzer.

If you chew your gum slowly with the same forceful and conquering “I can do it“ style that you live your life, and you chew gum to freshen your breath, reduce stress in your busy schedule and keep you going when you are on overwhelm then you are a doer.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impression, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.