Check out this cool article on how to appear more confident with these simple body language tricks!
http://www.cnbc.com/2016/09/14/7-body-language-tricks-to-exude-confidence.html?slide=8
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
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7 Body Language Tricks to Exude Confidence
Check out this cool article on how to appear more confident with these simple body language tricks!
http://www.cnbc.com/2016/09/14/7-body-language-tricks-to-exude-confidence.html?slide=8
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
http://www.cnbc.com/2016/09/14/7-body-language-tricks-to-exude-confidence.html?slide=8
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Responding to Inapropiate Touch, Your fitness/yoga instructor likes to get a little too handsy /touchy-feely. How to handle it without risking to lose your membership or make uncomfortable other attendees?
- Responding to Inapropiate Touch, Your fitness/yoga instructor likes to get a little too handsy /touchy-feely. How to handle it without risking to lose your membership or make uncomfortable other attendees?
http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-social-graces-handsy-instructor-0907-20160907-story.html
Below that are my more detailed comments.
There is vast scientific knowledge
and data from researchers around the world that proves that positive touch
makes us better communicators, better friends, and better people. Human Touch
is vital to our physical and emotional development and to our overall sense of health
and well-being. But, touch that we don’t want, touch that makes us
uncomfortable even it its well-intentioned is another thing all together. How
do we say, “Stop!” to something others may see as such a warm and wonderful
thing? By saying simply what’s true for you and requesting what you would like
and ideally getting agreement that the toucher understands. “I notice that you
are a very touchy huggy person” “I am not that way, I am uncomfortable with
that, you know everyone is different. So could you please honor my need for
space?” (Making eye contact and getting nonverbal and or verbal agreement.”
Then if you wish say. “I appreciate it.” I suggest a question and a response
from the person to act a promise/contract. This is a soft request. Use a clear even
strong tone. Not accusatory but not soft and pleading. If someone has been inappropriate or creepy I
would suggest a stronger message and that you do this in the presence of others
who know what has happened and have your back. Years of research on touch and
giving workshops on sexual harassment have taught me that many people don’t
know that their touch bothers others people, they just don’t get it. And when
it is made clear they stop. Oddly, the true bully harassers often stop too if
there told and or if they are given clear consequences.. Women, who research
shows understand nonverbal communication more effetely than men think that
their nonverbal message of discomfort should be enough. Sometimes, they may
think a tight smile or an awkward laugh or freezing in place or pulling away
from touch is enough, But, not everybody can read the signals clearly. Women sometimes, want to much to being nice.
They don’t want anyone to be uncomfortable, even the very person that doesn’t
seem to be seeing their discomfort the person who is not sensitive to their
feelings. So you need to bring the message from the complex emotional nonverbal
world to clear logical neocortex words and say it out loud and clear. “Stop!”
(By the way you gym membership is
not as important as your personal safety and comfort and if you saying what you
want and need to feel safe bothers other people, they are not the people you
should be around.”
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Responding to Inapropiate Touch, Your fitness/yoga instructor likes to get a little too handsy /touchy-feely. How to handle it without risking to lose your membership or make uncomfortable other attendees?
- Responding to Inapropiate Touch, Your fitness/yoga instructor likes to get a little too handsy /touchy-feely. How to handle it without risking to lose your membership or make uncomfortable other attendees?
http://www.chicagotribune.com/lifestyles/sc-social-graces-handsy-instructor-0907-20160907-story.html
Below that are my more detailed comments.
There is vast scientific knowledge
and data from researchers around the world that proves that positive touch
makes us better communicators, better friends, and better people. Human Touch
is vital to our physical and emotional development and to our overall sense of health
and well-being. But, touch that we don’t want, touch that makes us
uncomfortable even it its well-intentioned is another thing all together. How
do we say, “Stop!” to something others may see as such a warm and wonderful
thing? By saying simply what’s true for you and requesting what you would like
and ideally getting agreement that the toucher understands. “I notice that you
are a very touchy huggy person” “I am not that way, I am uncomfortable with
that, you know everyone is different. So could you please honor my need for
space?” (Making eye contact and getting nonverbal and or verbal agreement.”
Then if you wish say. “I appreciate it.” I suggest a question and a response
from the person to act a promise/contract. This is a soft request. Use a clear even
strong tone. Not accusatory but not soft and pleading. If someone has been inappropriate or creepy I
would suggest a stronger message and that you do this in the presence of others
who know what has happened and have your back. Years of research on touch and
giving workshops on sexual harassment have taught me that many people don’t
know that their touch bothers others people, they just don’t get it. And when
it is made clear they stop. Oddly, the true bully harassers often stop too if
there told and or if they are given clear consequences.. Women, who research
shows understand nonverbal communication more effetely than men think that
their nonverbal message of discomfort should be enough. Sometimes, they may
think a tight smile or an awkward laugh or freezing in place or pulling away
from touch is enough, But, not everybody can read the signals clearly. Women sometimes, want to much to being nice.
They don’t want anyone to be uncomfortable, even the very person that doesn’t
seem to be seeing their discomfort the person who is not sensitive to their
feelings. So you need to bring the message from the complex emotional nonverbal
world to clear logical neocortex words and say it out loud and clear. “Stop!”
(By the way you gym membership is
not as important as your personal safety and comfort and if you saying what you
want and need to feel safe bothers other people, they are not the people you
should be around.”
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
The "Not Face" What is the face that shows you don't want to do something.
So how often do you use a "Not Face?"
This is my year of saying "Yes!" So I think I also need to be aware of not giving a "Not Face."
The 'Not Face' is a universal part of language, study suggests: Computer analysis shows how this...
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releas…/2016/…/160328084915.htm
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
This is my year of saying "Yes!" So I think I also need to be aware of not giving a "Not Face."
The 'Not Face' is a universal part of language, study suggests: Computer analysis shows how this...
Researchers have identified a single, universal facial expression that is interpreted across many cultures as the embodiment of negative emotion. The look proved…
www.sciencedaily.com
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
The "Not Face"
So how often do you use a "Not Face?"
This is my year of saying "Yes!" So I think I also need to be aware of not giving a "Not Face."
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releas…/2016/…/160328084915.htm
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
This is my year of saying "Yes!" So I think I also need to be aware of not giving a "Not Face."
Researchers have identified a single, universal facial expression that is interpreted across many cultures as the embodiment of negative emotion. The look proved…
www.sciencedaily.com
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Rihanna and Drake’s body language prove they have mutual feelings for each other, expert says: ‘He is just absolutely smitten’
Rihanna and Drake’s
body language prove they have mutual feelings for each other, expert says: ‘He
is just absolutely smitten’
Sure Drake could have kissed Rihanna better, but there's
no denying they've found love.
The rapper's awkward smooch with the "Kiss It Better" singer at
Sunday night’s VMAs left some fans confused about their relationship status
after he declared his love for her. But their mutual feelings for each other are in plain view —
according to a body language expert.
"He is just
absolutely smitten. He's like a little boy," said Patti Wood, an Atlanta-based
specialist who has authored multiple books on the subject.
Wood said Drake's
infatuation with the 28-year-old star was evident not only in the way he swayed
back and forth during the speech — a clear sign of light nervousness — but also
in how he delivered it.
"It was so
adorable. He had really practiced that speech," Wood said. "It wasn't
just words to him. He had a vocal emphasis on certain words, he knew when to
pause, so what he was saying was meaningful to him."
"There was
vocal variation that showed he's putting his emotions and his meaning it,"
she continued, adding that Drake also kept his eyes on RiRi throughout to prove
he meant business. "He really felt what he was saying."
The most shocking
moment of Drake's four minute speech came near the end, when he professed,
"She’s someone I’ve been in love with since I was 22 years old."
And Rihanna subconsciously reciprocated those feelings,
Wood notes.
"Her
shoulders rise, and she laughs, and there's a big smile on her face as he says
it," she said. "That's a very nice welcoming of it, kind of the joy
of it."
Rihanna served up
several particularly telling signs that indicated she was swooning after
Drake's speech, as she looked back at him multiple times and raised up her
chest after he handed her the award and faded into the background.
"That's
happiness," Wood said of Rihanna's body movements. "That up motion of
her chest and the look back is happiness. That affirms … (her prior behavior)
was nervousness and anxiousness. She accepted what he said."
Drake and Rihanna have been linked together for months,
but neither had commented on the swirling speculation before the rapper's
apparent admission of love on Sunday.
Hours after the award show, he shared an Instagram selfie
of him kissing Rihanna on the head, once again celebrating the pop star for
taking home the Video Vanguard honors.
So forget about the awkward kiss, maybe Rihanna just
didn't want to ruin her makeup. Or perhaps she hates a P.D.A.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
What I have learned when loved ones were seriously ill and or dying. Advice
What I have
learned when loved ones where seriously ill and or dying. Advice
My best friend my twin soul friend died when he was 29.
Nine other friends died the same year.
No one wants to gain experience in dealing with a sick and
or terminally ill loved one. But, if you go
through that very painful and intimate experience you do
learn ways of coping. Here is what I learned about myself when Shane was
shot, Roy and other friends of mine where dying and Dominic had a stroke.
1.
When you are dealing with your grief that a loved
one is dying you have to remember every single day when all
you want to do is weep and stay under the covers, that you are losing one person
but, the person who is dying is losing everyone they know, their home, everything
object, every beautiful bit of their natural world and their own life. Their
grief is huge.
2.
When people are sick you have to remember every
day that they're in pain. So many of their verbal and nonverbal messages are to
say to you and the world, “I hurt!” “I am in pain.” You need to communicate
that you see, hear and feel their pain.” They are often unable to see feel and
hear your pain, because their message is so overwhelming. I know I have tried
out for the role more than once, but Martyrs are characters in books and
movies, and kind of hard to be in real life. If you feel unheard, and it’s effecting your ability
to be a helpmate, communicate! A possible message. So how about, “I know you are in great pain, I
am in pain too and I know you care so please let me share my pain with you as
well so we stay close.” Or “I find that I am stuffing my pain, to not burden
you with it, but it is making me feel inauthentic with you when I want to us to
stay our real loving selves so can I share a little bit of my pain with you?”
3.
Because they are in pain, they may be mad at
God, the world and you. They may be mean, they may get mad, they may even be
abusive. Don't take it personally. Don't think it reflects what they truly feel
about you. Don't think it's a reflection of their lack of love. They are raging against
their illness and you just happened to be the closest person to them so you get
the rage.
Roy would say to me, “Patti, you
are the only one I can really get mad at, because I know that you love me. I know
that you know my soul and no matter what I do you will keep on loving me
anyway.” But, don't be afraid to call them on their stuff. Just because they're sick and dying doesn't
mean that they can be cruel.
4.
Embrace laughter embrace humor, embrace
silliness. Embrace funny moments, embrace the joys of life and the absurdity of
death and dying. When my best friend Roy was dying we laughed so very much.
When he was hooked up to an IV that was his sole means of sustenance the last
eight months of his life we had so many jokes about it. We used humor “tenderize”
the pain. We had jokes about the Wendy's drive-through, Big Mac's, ice cream and
steaks and fries coming in through the IV. Both of us where dealing with a very
real reality that he would never taste and savor real food again before he died,
but he could still laugh. Our laughter confirmed the fact that even as he was
dying he was still living.
Illness and dying create a
unique intimacy between you and your loved one, take the gifts of that intimacy
and may you be supported and know that you are loved.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Sofia Richie and Justin Bieber's Body Language as New Couple.
Sofia Richie and Justin Bieber's Body Language as New Couple.
Did this read of Justin and Sofia on my way into Boston to speak.
Here's the link:
Patti Wood,- The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
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