Trump's Body Language, the National Anthem.

I am doing body language reads for the national media on President Trump singing the national anthem last night and how he didn't seem to know the words. Here is one of my body language reads of Trump during the national anthem. This is profoundly telling. If you say you believe in something and that belief is an important part of who you are then your behavior should match your beliefs. 

Trump knows he is being scrutinized. He says he believes in the sacredness of the National Anthem and that it is part of who is an American, but he can't be still and hold is sacred, nor does he sing all the words with commitment. In all my Facebook and blog posts when I see behavior that is in-congruent like this or abhorrent say, such as gross sexual misconduct I am asking that readers examine themselves and work on being congruent to raise the integrity of our country. So, in this case do you say something is important to you, say the national anthem, your family, your faith, your personal integrity, and or your country work to insure that your behaviors match your stated belief.

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Narcissistic Supply- An Explanation of Character Assassination and Smear Campaigns

I speak and write about body language and how to deal with difficult people including malignant narcissists. 


"Narcissistic Supply"- Malignant Narcissists (Those on the extreme end of the spectrum.) can't stand for someone to see behind their mask for who they truly are so they attack the character of anyone who is a threat to the false self. Think of people in your life or in the news who have recently attacked someone who outed their bad behavior.

Psychopaths and Malignant Narcissists do not have normal emotions. They can act as if they do, in fact, some are extremely good actors with a facade that makes them appear highly charismatic, powerful and energetic. But the energy they project is not really theirs, they get it from the energy and emotions of others. 

They may seem healthy and happy if they are fed a supply of attention. But, but if the flow stops they describe feeling like they are in dark empty void. So, they are constantly hunting for what researchers call the “Narcissistic supply" of other people’s emotions, to feed themselves and fill their void. Do you know someone personally or any celebrities or public figures life that must have constant attention? Do you know anyone who acts out, attacks and or creates tension and drama, pitting people against each other and dividing people? Harvey Weinstein is perfect example of someone who craved attention and drama.

Psychopaths/Malignant Narcissists (PN"S) search for “Narcissistic Targets"/ "Narcissistic Victims" that can give those lots of attention and emotion.  At some point a healthy target who is associated with a Psychopath/Narcissist may see the Psychopath/Narcissists for who they really are. Their "Narcissistic Mask” will come down. Being revealed for who they really are is Psychopath/Malignant Narcissists
biggest fear so they are prepared for this. It has happened to them before. Their false self-image/mask is everything to them. They must bribe, threaten, cast off and or destroy anyone who knows threatens their false self.  

If the target is a threat they typically becomes the victim of a "Smear campaign" or "Character Assassination" to destroy their ability to be what the target should be, a credible source of truthful information about the Psychopath/Malignant Narcissists. 
Remember the PN gains supply from the group and they are terrified of loosing a steady supply so they must not just destroy the target they mus eject the truth know-er from the group/family/work place/political world so that the PN's can continue to gain supply from the group/family/workplace/political/world.

The Character Assignation and or Smear Campaign is carried out by the PN creating 
often vicious lies about the target who has unmasked them. Oddly,they often seem like they are following some play book in their campaign as the lies they plant often are the PNS very behaviors! If they are stalkers of their target they will lie and claim their target is a stalker. If the they use their connections to attack their targets they will lie and claim their target used their connections to attack. If the  PN's are unstable and emotional or crazy they will lie and say their target is crazy. Though they love admiration and attention PN's may even get more supply if they are successful in their character assassination as their victim is made to appear like someone who did them harm and the Psychopath/Narcissists gains a steady supply of sympathy from the group. 

Again the Malignant Narcissists have planned for possible attack by grooming the group long before they assassinate the character of the victim/target. They have 'seeded" (google "Seeding", "Lie seeding") the group with negative information about the target and primed the group gifting them dinners, entry into exclusive parties, clubs, events, trips, jobs. 

If the group allows the Narcissist/Psychopath to get away with attacking the victim/target and lets the attacker stay in the group they show the attacker their bad behaviors will be tolerated. This is called “Normalization” and it eats away at the morals of a group and/or shows that the group has little or no morals. 

The group becomes the Malignant Narcissist tertiary supply and they will create drama in the group, claiming victim-hood and saying how badly they were treated by their target!!! Their victim who saw behind the mask is labeled the bad guy. The Malignant Narcissist's continues to feed off the group often by triangulating group members pitting them against each other. The Psychopath/Narcissist craves supply!

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language Experts Analyze Chip and Joanna Gaines' Relationship with Their Children

This story was number 2 on the all the national news feeds! Viral baby! So many hits!!! Oh my gosh its gone crazy.

As we've already pointed out, Chip and Joanna Gaines are the definition of relationship goals. If there's one thing that elevates them to the next level (if there is such a thing), it's their undying love for their four (almost five!) children. The best part? Their kids — Drake, Ella, Duke, and Emmie — reciprocate this love straight back to the Fixer Upper stars.

Unlike some celebrities, Chip and Joanna don't shy away from showing their kids on their show or personal social media accounts. We know about Ella's green thumb, Duke's pickle obsession, and so on. Time and time again, Chip and Joanna gush about parenthood — and their body language reveals that they know exactly what they're doing.

"More than anything, we know that giving and receiving affection is normal in the Gaines' home," body language expert and author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, told GoodHousekeeping.com. As some of us know, not all families are overly — or even mildly — affectionate but the photos prove that they are pros in the hugging, snuggling, and hand holding departments.

The children are relaxed around their parents — even when there's a camera close by. When cuddling on the couch after a hard day at work (remember they don't have cell phones or TV!), Chip and his son fit together like spoons, proving they're a close unit. "When they're on the couch together, Chip's son is also modeling his mother's typical hand holding behavior," she says. "He latches on to Chip's arm as a means of stability." Like mother, like son.

Even though they have their hands full running a number of businesses, Chip and Joanna work hard to give their children a simple (and balanced) life. While we see their kids on their show, it's apparent that they also keep their kids on set away from the camera lens. "Joanna is clearly in sync with her daughter," says Wood. "Her daughter's heels are inside of her mom's feet, which symbolizes her sense of closeness and connection."

The duo also encourage their children to be curious and playful. They live on a farm without technology, so creativity is paramount. "When their daughter is reaching for the camera, you can see that Chip and Joanna want her to explore and are happy that she is doing so," she says. The kids aren't acting out as a response to their parent's lack of attention but rather because they know their parents always keep an eye on them, no matter how busy they might be.

Yes, Chip is the goofy one in the bunch (don't discredit JoJo though!), but he's also a loving and affectionate man. "He repeats similar behaviors with his wife and his daughters," explains Wood. "Here, he's cradling and kissing his daughter's head like a baby while she gives her weight — and heart — to him." The serene look in her face is proof that she's comfortable exactly where she is — right in her father's arms.

And it seems like the boys are smitten with their momma.

Foot rubs are a type of physical touch that tend the heart just as much as aching feet. "Foot rubs are a means of connection," says Wood. "By rubbing his mom's feet, he's showing her that he recognizes how hard she works to provide for him and his siblings." This simple — and adorable — action is a stress reliever and a way to bring the child closer (literally) to the parent.

More than anything, we know that Chip and Joanna put family over everything. Despite their kid's different ages and interests, they always appear as a single family unit — even if they're all running off in different directions. "A simple thought like having one blanket out on the lawn is proof that they pride themselves in doing everything as a unit," she says.

Once again, these two are a testament that love makes all the difference — at home and on TV.

http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/entertainment/news/a47571/chip-joanna-gaines-parenting-body-language/


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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.