An excerpt from a recent media interview:
Patti Wood, author of Success Signals and consultant in the field, points out that much body language operates from the limbic brain at a subconscious level. “The advantage of recognizing body language at the conscious level is that we become more aware of our own signals and have a deeper understanding of others,” she said.
However you hold your body, you begin to feel that way chemically in less than a 40th of a second, she said. The classic example is a smile. “If you go to a sales meeting and want to show you are truly excited about the product, bring your body language up, bring lift to your posture, chest, gestures, facial muscles up and into a smile. The message of your body language sends signals to your brain so you begin to feel that way.” “We know our body reflects how we feel, but the inverse is also true.” One of her favorite tips: “Do it and you will begin to feel it.”
She explains that the mirror neurons in our brains subconsciously reflect back to us that action we see in someone else. “We mirror what they are doing and this actually creates empathy through ‘emotional contagion’,” she said. “So that we feel, create the same chemical they do and feel what they are feeling”
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
The Handshake Rules and Etiquette in North America and Other Countries and Cultures.
In North America and Europe, extend a hand upon meeting and parting, and make your handshake firm to show your strength and recognize and respect others.
When doing business in all countries respect the culture and religious difference of the individual when you greet them. For example, American Orthodox Jews are not supposed to shake hands, some men will if they are pressured too, but it is not polite to force them.
In the Middle East and Asia and India, use a gentle grip to show respect a firm handshake implies you don’t trust the other person and need to check for weapons.
While in the North America men can now offer their hand to a women, men in many cultures will wait for a woman to extend her hand first, which is permissible for any man to do.
If you are in an Islamic country, if you are a woman don’t offer your hand to a man and whether you are a male or female don’t offer your hand to a woman.
Some Muslim women doing business in the US will offer their hands for you to shake.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
When doing business in all countries respect the culture and religious difference of the individual when you greet them. For example, American Orthodox Jews are not supposed to shake hands, some men will if they are pressured too, but it is not polite to force them.
In the Middle East and Asia and India, use a gentle grip to show respect a firm handshake implies you don’t trust the other person and need to check for weapons.
While in the North America men can now offer their hand to a women, men in many cultures will wait for a woman to extend her hand first, which is permissible for any man to do.
If you are in an Islamic country, if you are a woman don’t offer your hand to a man and whether you are a male or female don’t offer your hand to a woman.
Some Muslim women doing business in the US will offer their hands for you to shake.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Analyzes Susan Wright's Body Language for InSession - Part 3
Patti looks beneath the surface of Susan's pauses (12 in just one hour) for InSession and also shares her insights about Susan's testimony about New Year's Eve and the butcher knife in the drawer. Check the link below!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vvIzwyftsVY&feature=related
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vvIzwyftsVY&feature=related
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Analyzing Susan Wright's Body Language on InSession - Part 2
In another segment on InSession Patti shares her insights on Susan Wright's flirting body language in the courtroom and also when she is retelling the time how Jeff beat her when she told him what her favorite wild flower was. Also see how Susan has changed from "little girl" back in 2004 into a different Susan today....a bolder woman. Check the link below!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWHntyygiac&feature=related
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWHntyygiac&feature=related
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti on InSession Analyzing the Body Language of Susan Wright- Part 1
Patti analyzes the body language of Susan Wright for In Session when asked, "What would set Jeff off." Also when she was asked to recall one time when Jeff beat her. Patti also shares her insights on Susan's body language when she was talking about Jeff hitting her with a wooden flute until it broke. For Patti's insights, click the link below.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XA0BWHsZ04Y&list=UUNDJOcYly1uLU5dxr9JFkpQ&index=3&feature=plcp
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XA0BWHsZ04Y&list=UUNDJOcYly1uLU5dxr9JFkpQ&index=3&feature=plcp
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Seems like his first impression should have been a clue...a story of “Danger at First Sight.”
I imagine many of us have been attracted to someone who was not good for us. A phenomenon I have researched and labeled danger at first sight.
Working on my book on first impressions today I came across the story at the link below.
A guy went out on a date and stole his date's car. Not good. Then I looked at an undated photo of the car thief that came with the story he looked, scary very scary.
A red streak down the middle of his hair, piercings all over, and a sneer on his face that could make a tiger turn around and run.
If this was how he looked on their first date, a date she apparently went to
pick him up for, there is a reason she should buy my book when it comes out.
Look at his photo and tell me his first impression should have been a clue.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/45695569/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Working on my book on first impressions today I came across the story at the link below.
A guy went out on a date and stole his date's car. Not good. Then I looked at an undated photo of the car thief that came with the story he looked, scary very scary.
A red streak down the middle of his hair, piercings all over, and a sneer on his face that could make a tiger turn around and run.
If this was how he looked on their first date, a date she apparently went to
pick him up for, there is a reason she should buy my book when it comes out.
Look at his photo and tell me his first impression should have been a clue.
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/45695569/ns/us_news-crime_and_courts/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
So called “Redneck TV,” Is it Shortchanging the South?
My discussion group sent the link below that we discussed tonight.
What do you all think of these kinds of TV shows?
My mom and sister love to watch American pickers, pawn stars, and several other shows about collecting and selling cool old stuff.
At Thanksgiving my niece and nephew got us excited about a fun but weird show called Punkin’chunkin. It is an annual contest where people compete to chunk pumpkins the farthest via catapult or rocket. I think the programs do show a part of the country that some viewers never see. I hate that viewers are presented with any stereo types that may cause them to judge and condemn an entire region of the country.
I love garage sales and estate sales and have found over hundreds of Saturdays in the last 20 years that the south (where I live) is filled with people that are open friendly and warm.
I think especially with some shows like Hoarders, viewers feel superior, less crazy, smarter, more hip, less prejudice and much better off than the people on TV. Watching Hoarders just makes me want to get up off the couch and organize my closets.I don’t do it, but it makes me WANT to.
I use to watch Andy Griffin as a kid and dream of living in a small town and sitting on a front porch with my family. Perhaps there is a hint of that in some of these shows where families work together in a small business. Dads and sons side by side, nature as something to honor and tame. It’s not all a ya’ll put down.
What do you think?
Here is the link to the article on Stereotypes of Southerners on TV.
Disappointing Redneck TV Shortchanges the American South
http://www.npr.org/blogs/monkeysee/2011/12/07/142861568/disappointing-redneck-tv-shortchanges-the-american-south?sc=emaf
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
What do you all think of these kinds of TV shows?
My mom and sister love to watch American pickers, pawn stars, and several other shows about collecting and selling cool old stuff.
At Thanksgiving my niece and nephew got us excited about a fun but weird show called Punkin’chunkin. It is an annual contest where people compete to chunk pumpkins the farthest via catapult or rocket. I think the programs do show a part of the country that some viewers never see. I hate that viewers are presented with any stereo types that may cause them to judge and condemn an entire region of the country.
I love garage sales and estate sales and have found over hundreds of Saturdays in the last 20 years that the south (where I live) is filled with people that are open friendly and warm.
I think especially with some shows like Hoarders, viewers feel superior, less crazy, smarter, more hip, less prejudice and much better off than the people on TV. Watching Hoarders just makes me want to get up off the couch and organize my closets.I don’t do it, but it makes me WANT to.
I use to watch Andy Griffin as a kid and dream of living in a small town and sitting on a front porch with my family. Perhaps there is a hint of that in some of these shows where families work together in a small business. Dads and sons side by side, nature as something to honor and tame. It’s not all a ya’ll put down.
What do you think?
Here is the link to the article on Stereotypes of Southerners on TV.
Disappointing Redneck TV Shortchanges the American South
http://www.npr.org/blogs/monkeysee/2011/12/07/142861568/disappointing-redneck-tv-shortchanges-the-american-south?sc=emaf
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Why I do Free Media Interviews
People, including my friends and family ask me that question all the time.
So let me explain to you and to all of them why it’s worth it.
I got many paid engagements this year from prospects that saw me on TV shows like Nancy Grace. I continue to be very blessed in my career and this year is my best year ever.
I ask all my clients how they found me and what created the decision to book me and many have commented that they found me in a Google search and decided on me when watching my video of my interview on Regis and Kelly. Also ALL my spokesperson jobs came directly from my media exposure as did my book deal.
So that is an enormous amount of work and income earned in the last ten years that is a result of my hundreds of hours of free media interviews. Plus there is this very odd Media effect. My audiences are impressed with me before I speak.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
So let me explain to you and to all of them why it’s worth it.
I got many paid engagements this year from prospects that saw me on TV shows like Nancy Grace. I continue to be very blessed in my career and this year is my best year ever.
I ask all my clients how they found me and what created the decision to book me and many have commented that they found me in a Google search and decided on me when watching my video of my interview on Regis and Kelly. Also ALL my spokesperson jobs came directly from my media exposure as did my book deal.
So that is an enormous amount of work and income earned in the last ten years that is a result of my hundreds of hours of free media interviews. Plus there is this very odd Media effect. My audiences are impressed with me before I speak.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Can Mitt Find the Wit to Boot Newt?
Body Language in the Republican Debates Presidential candidates Debates Newt Gingrich and Mitt Romney. Click the link below for Patti Wood's body language comments for ABC News.
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/12/can-mitt-find-the-wit-to-boot-newt/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://abcnews.go.com/blogs/politics/2011/12/can-mitt-find-the-wit-to-boot-newt/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Government Promises and the Public's Hope
Tonight my meeting of the minds group is discussing government promises, the public’s hope, and public protest.
We all got this great quote. Read it and notice the date is was written.
"Government is the great fiction through which everybody endeavors to live at the expense of everybody else...
Thus, the public has two hopes, and Government makes two promises - many benefits and no taxes. Hopes and promises, which, being contradictory, can never be realized.
Now, is this not the cause of all our revolutions? For, between the Government, which lavishes promises which it is impossible to perform, and the public, which has conceived hopes which can never be realized, two classes of men interpose - the ambitious and the Utopians...
And the people believe, and the people hope, and the people make a revolution!
These two promises are for ever clashing with each other; it cannot be otherwise. To live upon credit, which is the same as exhausting the future, is certainly a present means of reconciling them: an attempt is made to do a little good now, at the expense of a great deal of harm in the future. But such proceedings call forth the spectre of bankruptcy, which puts an end to credit.
What is to be done then?"
-- Frederic Bastiat, "Government", 1848
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
We all got this great quote. Read it and notice the date is was written.
"Government is the great fiction through which everybody endeavors to live at the expense of everybody else...
Thus, the public has two hopes, and Government makes two promises - many benefits and no taxes. Hopes and promises, which, being contradictory, can never be realized.
Now, is this not the cause of all our revolutions? For, between the Government, which lavishes promises which it is impossible to perform, and the public, which has conceived hopes which can never be realized, two classes of men interpose - the ambitious and the Utopians...
And the people believe, and the people hope, and the people make a revolution!
These two promises are for ever clashing with each other; it cannot be otherwise. To live upon credit, which is the same as exhausting the future, is certainly a present means of reconciling them: an attempt is made to do a little good now, at the expense of a great deal of harm in the future. But such proceedings call forth the spectre of bankruptcy, which puts an end to credit.
What is to be done then?"
-- Frederic Bastiat, "Government", 1848
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language expert Patti Wood's insights of Jerry Sandusky's New York Times videotaped interview.What does Jerry Sandusky's body language indicate?
Coach Sandusky’s interview with the New York Times Journalist
Check Patti's link below to her YouTube Channel to watch Patti as she reads the body language of Jerry Sandusky on HLN Special Report with Vinnie Politan. Below are Patti's notes on the 9 minute interview by the New York Times Journalist.
How would an innocent person respond if he had been accused of and arrested for sexually abusing young boys? Do you think he would be upset?
Sandusky certainly isn’t. He starts the interview with oddly detached emotions. He doesn’t face the interviewer. He often looks out with a blank expression. He is relaxed sitting back on the couch. He oddly opens with a response to the allegations “I kid you.” Then says in a rather soft neutral voice “These allegations are false” – Then he immediately turns his head away and gazes off in the distance. I believe an innocent person would look at the interviewer and make sure that they heard and understood your statement.
Throughout the interview he says, “I didn’t know or I don’t know” which seems odd as a fully innocent person wouldn’t be confused or feel the need to find the words or hesitate to say, “I didn’t do these terrible things.”
As he denies the allegation He struggles to find the “right” thing to say. There is a long silent pause. His eyes close in a window shade. He is saying “I didn’t” but his hands go up and his palms open, instead of the gesture that would normally go with a denial or no response, downward and or closed.
He struggles for what to say always reframing the question or accusation. “It is my feeling that I didn’t do anything wrong.” It reminds me of Clinton reframing the statement. “I did not have sexual relations with that woman Monica Lewinsky.”
Again Sandusky gestures should sweep down in dismissal rather than up.
He laughs as he answers some of the questions. If you have been in my Deception Detection program you know that anger and laughter are “cover emotions.” In interrogation videos I have analyzed the accused laugh as a cover to make their allegation seem “lighter” not serious not as bad. At one point Sandusky actually has what I call --- soft eyes and a charming smile as he is asked about sexually abusing young boys.
He often gives a partial shrug “I don’t know” like a child helpless. A shrug as if a physical threat is present then he smiles so inappropriately yet again!
He is asked about the feelings. He says there were so many “mutual feelings” extended family. Then he misspeaks calling himself an “extended father.” He subconsciously makes up a name for the typical relationship he had with the boys.
He uses a soft voice, looks for affirmation and approval from the journalist for having these mutual feelings even saying “Yeah” at the end of his response, as if he is saying, hey it was mutual. The boys agreed with me. This is so disturbing.
At time marker 210 concerning the Coach Joe Paterno
He says, “I don’t know that he didn’t know – I know that he didn’t, never said anything to me.” and then at time marker 2:56 he gives a smirk, his face asymmetrical, he seems gleeful that he was able to pull one over on the interviewer and in essence throws the coach under the bus.
When asked about Curley talking to him about “horsing around in the showers” listen to the paralanguage, the vocal stress cues Sandusky says, “Yeah you know, he was concerned ( he has a sound of pain “uggugg“ he was concerned about it yeah.” Sandusky’s voice is soft almost no emotion in an effort I believe to deemphasize the seriousness of the “concern.” Then we hear Sandusky give a deep inhalation and exhalation of breath. He is realizing that conversation where he was confronted.
When asked “How did he couch it when he spoke about it to you?” Sandusky completely turned away frowns. This is the closest that he gets to showing he is angry. At time marker 347-Sandusky gulps down his bad feelings then presses his lips tight down to close off his feeling, see him tear up. Then he gives a tongue thrust as the reporter goes on about the Curley conversation.
At time marker 424-426 we see him freeze (that deer in headlights stress response). He should be remembering an event and be able to face the interview and recall instead he freezes and struggles to think of what to say and shakes his head no.
As Sandusky says, “I told him yeah,” bends down to get out of confrontation, protects the whole front of his body.
Then Sandusky says, “In my mind it was not inappropriate behavior. “ He again doesn’t face the interviewer and say “I didn’t do it.” Glazed view off in the distance.
446 “He could speak with the young person (not child) that was involved” shrugs off his guilt and his eyes get teary.
He told me I couldn’t work with them anymore. He actually shows his disappointment his head going down and a look of disappointment on his face.
As he asked about the kids he suddenly comes alive. His head and body language go up as he says, with passion …”I grew up in a recreation center, there was constant activity. I worked on a playground I LOVVVEEE active kids.
Truth teller takes ownership uses the word I, states relationship and gives names and speaks in specifics. He doesn’t say the “Second chance kids. He calls them “They throughout the interview.” Liars distance themselves from the people and the events.
He says, “In the interactions that you had with them.” Instead of in the interaction I had with them. “Then he says all those times were precious.”
Again he doesn’t say the kids or children he says they he goes back between
He hops from past tense and future tense a sign of someone who is making up a story rather than recalling actual events.
He continues to use generalities. He also doesn’t complete his sentences and often he just plain does not make sense.
For example
“I guess IT just happened that way,” “I don’t know”
“They weren’t going to have you and you weren’t going to have them.”
“So it was significant times it was significant times it was important times.”
In the previous phone interview Bob Costas, asked “Are you
sexually attracted to young boys?” a simple question that would be easy to answer if you’re totally innocent with “No.” We listened for Sandusky to be adamant and certain and deny. Instead, repeats the questions in a softer voice vocally emphasizing the word SEXUALLY attracted. “You know not
“I am attracted to young people, boys, girls” and he gets more excited and smiles and gets visibly and auditorily excited. His lawyer jumps in and Sandusky smiles inappropriately as he says, “yeah that’s what I meant.” As he speaks his gestures are off. He speaks first and then he gestures.
Again look at his visible excitement and joy. “I enjoy the young” then he freezes, pulls his head back withholding his real feeling, “Because they...” (He pauses) “… they don’t worry about what they say.” “Both groups” (He does a seat re-adjustment - what he said didn’t sit right with him. “
“That’s why I love those groups.”
http://www.youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert?feature=mhee
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Check Patti's link below to her YouTube Channel to watch Patti as she reads the body language of Jerry Sandusky on HLN Special Report with Vinnie Politan. Below are Patti's notes on the 9 minute interview by the New York Times Journalist.
How would an innocent person respond if he had been accused of and arrested for sexually abusing young boys? Do you think he would be upset?
Sandusky certainly isn’t. He starts the interview with oddly detached emotions. He doesn’t face the interviewer. He often looks out with a blank expression. He is relaxed sitting back on the couch. He oddly opens with a response to the allegations “I kid you.” Then says in a rather soft neutral voice “These allegations are false” – Then he immediately turns his head away and gazes off in the distance. I believe an innocent person would look at the interviewer and make sure that they heard and understood your statement.
Throughout the interview he says, “I didn’t know or I don’t know” which seems odd as a fully innocent person wouldn’t be confused or feel the need to find the words or hesitate to say, “I didn’t do these terrible things.”
As he denies the allegation He struggles to find the “right” thing to say. There is a long silent pause. His eyes close in a window shade. He is saying “I didn’t” but his hands go up and his palms open, instead of the gesture that would normally go with a denial or no response, downward and or closed.
He struggles for what to say always reframing the question or accusation. “It is my feeling that I didn’t do anything wrong.” It reminds me of Clinton reframing the statement. “I did not have sexual relations with that woman Monica Lewinsky.”
Again Sandusky gestures should sweep down in dismissal rather than up.
He laughs as he answers some of the questions. If you have been in my Deception Detection program you know that anger and laughter are “cover emotions.” In interrogation videos I have analyzed the accused laugh as a cover to make their allegation seem “lighter” not serious not as bad. At one point Sandusky actually has what I call --- soft eyes and a charming smile as he is asked about sexually abusing young boys.
He often gives a partial shrug “I don’t know” like a child helpless. A shrug as if a physical threat is present then he smiles so inappropriately yet again!
He is asked about the feelings. He says there were so many “mutual feelings” extended family. Then he misspeaks calling himself an “extended father.” He subconsciously makes up a name for the typical relationship he had with the boys.
He uses a soft voice, looks for affirmation and approval from the journalist for having these mutual feelings even saying “Yeah” at the end of his response, as if he is saying, hey it was mutual. The boys agreed with me. This is so disturbing.
At time marker 210 concerning the Coach Joe Paterno
He says, “I don’t know that he didn’t know – I know that he didn’t, never said anything to me.” and then at time marker 2:56 he gives a smirk, his face asymmetrical, he seems gleeful that he was able to pull one over on the interviewer and in essence throws the coach under the bus.
When asked about Curley talking to him about “horsing around in the showers” listen to the paralanguage, the vocal stress cues Sandusky says, “Yeah you know, he was concerned ( he has a sound of pain “uggugg“ he was concerned about it yeah.” Sandusky’s voice is soft almost no emotion in an effort I believe to deemphasize the seriousness of the “concern.” Then we hear Sandusky give a deep inhalation and exhalation of breath. He is realizing that conversation where he was confronted.
When asked “How did he couch it when he spoke about it to you?” Sandusky completely turned away frowns. This is the closest that he gets to showing he is angry. At time marker 347-Sandusky gulps down his bad feelings then presses his lips tight down to close off his feeling, see him tear up. Then he gives a tongue thrust as the reporter goes on about the Curley conversation.
At time marker 424-426 we see him freeze (that deer in headlights stress response). He should be remembering an event and be able to face the interview and recall instead he freezes and struggles to think of what to say and shakes his head no.
As Sandusky says, “I told him yeah,” bends down to get out of confrontation, protects the whole front of his body.
Then Sandusky says, “In my mind it was not inappropriate behavior. “ He again doesn’t face the interviewer and say “I didn’t do it.” Glazed view off in the distance.
446 “He could speak with the young person (not child) that was involved” shrugs off his guilt and his eyes get teary.
He told me I couldn’t work with them anymore. He actually shows his disappointment his head going down and a look of disappointment on his face.
As he asked about the kids he suddenly comes alive. His head and body language go up as he says, with passion …”I grew up in a recreation center, there was constant activity. I worked on a playground I LOVVVEEE active kids.
Truth teller takes ownership uses the word I, states relationship and gives names and speaks in specifics. He doesn’t say the “Second chance kids. He calls them “They throughout the interview.” Liars distance themselves from the people and the events.
He says, “In the interactions that you had with them.” Instead of in the interaction I had with them. “Then he says all those times were precious.”
Again he doesn’t say the kids or children he says they he goes back between
He hops from past tense and future tense a sign of someone who is making up a story rather than recalling actual events.
He continues to use generalities. He also doesn’t complete his sentences and often he just plain does not make sense.
For example
“I guess IT just happened that way,” “I don’t know”
“They weren’t going to have you and you weren’t going to have them.”
“So it was significant times it was significant times it was important times.”
In the previous phone interview Bob Costas, asked “Are you
sexually attracted to young boys?” a simple question that would be easy to answer if you’re totally innocent with “No.” We listened for Sandusky to be adamant and certain and deny. Instead, repeats the questions in a softer voice vocally emphasizing the word SEXUALLY attracted. “You know not
“I am attracted to young people, boys, girls” and he gets more excited and smiles and gets visibly and auditorily excited. His lawyer jumps in and Sandusky smiles inappropriately as he says, “yeah that’s what I meant.” As he speaks his gestures are off. He speaks first and then he gestures.
Again look at his visible excitement and joy. “I enjoy the young” then he freezes, pulls his head back withholding his real feeling, “Because they...” (He pauses) “… they don’t worry about what they say.” “Both groups” (He does a seat re-adjustment - what he said didn’t sit right with him. “
“That’s why I love those groups.”
http://www.youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert?feature=mhee
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti on HLN Prime News - Gary Giordano's Body Language
Patti shared her insights on HLN Prime News with Vinnie Politan regarding the body language of Gary Giordano being interviewed on Good Morning America. Check the link below for her insights!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UwAARPcJ6ZI
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
How to Mind Your Ps & Qs in Professional Interactions
Patti weighed in on Minding Your Ps & Qs in Professional Interactions for Investor's Business Daily. Check the link below for her insights!
http://news.investors.com/Article/patti-wood/593524/201112021320/communicate-message-properly-and-master-details.htm
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://news.investors.com/Article/patti-wood/593524/201112021320/communicate-message-properly-and-master-details.htm
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Well known in the media from her TV, magazine, newspaper and online publications interviews, body language expert Patti Wood is a CSP Certified Speaking Professional and a member of NSA, The National Speakers Association.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Hotel staff taught to read guests' body language by Patti Wood MA, CSP – Body Language Expert
Forget calling the front desk. If you're a guest at an Affinia hotel, the staff will try to figure out what you need just by looking at you.
"You can't always tell from the first sentence whether someone is in a good mood or bad mood," says body language expert Patti Wood.
"Starting this month, the boutique chain is bumping up personal service in its five hotels in New York City and one each in Chicago and Washington, D.C. Everyone from housekeeping to management will be tailoring his interaction with guests based on body language.
A body language expert trained employees over the summer on what cues to look for. A guest who makes eye contact while walking down the hall, for instance, may be open to conversation. A corporate trekker constantly tugging on an ear is probably stressed and may be interested in a yoga kit — or perhaps a therapeutic pillow from the hotel's pillow menu.
"So many companies, when they talk about service, they program it to how many rings till you answer the phone," says John Moser, chief brand and marketing officer for Affinia. "That sounds very scripted. Let's give (staffers) some tools they can use to help identify what's the right way to address somebody at a particular moment."
Employees were taught to mirror a guest's volume and rhythm of speech to put him at ease, Moser says. They learned that if guests are constantly touching their faces, it's a likely sign they're anxious after a long day of meetings or travel. "They'll grab their chin or pull on their ear," Moser says. "Those are cues that maybe I should be doing something to get them to their room quick or make them feel comfortable."
Patti Wood, a body language expert who conducted the Affinia training, says she has never seen such instruction given to all hotel employees. "All of this training is so every single guest is treated as special," she says.
Staff questions about a guest's day won't disappear, Moser says. But, he says, small talk isn't always enough to get a reading of a guest's needs.
"You can't always tell from the first sentence whether someone is in a good mood or bad mood," he says. "Measuring some of the things they're showing, with the way they're talking to you, can help our associates deliver a service that's more customized to them."
Jan Freitag, senior vice president of Smith Travel Research, which tracks hotels, says of the effort, "Anything that ultimately gives better customer service is to be applauded." "The question," Freitag says, "is could this be achieved with a different vehicle? It will be interesting to see if the additional expense for staff training will ultimately result in higher guest-satisfaction scores and revenue."
By Anne Ryan, USA TODAY file
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Reads the Body Language of Missing Baby Lisa's Parents on HLN
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTVLh28THYQ
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language of Mrs. Cain - November 2011
This is my body language read of Mrs. Cain for US News and World Report.
http://www.usnews.com/news/articles/2011/11/15/gloria-cains-body-language-revealed
http://video.foxnews.com/v/1275490678001/mrs-cain-on-harassment-allegations-this-isnt-herman
Interviewer, “Let’s start with this.” Mrs. Cain says softly, “Ok!” but is giving a severe lip compression smile. I call this the zipped smile. Women use the zipped smile to cover their emotions, typically to cover anger. Our culture says we as women need to be nice, so we give a zipped smile to cover our anger. She nods her head up and down, but instead of meaning, “I agree” the small quick nods are saying, “Please hurry and get this interview over with.”
When she says, “I don’t know who that person is (eye block) pause misspeak “...and we’ve been married for 42 years.” She shuts her eyes longer than normal blinking in a window shade eye block. That indicates she is uncomfortable with the person (sexual harasser) that the media is projecting.
When she says a moment later “But, they don’t know Herman” her lip pucker quick downward dismissive head shake and stressed voice show her repressed anger at the critical media.
Look how she is sitting at the far end of the couch. The most honest portion of the body is from the waist down. Her lower body and feet are turned away fully from the interviewer. In this moment, though her upper body is angling slightly away from the interviewer in “retreat” and at times even leaning back away. Her arms are out in front and her hands are laying one over the other in her lap (called a blanket hand cross) to protectively cover her pelvis.
As to her husband warning her of the story coming out, she shakes her head. “It is just hearsay” and she gives a tongue drawbridge signifying her desire to get the bad taste of the news out of her mouth and off of her mind.
As Mrs. Cain continues and discusses the warning conversation with her husband and her faint memory (she looks up and struggles to come up with both the true memory of the event and the correct thing to say, true or planned response that may be a lie) of the first woman’s accusations and the Restaurant Association’s charges as being unfounded you see how her body is so turned away from the interviewer she has to twist her neck significantly to answer questions. My read here is she had an agreement in the marriage here that she wouldn’t ask and he wouldn’t tell.
When she responds to the second woman’s allegations, notice how she talks about Herman’s behavior in the PAST TENSE. “That wasn’t a part of Herman’s behavior.
She emphasizes his “Old School Behavior” - her gestures as she talks are in synch. She is telling the truth about his “old school behavior” with her and other women when she is with him.
When she says a moment later, “To hear such graphic allegations….that’s not the person he is.… (as she shakes her head no) he totally respects women.” You can “hear the tears” in her voice. Also look at the change in her hands. She now has a stretched out wrap over her leg protectively. She is feeling under stronger attack here.
Goodness I love the next part of the interview. When she says she was not going to be the wife up on the stage that he knew he would be there by himself. Her voice and nonverbal cues are absolutely in synch. She is being true and honest.
However when she says, “Seriously in my soul, I don’t feel like he’s that type of a person,” I see a pause in her head shaking, I hear awkward pausing and leaving out the IS in a slight grammatical error.This cluster of cues and even the wording she chooses sound less sure of herself. When someone is unsure they may leave out the strong words that make their message more definitive. We want her to say, I know he didn’t do these things but she keeps talking about the man she knew or knows not being that kind of person instead of speaking to his actual behavior.
As she is asked about her family’s reaction, Mrs. Cain kicks out her foot to show their anger, and sure enough says, “My daughter was angry…”
“NO I am not missing anything, I know Herman” she gulps showing she is keeping something in seems like she is gulping down her fear that she doesn’t know everything.
Again at the very end “SOME of the things that you are saying about him, that is not Herman.”
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Your High Blood Pressure Can Reduce Your Ability To Read Body Language
Ever wonder why the big boss doesn’t get the pain he is causing you? If he lowers his blood pressure, he might be more empathetic.
Recently high blood pressure has been linked to a decreased ability in reading the facial expressions of emotions. It’s tough for the folks with high blood pressure as well. They just don’t seem to enjoy things as much as their stress free counterparts.
To read more about how high blood pressure effects the brain and its ability to read body language link here. You probably already know this information, but if not it could be very interesting to add to your work.
http://bodyodd.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/11/08/8686801-high-blood-pressure-makes-some-socially-awkward
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Recently high blood pressure has been linked to a decreased ability in reading the facial expressions of emotions. It’s tough for the folks with high blood pressure as well. They just don’t seem to enjoy things as much as their stress free counterparts.
To read more about how high blood pressure effects the brain and its ability to read body language link here. You probably already know this information, but if not it could be very interesting to add to your work.
http://bodyodd.msnbc.msn.com/_news/2011/11/08/8686801-high-blood-pressure-makes-some-socially-awkward
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language Expert Patti Wood Speaking Last Week on Body Language at the World Compliance Summit in Miami Florida
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language - 23 Must Know Moves by Patti Wood
What does a frown signify? That's not so hard to figure out. Ditto for hands on hips or crossed arms. But not every example of body language is so easy to interpret, and that's where Patti Wood comes in. Patti teaches people the subtleties of body language - and was just in the news for teaching employees of a New York City hotel how to figure out guests' needs simply by looking at them. Check the link below to view her recent project with CBS News.
http://www.cbsnews.com/2300-204_162-10010146.html?tag=mGalleryBottom;mGalleryUL
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://www.cbsnews.com/2300-204_162-10010146.html?tag=mGalleryBottom;mGalleryUL
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti featured in Cool News of the Day
Cool News of the Day is a daily e-mail newsletter of marketing insights, ideas and inspiration edited by Tim Manners.
http://www.reveries.com/2011/11/affinia-service/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
http://www.reveries.com/2011/11/affinia-service/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti on Good Morning America Saturday Nov. 5th Reading Kate Middleton's Body Language to See if She is Pregnant
Regular Kate Middleton (last july)
http://abcnews.go.com/WNT/video/royal-couple-canada-13996146
http://abcnews.go.com/Entertainment/video/kates-canada-tour-brits-boating-13995192
Possibly pregnant Kate Middleton yesterday:
http://abcnews.go.com/GMA/video/princess-kate-middleton-pregnant-prince-william-royal-baby-14879765
http://abcnews.go.com/Video/playerIndex?id=14887524
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti's Keynote - The Art of Reading and Understanding Nonverbal Communication in Any Setting
I recently presented a keynote at the Seventh Annual Career Strategies Conference of the Corporate Counsel Women of Color at the Beverly Hilton in Beverly Hills, CA. I spoke on The Art of Reading and Understanding Nonverbal Communication in Any Setting. To date, the organization has over 2,600 members who serve as general counsel, assistant general counsel, corporate counsel, in-house legal counsel, and in other capacities for Fortune 1000 companies, Forbes 2000 companies, not-for-profit corporations, and other entities in the United States of America and abroad.
It was such a honor to speak to such a wonderful group of women!
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Dr. Conrad Murray Tearing Up at His Manslaughter Case...The Big Debate at OK Magazine
This week we're asking experts their thoughts on crying at a trial, based on
Dr. Conrad Murray tearing up at his manslaughter trial in connection with
the death of Michael Jackson. (He cried when witnesses testified that he was
a good doctor who helped the poor.)
http://www.scribd.com/doc/74575580/Dr-Conrad-Murray
http://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/style/conrad-murray-cries-during-jackson-trial/2011/10/26/gIQAiuelJM_video.html
As I have watched the video of the trial I find it interesting that many people are calling his overall demeanor through the trial stone faced. I have noticed that he often has the downward pockets of sadness beneath his eyes and cheeks and at times combined with that sadness the raised eyelids and brows of fear with the white showing above his pupils. In this one minute clip he is crying on the tape. It was the most heartfelt, spreading to his whole face, when the witness talked about his father. The timing of that along with his ability to look at the witness, just furtive glances as she talked, shows not only grief about his father and a bit of sadness, but embarrassment that he didn't live up to his father. The Kleenex rubbing on his face - where he is using the Kleenex only on the side of his face towards the witness also indicates an embarrassment with what the witness is saying. Interesting that he is sad when she is saying he was her doctor. Is it because he didn't do his all for her and the other clinic patients or has he fallen so low compared with his dad's legacy?
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Hotel Staff Taught to Read Guests' Body Language by Patti Wood in New York, Chicago and DC
http://travel.usatoday.com/hotels/story/2011-10-24/Face-off-Hotel-staff-taught-to-read-guests-body-language/50896514/1
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
High Tech to High Touch, Cats, Coffee Houses and Body Language
Some people enjoy a newspaper with their weekend coffee. At one Ontario cafe, they get a cat.
http://www.canada.com/Ontario+cafe+offers+coffee/5588860/story.html
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood on HLN Tonight - Body Language Read of Baby Lisa's Mother and Dad
Debra Bradley - look how her head and neck pull away from interviewer and off to her left as she responds. Also notice she does not finish all her statements. This is an indication she is not confident in her thoughts and could be deceptive. She also does a window shade eye block.
Watch Patti's body language reads of Baby Lisa's parents, Deborah Bradley and Jeremy Irwin, and see a day-by-day account of the events that took place when Baby Lisa was reported missing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTVLh28THYQ
After 16 frustrating days of searching, Kansas City police and the FBI are still seeking an answer to the question that has generated national headlines — where is Baby Lisa?
Hundreds of officers have spent countless hours running down tips and scouring for evidence since 11-month-old Lisa Irwin was reported missing from her crib Oct. 4.
On Wednesday, police and federal agents returned to the home with a search warrant. Investigators wearing protective suits spent most of the day and night working inside and outside the residence, as well as around a garage behind the home.
Police have publicly revealed little about what they know so far, including any results from Wednesday’s search. Indeed, virtually every substantive bit of information about the case — and who police might suspect in the baby’s disappearance — has come from her parents or people speaking on their behalf.
Allegations that Lisa’s mother, Deborah Bradley, failed a polygraph test, and statements that she was drunk and may have “blacked out” on the night her daughter went missing and that police were accusing her of involvement in the crime have all been revealed by Bradley herself on national television.
And while a lawyer for Lisa’s parents says they are cooperating in the investigation, police have stated publicly that is not the case.
The parents have not sat down and spoken with detectives for more than a week, and efforts to re-interview two older children, who were in the home on the night of the disappearance, have been refused, police said Wednesday.
Here’s how the investigation has unfolded and what police and the family members have said:
Oct. 4: At 4 a.m. Lisa’s father, Jeremy Irwin, returned from his overnight job as an electrician to the family’s home in the 3600 block of North Lister Avenue and reported his daughter missing.
Deborah Bradley told police she had last seen Lisa in her crib about 10:30 the night before.
Kansas City police declared an Amber Alert and launched a massive search. Police looked at the possibility that a kidnapper entered and exited through a small bedroom window. But later that first day they said they couldn’t determine a point of entry.
A neighbor told police of seeing a man with a baby in the area about 2 a.m.
Police Capt. Steve Young, a department spokesman, said that the situation was unusual because child abductions commonly involve a custody dispute, but that in this case both parents reside in the home. The unmarried parents have two other children in the home, boys aged 10 or younger, from previous relationships, Young said.
A child victim specialist interviewed both boys that day while detectives questioned the parents.
Oct. 5: Lisa’s parents spoke publicly for the first time at a news conference.
“We just want our baby back,” Bradley said. “Please … bring her home.”
Young said investigators had conducted numerous consensual searches of residences near the Irwin home.
Oct. 6: The parents appeared on morning national television shows for the first time to plead for Lisa’s safe return. Afterward, in a brief interview with local media, Bradley said nothing looked out of place or disturbed in Lisa’s room.
“It was like they just walked in and just disappeared,” she said.
The couple also revealed that three cellphones were taken from their home the night Lisa vanished.
That night, Young stated publicly that the parents had stopped cooperating with police. A short time later, an aunt of Lisa Irwin read a short statement to the media disputing that.
Oct. 7: On NBC’s “Today” show, Bradley said police had told her she had failed a polygraph test.
” Bradley said. “Because I don’t “I continued to say, ‘That’s not possible,’ know where she’s at. I did not do this.”
On ABC’s “Good Morning America,” Bradley said: “From the start, when they’ve questioned me, once I couldn’t fill in gaps, it turned into ‘You did it, you did it.’
“They took a picture down from the table and said, ‘Look at your baby.’ And ‘Do what’s right for her.’ I kept saying, ‘I don’t know…’ I just sat there. I didn’t even ask to leave. I just let them keep asking questions.”
Oct. 8: Kansas City police said detectives had once again spoken with Bradley and Irwin. The couple also consented to additional searches, police said, and crime scene investigators worked inside and outside their home.
Mike LeRette, a cousin of Bradley, said the family planned to scale back media interviews to focus on generating tips for police.
Oct. 9: Family and friends went to Kansas Speedway on a race day and passed out thousands of fliers with pictures of Lisa, said Jeremy Irwin’s sister, Ashley Irwin.
Detectives spent several more hours at the family home and appeared to be trying to re-create a possible kidnapping by climbing through a window.
Oct. 10: A Clay County grand jury issued subpoenas to all the local network TV affiliates, requesting any raw footage of interviews with Irwin family members, friends or neighbors.
Investigators also returned to the Irwin home and were seen inside and outside a neighbor’s house.
Reports surfaced about a homeless man seen in the neighborhood in the previous weeks. A neighbor said police had showed him a photograph of the homeless man and asked about any possible connection to the missing child.
Oct. 11: Ashley Irwin said on “Good Morning America” that the family thought police intended to arrest Deborah Bradley.
“It is what police do,” she said. “They don’t have any leads, so they have to pin it on somebody.”
Young responded by saying that any assertion that police were trying to pin the disappearance on the child’s mother “was absolutely not true.”
“We don’t feel any pressure to accuse anybody,” Young said. “We are under pressure to do what we can to find a child.”
Later that day, Ashley Irwin told The Star that her nationally televised comments were taken out of context.
“When they (police) don’t have suspects, when they don’t have any leads, then it always circles back around to square one, which is the parents.”
After a tipster’s call, investigators drained and searched a well at a vacant home near the Irwin residence. Police said nothing was found.
Meanwhile, a New York private investigator, Bill Stanton, announced that he had been hired to assist in finding Lisa. He wouldn’t say who was paying him.
Oct. 12-13: Media outlets began airing video of Deborah Bradley recorded at a Northland grocery store earlier on the evening that her daughter was last seen. In the video, Bradley and a man bought baby-related items and a box of wine.
Police did not comment publicly on the video or speculate about the man’s identity. Stanton later said the man was Bradley’s brother.
Police also asked to re-interview the older children, but police said the parents refused the request.
Oct. 14: Stanton announced that the anonymous person who had hired him was putting up a $100,000 reward for Lisa’s safe return or for information leading to the conviction of those who had abducted her.
Oct. 15: Police searched a boarded-up house after receiving a 911 call stating that diapers and a child’s backpack had been found in the basement of the house near Northeast Russell Road and Chouteau Trafficway, less than a mile from the Irwin home.
Young later said it appeared the diapers had been in the house for some time, outside the timeframe of Lisa’s disappearance.
“It just doesn’t fit,” he said.
Police also said a homeless man sought for questioning in the case was in custody on unrelated felony charges. Young said the man was arrested on a parole violation that had nothing to do with the Irwin case and “he is not a suspect.”
Oct. 16: Military police officers from the Missouri National Guard combed areas near the Irwin home.
Oct. 17: Three TV networks aired interviews with Lisa’s parents.
Bradley revealed that she put her daughter to bed around 6:40 p.m. Oct. 3. That was almost four hours prior to the time she initially gave police as the last time she saw her daughter. She said she didn’t remember checking on her daughter at 10:30 p.m., as she initially told police.
Bradley said on “Today” that she was drinking wine that night, “enough to be drunk.”
When asked whether there was any way she could have done something to hurt Lisa, she said: “No. No. No. And if I thought there was a chance, I’d say it. ... I don’t think that alcohol changes a person enough to do something like that.”
On “Good Morning America,” Bradley said police investigators had showed her burned clothes and a “Doppler thing with pings” from her cellphone.
“I hope the burned clothes weren’t real,” she said.
In an interview with Fox News Channel’s Megyn Kelly, Bradley said she might have had five glasses of wine that night and said it was possible she could have “blacked out.”
“I don’t see the problem in me having my grown-up time,” Bradley told Kelly. “I take good care of my kids. I keep my house clean. I do their laundry. I kiss their boo-boos. I fix them food. I’m involved in their school stuff.
“I mean, to me there’s nothing wrong with me doing what I want to do after dark. As soon as I’m done drinking, I go right to bed.”
New York lawyer Joe Tacopina announced he now represented Lisa’s parents. He also declined to say who was paying him. He said they had consented to have their house searched again and would cooperate with investigators.
Tacopina also said he had advised Bradley and Jeremy Irwin to stop talking to the media.
Young said that police had tracked 550 leads to completion and that they had “all led to nothing.”
Oct. 18: Police and FBI search teams focused on a wooded area at 34th Terrace and North Brighton Avenue, but nothing substantial was found.
Young said that night that police had obtained a search warrant for the Irwin home. Previous searches had been with the family’s consent, Young said. He declined to say why police sought the warrant.
Young also reported that the parents had not sat down face to face with investigators since Oct. 8 and had only responded to specific questions concerning tip information.
Fox News aired more of Kelly’s interview with Lisa’s parents. Bradley said police told her a call was made on one of the family’s stolen cellphones at 2:30 a.m. Oct. 4.
She said that she was sleeping at the time and that whoever took Lisa would have used the phone. She said police didn’t tell her where the call had been placed except that it was “close by.”
When asked whether she thought police were lying to her about the call, Bradley said, “Yeah, they’re supposed to” to elicit a confession.
Oct. 19: Armed with a search warrant, officers returned in force to the Irwin family home on Lister. The investigators included bomb and arson squad officers who have special equipment that could be used in the search, Young said.
The search team remained at the house late into the night.
Tacopina told The Associated Press he knew about the warrant only through the media.
“I don’t know why a warrant is needed. They can go in and out any time,” Tacopina said. “They have had unfettered access because we want answers.”
http://www.nbcactionnews.com/dpp/news/region_missouri/northland/lisa-irwins-mother-speaks-with-today-about-investigation-into-her-daughters-disappearance
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsxraZbZOEo
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Watch Patti's body language reads of Baby Lisa's parents, Deborah Bradley and Jeremy Irwin, and see a day-by-day account of the events that took place when Baby Lisa was reported missing.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eTVLh28THYQ
After 16 frustrating days of searching, Kansas City police and the FBI are still seeking an answer to the question that has generated national headlines — where is Baby Lisa?
Hundreds of officers have spent countless hours running down tips and scouring for evidence since 11-month-old Lisa Irwin was reported missing from her crib Oct. 4.
On Wednesday, police and federal agents returned to the home with a search warrant. Investigators wearing protective suits spent most of the day and night working inside and outside the residence, as well as around a garage behind the home.
Police have publicly revealed little about what they know so far, including any results from Wednesday’s search. Indeed, virtually every substantive bit of information about the case — and who police might suspect in the baby’s disappearance — has come from her parents or people speaking on their behalf.
Allegations that Lisa’s mother, Deborah Bradley, failed a polygraph test, and statements that she was drunk and may have “blacked out” on the night her daughter went missing and that police were accusing her of involvement in the crime have all been revealed by Bradley herself on national television.
And while a lawyer for Lisa’s parents says they are cooperating in the investigation, police have stated publicly that is not the case.
The parents have not sat down and spoken with detectives for more than a week, and efforts to re-interview two older children, who were in the home on the night of the disappearance, have been refused, police said Wednesday.
Here’s how the investigation has unfolded and what police and the family members have said:
Oct. 4: At 4 a.m. Lisa’s father, Jeremy Irwin, returned from his overnight job as an electrician to the family’s home in the 3600 block of North Lister Avenue and reported his daughter missing.
Deborah Bradley told police she had last seen Lisa in her crib about 10:30 the night before.
Kansas City police declared an Amber Alert and launched a massive search. Police looked at the possibility that a kidnapper entered and exited through a small bedroom window. But later that first day they said they couldn’t determine a point of entry.
A neighbor told police of seeing a man with a baby in the area about 2 a.m.
Police Capt. Steve Young, a department spokesman, said that the situation was unusual because child abductions commonly involve a custody dispute, but that in this case both parents reside in the home. The unmarried parents have two other children in the home, boys aged 10 or younger, from previous relationships, Young said.
A child victim specialist interviewed both boys that day while detectives questioned the parents.
Oct. 5: Lisa’s parents spoke publicly for the first time at a news conference.
“We just want our baby back,” Bradley said. “Please … bring her home.”
Young said investigators had conducted numerous consensual searches of residences near the Irwin home.
Oct. 6: The parents appeared on morning national television shows for the first time to plead for Lisa’s safe return. Afterward, in a brief interview with local media, Bradley said nothing looked out of place or disturbed in Lisa’s room.
“It was like they just walked in and just disappeared,” she said.
The couple also revealed that three cellphones were taken from their home the night Lisa vanished.
That night, Young stated publicly that the parents had stopped cooperating with police. A short time later, an aunt of Lisa Irwin read a short statement to the media disputing that.
Oct. 7: On NBC’s “Today” show, Bradley said police had told her she had failed a polygraph test.
” Bradley said. “Because I don’t “I continued to say, ‘That’s not possible,’ know where she’s at. I did not do this.”
On ABC’s “Good Morning America,” Bradley said: “From the start, when they’ve questioned me, once I couldn’t fill in gaps, it turned into ‘You did it, you did it.’
“They took a picture down from the table and said, ‘Look at your baby.’ And ‘Do what’s right for her.’ I kept saying, ‘I don’t know…’ I just sat there. I didn’t even ask to leave. I just let them keep asking questions.”
Oct. 8: Kansas City police said detectives had once again spoken with Bradley and Irwin. The couple also consented to additional searches, police said, and crime scene investigators worked inside and outside their home.
Mike LeRette, a cousin of Bradley, said the family planned to scale back media interviews to focus on generating tips for police.
Oct. 9: Family and friends went to Kansas Speedway on a race day and passed out thousands of fliers with pictures of Lisa, said Jeremy Irwin’s sister, Ashley Irwin.
Detectives spent several more hours at the family home and appeared to be trying to re-create a possible kidnapping by climbing through a window.
Oct. 10: A Clay County grand jury issued subpoenas to all the local network TV affiliates, requesting any raw footage of interviews with Irwin family members, friends or neighbors.
Investigators also returned to the Irwin home and were seen inside and outside a neighbor’s house.
Reports surfaced about a homeless man seen in the neighborhood in the previous weeks. A neighbor said police had showed him a photograph of the homeless man and asked about any possible connection to the missing child.
Oct. 11: Ashley Irwin said on “Good Morning America” that the family thought police intended to arrest Deborah Bradley.
“It is what police do,” she said. “They don’t have any leads, so they have to pin it on somebody.”
Young responded by saying that any assertion that police were trying to pin the disappearance on the child’s mother “was absolutely not true.”
“We don’t feel any pressure to accuse anybody,” Young said. “We are under pressure to do what we can to find a child.”
Later that day, Ashley Irwin told The Star that her nationally televised comments were taken out of context.
“When they (police) don’t have suspects, when they don’t have any leads, then it always circles back around to square one, which is the parents.”
After a tipster’s call, investigators drained and searched a well at a vacant home near the Irwin residence. Police said nothing was found.
Meanwhile, a New York private investigator, Bill Stanton, announced that he had been hired to assist in finding Lisa. He wouldn’t say who was paying him.
Oct. 12-13: Media outlets began airing video of Deborah Bradley recorded at a Northland grocery store earlier on the evening that her daughter was last seen. In the video, Bradley and a man bought baby-related items and a box of wine.
Police did not comment publicly on the video or speculate about the man’s identity. Stanton later said the man was Bradley’s brother.
Police also asked to re-interview the older children, but police said the parents refused the request.
Oct. 14: Stanton announced that the anonymous person who had hired him was putting up a $100,000 reward for Lisa’s safe return or for information leading to the conviction of those who had abducted her.
Oct. 15: Police searched a boarded-up house after receiving a 911 call stating that diapers and a child’s backpack had been found in the basement of the house near Northeast Russell Road and Chouteau Trafficway, less than a mile from the Irwin home.
Young later said it appeared the diapers had been in the house for some time, outside the timeframe of Lisa’s disappearance.
“It just doesn’t fit,” he said.
Police also said a homeless man sought for questioning in the case was in custody on unrelated felony charges. Young said the man was arrested on a parole violation that had nothing to do with the Irwin case and “he is not a suspect.”
Oct. 16: Military police officers from the Missouri National Guard combed areas near the Irwin home.
Oct. 17: Three TV networks aired interviews with Lisa’s parents.
Bradley revealed that she put her daughter to bed around 6:40 p.m. Oct. 3. That was almost four hours prior to the time she initially gave police as the last time she saw her daughter. She said she didn’t remember checking on her daughter at 10:30 p.m., as she initially told police.
Bradley said on “Today” that she was drinking wine that night, “enough to be drunk.”
When asked whether there was any way she could have done something to hurt Lisa, she said: “No. No. No. And if I thought there was a chance, I’d say it. ... I don’t think that alcohol changes a person enough to do something like that.”
On “Good Morning America,” Bradley said police investigators had showed her burned clothes and a “Doppler thing with pings” from her cellphone.
“I hope the burned clothes weren’t real,” she said.
In an interview with Fox News Channel’s Megyn Kelly, Bradley said she might have had five glasses of wine that night and said it was possible she could have “blacked out.”
“I don’t see the problem in me having my grown-up time,” Bradley told Kelly. “I take good care of my kids. I keep my house clean. I do their laundry. I kiss their boo-boos. I fix them food. I’m involved in their school stuff.
“I mean, to me there’s nothing wrong with me doing what I want to do after dark. As soon as I’m done drinking, I go right to bed.”
New York lawyer Joe Tacopina announced he now represented Lisa’s parents. He also declined to say who was paying him. He said they had consented to have their house searched again and would cooperate with investigators.
Tacopina also said he had advised Bradley and Jeremy Irwin to stop talking to the media.
Young said that police had tracked 550 leads to completion and that they had “all led to nothing.”
Oct. 18: Police and FBI search teams focused on a wooded area at 34th Terrace and North Brighton Avenue, but nothing substantial was found.
Young said that night that police had obtained a search warrant for the Irwin home. Previous searches had been with the family’s consent, Young said. He declined to say why police sought the warrant.
Young also reported that the parents had not sat down face to face with investigators since Oct. 8 and had only responded to specific questions concerning tip information.
Fox News aired more of Kelly’s interview with Lisa’s parents. Bradley said police told her a call was made on one of the family’s stolen cellphones at 2:30 a.m. Oct. 4.
She said that she was sleeping at the time and that whoever took Lisa would have used the phone. She said police didn’t tell her where the call had been placed except that it was “close by.”
When asked whether she thought police were lying to her about the call, Bradley said, “Yeah, they’re supposed to” to elicit a confession.
Oct. 19: Armed with a search warrant, officers returned in force to the Irwin family home on Lister. The investigators included bomb and arson squad officers who have special equipment that could be used in the search, Young said.
The search team remained at the house late into the night.
Tacopina told The Associated Press he knew about the warrant only through the media.
“I don’t know why a warrant is needed. They can go in and out any time,” Tacopina said. “They have had unfettered access because we want answers.”
http://www.nbcactionnews.com/dpp/news/region_missouri/northland/lisa-irwins-mother-speaks-with-today-about-investigation-into-her-daughters-disappearance
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xsxraZbZOEo
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood on CNN Tonight - Body Language of Republican Presidential Candidate Debate
Romney tries a tight smile laugh as Perry talks about illegal aliens working for Romney. Romney breaks debate ritual and actually steps away from his podium and faces toward Perry to confront him and strikes out his arm to symbolically whack him aside as Romney stridently repeats,“Will you please just wait." He does a ‘tongue thrust’ briefly sticking out in attack at Perry’s statements. Then he backs away putting his hand in heart guard then he leans on his podium a protective log cabin clasp and smiles when he sees Perry getting more riled and seeming to lose control.
We see Perry stay protected he only has his head faces turned and jut out towards Romney.
Even as Perry says, “…and you hired illegals in your home he protects his side near Romney and does a strike down gesture with his left hand. It’s clear Perry's statements are planned, so the gestures don’t strike on the beat. He didn’t think he would be interrupted or have to repeat. He thought it would be a zinger.
As Romney counter attacks, Perry does a window shade squinting eye close surprised by Romney’s move toward him.
When Romney can no longer use humor he gets riled up himself. Again he faces toward Perry in a one on one argument. “If you become President you have to let other people speak.”
Later we see Perry with a tight mouthed growl face.
Rick Santam does head jabs toward Romney as he talks about Romney’s contributions to Obama care, put is paralanguage is halting, “You are, (pause stress stare) You are, pause, Your plan..” having trouble getting his words out he does not sound confident.
Overall Perry seemed stiff and over rehearsed in his nonverbal cues and Romney seemed emotional but the smile helped him.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-4_LemTVSU
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
We see Perry stay protected he only has his head faces turned and jut out towards Romney.
Even as Perry says, “…and you hired illegals in your home he protects his side near Romney and does a strike down gesture with his left hand. It’s clear Perry's statements are planned, so the gestures don’t strike on the beat. He didn’t think he would be interrupted or have to repeat. He thought it would be a zinger.
As Romney counter attacks, Perry does a window shade squinting eye close surprised by Romney’s move toward him.
When Romney can no longer use humor he gets riled up himself. Again he faces toward Perry in a one on one argument. “If you become President you have to let other people speak.”
Later we see Perry with a tight mouthed growl face.
Rick Santam does head jabs toward Romney as he talks about Romney’s contributions to Obama care, put is paralanguage is halting, “You are, (pause stress stare) You are, pause, Your plan..” having trouble getting his words out he does not sound confident.
Overall Perry seemed stiff and over rehearsed in his nonverbal cues and Romney seemed emotional but the smile helped him.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-4_LemTVSU
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language Expert's Read of the Controversial Martin Luther King Monument and Statue in DC the Nation's Capital
http://cityarts.info/2011/10/25/stone-cold/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language Expert Read of the Joe Louis Fist Statue
http://cityarts.info/2011/10/25/stone-cold/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language Mistakes That Can Cost You Your Job
A candidate can give out thousands of cues within the first minute of meeting a hiring manager, and those messages make more of an impact than what you say during the interview. Our body language says a lot about who we are and our emotional state, and poor body language often sends a message that we are stressed or fearful.
Check the link for Patti's full interview with Forbes Magazine.
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2011/08/31/interview-body-language-mistakes-that-can-cost-you-the-job/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Check the link for Patti's full interview with Forbes Magazine.
http://www.forbes.com/sites/jacquelynsmith/2011/08/31/interview-body-language-mistakes-that-can-cost-you-the-job/
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Decode His Strut
I was asked by Cosmopolitan to reveal what a guy's stride can tell you about his personality...and his relationship style. Is your guy a Power Walker, a Thruster, a Huncher or a Drifter? Check the link below to discover what his strut style is and as a bonus find out what it says about him.
http://www.scribd.com/doc/63366426/Decode-His-Strut
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Body Language of Jen and Her Men: Marc vs. Ben
I was asked by OK Magazine to analyze the body language of Jen and her men, Marc and Ben. You can read the full article in the August issue of OK!
"The way their hands are intertwined show equality in the relationship"
"The tender kiss he gives is very intimate, very sweet"
"Her upraised chin and intense gaze - all good"
"His posture is like a little old man; she is pulling away"
"She is using her purse as a barrier, her arm as a block"
"It is fake. Her stance is "posey," his smile tense and strained"
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
"The way their hands are intertwined show equality in the relationship"
"The tender kiss he gives is very intimate, very sweet"
"Her upraised chin and intense gaze - all good"
"His posture is like a little old man; she is pulling away"
"She is using her purse as a barrier, her arm as a block"
"It is fake. Her stance is "posey," his smile tense and strained"
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Less Power Point Can Mean More Pizzazz
Presentation Pitfall
Less PowerPoint can mean more pizzazz
Premium content from Atlanta Business Chronicle - by Tonya Layman, Contributing Writer
Date: Friday, June 3, 2011, 6:00am EDT
There probably isn’t an executive alive who can’t recall a painful experience sitting through a presentation where the presenter drones on and on about a subject they should care about, but simply can’t make themselves pay attention. The delivery is dry and the information is fact regurgitation. Presentations like that are not uncommon and most will agree they are a waste of time.
Communications experts agree presentations usually need to be slimmed down time-wise and boosted up energy-wise. Otherwise, the audience will spend their time catching up on e-mails on their iPhone and knocking each other over to get to the door at the conclusion.
Joey Asher, president of Atlanta-based communications skills coaching company Speechworks and author of the book “15 Minutes Including Q&A: A Plan to Save the World From Lousy Presentations,” said there are many things people can do to jazz up their presentations.
“People don’t like to listen for long,” Asher said. “Presentations don’t usually include much audience interaction. If they leave time for questions, they leave them until the very end. They also try to say too many things. They don’t include enough stories which people really like. Then to top it off, they are usually delivered with all the energy of a house plant. The overwhelming majority of business presentations stink. The presenter doesn’t consider the audience and consider what the audience really wants.”
Patti Wood, an international speaker, author and trainer based in Atlanta, agrees. Known for her expertise in body language, she is also an expert on presentation skills and sales presentations, making more than 100 per year.
“You have to have a clear purpose that outlines what the audience is going to take away from your presentation,” Wood said. “When you start you want to say, ‘Today I am going to talk about’ and then explain what the subject matter will be so the audience can expect to learn something. Then they will say to themselves ‘I am going to have to be active to receive this information’. Use the word ‘you’ often. Get rid of ‘I’ and ‘me’. Use phrases like ‘Here is something else for you.’ ”
Wood said the top tip for good presenting is connecting with the audience.
“That is what distinguishes an OK presentation with a phenomenal one. Afterward people will talk about it as an experience rather than a speech,” she said.
Experts agree slide-creating software like Microsoft Corp. ’s PowerPoint can be good tools to aid presentations but speakers shouldn’t treat slides as their focal point. Nobody wants “death by PowerPoint.” For an hourlong presentation, Asher suggests 10 to 20 slides maximum.
“The slides should complement the message that you’re delivering orally, but they should not contain the entire message,” said Cory Anderson, an associate with medical device venture capital firm Accuitive Medical Ventures , which has an office in Duluth.
Anderson hears, on average, 50 presentations a year from entrepreneurs seeking venture capital and often gives presentations to boards of directors and management. “Reading slides implies that the presenter is not familiar with the content of their presentation. It is a waste of time for the audience,” he said.
“Presenters have a natural tendency to use too many words on their slides, which distracts the audience as they try to read and listen at the same time. Pick the words on the slides carefully to help tie your message together,” Anderson said, adding the PowerPoint slides need to be visually interesting. “Bullets and the default PowerPoint templates may be the easiest way to build a presentation, but it is probably not the most effective way to communicate your message and keep your audience engaged.”
A presenter should never start or end with a slide and shouldn’t have the slide up as the audience enters the room, Wood said. Asher said in order to keep that connection alive, take questions throughout the presentation. Don’t save them until the end.
“The best thing to do to engage the audience is leave time for Q&A,” Asher said. “One reason people don’t build in much time for questions is they really don’t want the questions. They are afraid they will be asked something uncomfortable or that they won’t know the answer. You have to be prepared for the questions.”
There are a lot of things a presenter can do to make sure people ask questions.
“Tell them early on you want them to ask questions,” Asher said. “Stop periodically throughout to take questions. When someone does ask a question, don’t put them off. Take the question and answer it and show that you love the question. Don’t send out the signals you don’t want questions.”
Keeping the questions to the end of the session is a quick-fire way to ensure no one will ask a question because the audience won’t want to prolong the agony, he said.
“I also recommend show-and-tell,” Anderson said. “If you’re pitching a product, there is nothing more compelling than a hands-on presentation of the product —- when it works as expected. Coordinate the show-and-tell so that it does not distract the audience’s attention from the rest of your presentation.”
Delivery is also a key component to getting the audience’s attention.
“If you want me to buy into your ideas, you need to sound like you are passionate about those ideas,” Asher said. “You need to have high energy, make contact and look for that sense of connection. Use the same intensity as you would when talking with a good friend.”
Wood recalls helping a finance professional from Disney with his dry, unvaried delivery.
“I challenged him to think about the company and what it offers, to think about the information he wanted his audience to take away and to think of something that would get their attention.”
The next day when presentation time came, here came this guy wearing Mickey Mouse ears. The audience loved it.
“It was a small thing but it was a big thing. He smiled, began talking and next thing we knew he was running around the room and gesturing,” Wood said. “The magic in connecting with the audience makes you feel safer.”
Similarly, life stories can engage an audience.
Asher said one of the best presentations he has ever heard was given by Colin Powell.
“He told story after story after story about dealing with the Soviets and various world powers. The audience wanted insights on what it was like to live and work at the level he lived and worked at,” Asher said. “People don’t use analogies or life experiences enough and those really do engage an audience.”
Tips for engaging presentations
• Do your homework before presenting. One size does not fit all when it comes to presentations. Understand the audience’s perspective and tailor the presentation to their needs.
• Think about the culture and dress/present appropriately.
• Make sure the objectives of the presentation are clear. Align everyone from the first slide and stay on message through the presentation.
• Structure the presentation in a way that the message is delivered thoroughly and crisply. Think outside the box. Don’t feel constrained by bullets and templates. Be creative. Use stories to engage the audience.
• Sell it with high energy and make good eye contact and speak with passion.
• Support presentation with impactful visual aids that are simple and crisp. The message should be obvious without requiring a long oral description.
• Wrap up the presentation with something that the audience can remember you by.
• Plan for someone other than the presenter to take detailed notes and follow up on outstanding items quickly and completely.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Less PowerPoint can mean more pizzazz
Premium content from Atlanta Business Chronicle - by Tonya Layman, Contributing Writer
Date: Friday, June 3, 2011, 6:00am EDT
There probably isn’t an executive alive who can’t recall a painful experience sitting through a presentation where the presenter drones on and on about a subject they should care about, but simply can’t make themselves pay attention. The delivery is dry and the information is fact regurgitation. Presentations like that are not uncommon and most will agree they are a waste of time.
Communications experts agree presentations usually need to be slimmed down time-wise and boosted up energy-wise. Otherwise, the audience will spend their time catching up on e-mails on their iPhone and knocking each other over to get to the door at the conclusion.
Joey Asher, president of Atlanta-based communications skills coaching company Speechworks and author of the book “15 Minutes Including Q&A: A Plan to Save the World From Lousy Presentations,” said there are many things people can do to jazz up their presentations.
“People don’t like to listen for long,” Asher said. “Presentations don’t usually include much audience interaction. If they leave time for questions, they leave them until the very end. They also try to say too many things. They don’t include enough stories which people really like. Then to top it off, they are usually delivered with all the energy of a house plant. The overwhelming majority of business presentations stink. The presenter doesn’t consider the audience and consider what the audience really wants.”
Patti Wood, an international speaker, author and trainer based in Atlanta, agrees. Known for her expertise in body language, she is also an expert on presentation skills and sales presentations, making more than 100 per year.
“You have to have a clear purpose that outlines what the audience is going to take away from your presentation,” Wood said. “When you start you want to say, ‘Today I am going to talk about’ and then explain what the subject matter will be so the audience can expect to learn something. Then they will say to themselves ‘I am going to have to be active to receive this information’. Use the word ‘you’ often. Get rid of ‘I’ and ‘me’. Use phrases like ‘Here is something else for you.’ ”
Wood said the top tip for good presenting is connecting with the audience.
“That is what distinguishes an OK presentation with a phenomenal one. Afterward people will talk about it as an experience rather than a speech,” she said.
Experts agree slide-creating software like Microsoft Corp. ’s PowerPoint can be good tools to aid presentations but speakers shouldn’t treat slides as their focal point. Nobody wants “death by PowerPoint.” For an hourlong presentation, Asher suggests 10 to 20 slides maximum.
“The slides should complement the message that you’re delivering orally, but they should not contain the entire message,” said Cory Anderson, an associate with medical device venture capital firm Accuitive Medical Ventures , which has an office in Duluth.
Anderson hears, on average, 50 presentations a year from entrepreneurs seeking venture capital and often gives presentations to boards of directors and management. “Reading slides implies that the presenter is not familiar with the content of their presentation. It is a waste of time for the audience,” he said.
“Presenters have a natural tendency to use too many words on their slides, which distracts the audience as they try to read and listen at the same time. Pick the words on the slides carefully to help tie your message together,” Anderson said, adding the PowerPoint slides need to be visually interesting. “Bullets and the default PowerPoint templates may be the easiest way to build a presentation, but it is probably not the most effective way to communicate your message and keep your audience engaged.”
A presenter should never start or end with a slide and shouldn’t have the slide up as the audience enters the room, Wood said. Asher said in order to keep that connection alive, take questions throughout the presentation. Don’t save them until the end.
“The best thing to do to engage the audience is leave time for Q&A,” Asher said. “One reason people don’t build in much time for questions is they really don’t want the questions. They are afraid they will be asked something uncomfortable or that they won’t know the answer. You have to be prepared for the questions.”
There are a lot of things a presenter can do to make sure people ask questions.
“Tell them early on you want them to ask questions,” Asher said. “Stop periodically throughout to take questions. When someone does ask a question, don’t put them off. Take the question and answer it and show that you love the question. Don’t send out the signals you don’t want questions.”
Keeping the questions to the end of the session is a quick-fire way to ensure no one will ask a question because the audience won’t want to prolong the agony, he said.
“I also recommend show-and-tell,” Anderson said. “If you’re pitching a product, there is nothing more compelling than a hands-on presentation of the product —- when it works as expected. Coordinate the show-and-tell so that it does not distract the audience’s attention from the rest of your presentation.”
Delivery is also a key component to getting the audience’s attention.
“If you want me to buy into your ideas, you need to sound like you are passionate about those ideas,” Asher said. “You need to have high energy, make contact and look for that sense of connection. Use the same intensity as you would when talking with a good friend.”
Wood recalls helping a finance professional from Disney with his dry, unvaried delivery.
“I challenged him to think about the company and what it offers, to think about the information he wanted his audience to take away and to think of something that would get their attention.”
The next day when presentation time came, here came this guy wearing Mickey Mouse ears. The audience loved it.
“It was a small thing but it was a big thing. He smiled, began talking and next thing we knew he was running around the room and gesturing,” Wood said. “The magic in connecting with the audience makes you feel safer.”
Similarly, life stories can engage an audience.
Asher said one of the best presentations he has ever heard was given by Colin Powell.
“He told story after story after story about dealing with the Soviets and various world powers. The audience wanted insights on what it was like to live and work at the level he lived and worked at,” Asher said. “People don’t use analogies or life experiences enough and those really do engage an audience.”
Tips for engaging presentations
• Do your homework before presenting. One size does not fit all when it comes to presentations. Understand the audience’s perspective and tailor the presentation to their needs.
• Think about the culture and dress/present appropriately.
• Make sure the objectives of the presentation are clear. Align everyone from the first slide and stay on message through the presentation.
• Structure the presentation in a way that the message is delivered thoroughly and crisply. Think outside the box. Don’t feel constrained by bullets and templates. Be creative. Use stories to engage the audience.
• Sell it with high energy and make good eye contact and speak with passion.
• Support presentation with impactful visual aids that are simple and crisp. The message should be obvious without requiring a long oral description.
• Wrap up the presentation with something that the audience can remember you by.
• Plan for someone other than the presenter to take detailed notes and follow up on outstanding items quickly and completely.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Casey Anthony's Body Language during the Closing Arguments
For most of the prosecutor's closing arguments you would swear the film that shows Casey is on Freeze frame. Her head is held in vice grip add mixture of glaring eyes and petulant pouting lip and downward turned sad brows.
As the prosecutor says, “When you have a child that child becomes your life Casey could have shaken her head yes, as most parents who have lost a child would. As it has been in the rest of the trial, Casey’s body language does not match the baseline of what we consider a normal parents, a normal mothers body language the norm of a grieving mother.
703: The class between the expectation and the life that Casey wanted to have. Four seconds later Casey shake her head not small slow shake delayed, so it appears she had to think in her neocortex about what the instinctual limbic brain would feel and show in response to his statement.
When Caylee was born Casey was saddened with Expectorations not only from her parents but from society, Casey is shaking her head no quick shallow shakes with a furrowed angry brow and petulant mouth.
When Casey is faced with a problem her solution is to change the lie. She shakes her head twice, not fully committed to following through with her disagreement, and scowling in anger.
When Casey wants to do what Casey wants to do she lies. Again to delayed glare
No movement at all when he talks about the imaginary Nanny “Zanney” so still like a squirrel caught in headlights in the freeze response to stress.
You see the Guard move to protect his belly a comfort he gives as the prosecutor discusses her fathers suicide note, but she seated in the front of the guard is ice frozen in fizzy cocktail .
The absence of affect (facial expressions of emotions) No shake of the head no, no emotion at all. When the prosecutor discusses how Casey was at her boyfriends while Caylee is in all likelihood in the trunk of her car dead and decomposing.
Small shift, to her right side a look down to her right her thinking rational side to contain herself. And adjustment, apparently she thought it was too much work for her (to bury her) so she decided to throw her in the swamp. She rocks herself back and to the side a few more times. At this. I think she is actually upset here, feeling caught.
Prosecutors paralanguage the nonverbal nuances of the voices are emotional, Caylee was in the trunk off suburban drive decomposing. Voice gets caught, at times so low on the gruesome details as to be almost inaudible.
Imaginary Zannies Imaginary Accident, Casey starts to look away and look down, as her lies are retold by the prosecutor like a grandfather telling a bedtime fairy tale. She has trouble staying still she turns pages and then her head held with the chin up and lips petulant finally comes down. Most interesting her head twists down and sideways showing it is painful for her to hear her lies here, she fains reading something but her discomfort with everyone hearing these lies is evident.
33.33When the prosecutor talks about timer 55 her face book stalls till Caylee’s birthday. Head goes down not with true shame but with a mixture of feigned disinterest and denial. But then in one minute and 3 seconds later her head is up and frozen again.
Barely moves “When he discusses car being found and mother catching her and her lie “She is at Zannies” She barely moves just minute shifts from left to the right.
Until 42:56 Problem comes up Dec 11 2008 could I have the state present 2008 please Casey bends over and cough/sneeze her head going down and staying out of site instead of bouncing up naturally as it would in a real cough sneeze. This lets her head go out of the frame of the camera and when we see her again she is bent over, while holding her lowered four head in stiff upraised fingers. Suppressing tears as the prosecutor says, “Calies remains are found.” Casey is recalling with grief not the day her daughter lost, not the day she died and the grief she felt as a mother, but the day her daughter’s body was found and she was caught in her lies. Casey put her fist up to her face to suppress her tears; the fist gesture reads that she is mad that her daughter’s body was found. This fist to face to suppress tears is a movement I see when a parent hears what someone else did to their child when someone not when a child is found. There is typical kenning and outpouring of emotion when the news a child body being found is discussed. She stays with that fist. A number or items are found the damming evidence she ….then she rubs her nose and grasps her head again hiding her eyes from view, guilt? Trying to push in her thoughts or maintain focus she rocks herself side to side in the chair more obviously now.
Casey Anthony: Closing Arguments - Part 3 - 7/3/11 State
Very eerie body language.
8: As he is calling into the evidence of 224, as he says, “This is the bag that Caylee was found in,” Casey grabs her head symbolically pulling the bad thoughts out of her head fall through her fingers like dust and then she grasp her fingers together as if she is trying to decide to strike out her hand in anger and instead holds her downward held head in her soft fist. Significant she keeps frozen in that position through the most gruesome evidence, over 6 and half minutes.
Then as he recounts what her story about her father waking her yelling where is Caylee and laying Calyee's body in front of her yelling this is your fault. She's wiping a tear with her pinky finger only once after and when the prosecutor changes repeat her fathers yelling, Where is Caylee? Where is Caylee? She presses her tears in. Open unrestrained sobbing would I think make us feel that her story was true the little pinky tear stop feels fake and forced.
At 8:29, In fact moments later as the prosecutor begins discussing reasonable doubt Casey's chest begins to heave up and down and she begins to really cry needing a handkerchief and holding her nose with the bad smell of the words, “An abiding conviction of guilt.” She then begins wiping away real tears. At first she does this tentatively, and then big long wipes down over her face. Her chest heaving up and down more.
20:18? As he talks about the order of decomposition Casey covers her nose with the Kleenex using both hands and then does that odd dramatic wiping of one eye at a time as if wiping away the evidence from her view. He ( the scientist ) examined the evidence she takes her hands covers her nose and mouth and her lower lids with both hands and wipes as if she is covered with the sickening sight and the smell and wants to wipe it off.
At 20:21 her body comes up again into a more erect posture and she goes into that petulant face again. Slightly angry eyes as he discusses the evidence of the odor.
Look at 28:40 to 28:51 notices her stillness then look at her head swivel to him and the glare on her face as he finished repeating the evidence the most damming evidences of the hair with the bands of decomposition. She does this eerily after he pauses and there are two beats of pause then she turns and glares.
She gets up does a comfort adjustment pulling her shirt down.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://PattiWood.net. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Men's Facial Hair ...... What's Behind It?
I recently did an article for the August issue of Cosmo on Men's Facial Hair. Below are some of my insights:
Mustache
Since a mustache can obscure a guy’s smile, frown, smirk, etc., it’s a perfect way for him to appear more mysterious. A mustache also makes them feel they have more character manliness and power.
Chin Strap
Guys who shave their facial hair into a “chin strap” think it’s a manly look because it imitates tough, real-life things like the chin strap of a soldier’s helmet.
A big, bushy beard
Says that a guy wants to feel rebellious and doesn’t care what other people think (think Zach Galifiniakis).
The full beard
I don’t shave, can be rebellious but if it is unkempt and trimmed it may signal a desire to break all the rules or hide from himself.
Soul Patch
A guy who sports this patch of hair under his mouth wants to show that he is unique and creative (started with the beatniks of the 1950s).
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
More than Cozy....What does Their Body Language Reveal?
Paula and Simon appear more than cozy in these pics. He looks like he’s dying to start a relationship with her.
My read of these photos will be in next weeks National Enquirer.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/.
Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Reads the Body Language of Casey Anthony on the Dr. Drew Show
Find out my latest body language reads that I shared with Dr. Drew yesterday after viewing tapes of Casey Anthony in the courtroom during the murder trial of her 2 year old daughter, Caylee. I also revealed some insights on Casey's mother, Robin, as she took the stand to testify. Check the link below to view my YouTube channel.http://www.youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert#p/u/0/FlPEka0XOds
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
The Smiles and Body Language of Congressmen Wiener and Spritzer as They Confess and Apologize
This is an expression I call the cry cover smile. Yes, most people who give this expression believe they are covering their true emotions with a smile. This expression is typically found in men and I think comes from the need to keep a “stiff upper lip.” Many times this expression is an attempt to hide many intense emotions sadness, fear and anger. I see it in men, who typically have very strong egos and power that are caught and brought down. There are several photos of this expression in former Governor Blancovich.
http://www.timesunion.com/living/article/Pursed-lips-tell-the-story-1414370.php#ixzz1Og7WRMJW
Congressman Wiener’s expression is a suppressed fear, disgust and anger (If you cover up his mouth and look at just his eyes you will see the whites around his eyes and his sideways glance, and disgust. Notice the wrinkled nose that is a unique movement of the face given in disgust.)
If I knew exactly when he gave that expression I could tell you whether he was disgusted with himself for what he did or disgusted with the media at a particular question or bringing his behavior to light. The wrinkled upraised chin and tight lips show a suppression of fear and also of anger.
If I knew exactly when he gave that expression I could tell you whether he was disgusted with himself for what he did or disgusted with the media at a particular question or bringing his behavior to light. The wrinkled upraised chin and tight lips show a suppression of fear and also of anger.
Spritzer also has a cry cover smile. His chin is more raised and more defiant and proud and more of the bottom lip is raised and held inside the mouth. The corners of the mouth come down significantly in a way that is more common to this expression showing his need to smile through the pain. Cover his mouth and you see his eyes are more hooded downwards at the corners and sad. This combination reminds me of the classic sad clown painted face.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at http://pattiwood.net/. Also check out the body language quiz on her YouTube Channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.
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