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Cell phone use, etiquette, email etiquette, Research on who thinks cell phone and emailing is OK in Meeting


Are you reading this in a meeting?  76 percent of people surveyed think it is unacceptable behavior in a meeting though men are more likely to think it’s ok in a power lunch. I give specific etiquette rules in my book SNAP. Here is more of the latest research on who thinks it’s ok to text and check emails during a meeting.                                                                                                                            

Women are twice as likely as Men to be offended by Smartphone Use

October 25, 2013 • by News at Marshall




First empirical study of business etiquette and smartphones shows how mobile manners vary by gender, age and region - with important implications for hiring, career advancement and business efficiency

The world may be increasingly uncivil, and the workplace is no exception. With the rise of smartphones, you've probably even been a perpetrator of bad behavior yourself, checking text messages or taking a call during a meeting or business lunch.

But unlike rudeness among friends, discourteous behavior in the workplace can have real implications for careers, hiring and even workplace efficiency, with tension among coworkers harming productivity. A timely new study co-authored by Peter W. Cardon of the USC Marshall School of Business and colleagues at Howard University is the first to provide an empirical baseline for how attitudes towards mobile phone use actually break down across gender, age and region.

With a national sample of more than 550 full-time working professionals, the study reveals what business professionals perceive as acceptable, courteous or rude use of mobile phones in the workplace. Published today in the journal Business Communication Quarterly, the research offers a critical baseline for how attitudes toward technology may change over time and serves as a guide to navigating social expectations around polite smartphone use.

"Hiring managers often cite courtesy as among the most important soft skills they notice. By focusing on civility, young people entering the workforce may be able to set themselves apart," said Cardon, associate professor of clinical management communication at the USC Marshall School of Business Center for Management Communication.

The researchers first identified the most common grievances people had about smartphone use among their colleagues, including browsing the Internet and checking text messages. They then asked working professionals earning at least $30,000 a year to identify which of these behaviors they considered acceptable - and which ones are flat-out rude. Among their findings:

·         Three out of four people – 76 percent – said checking texts or emails was unacceptable behavior in business meetings;

·         87 percent of people said answering a call was rarely or never acceptable in business meetings;

·         Even at more informal business lunches, the majority of people thought writing a text message is rude - 66 percent said writing or sending a text message is inappropriate;

·         Men were nearly twice as likely as women to consider mobile phone use at a business lunch acceptable. More than 59 percent of men said it was okay to check text messages at a power lunch, compared to 34 percent of women who thought checking texts was appropriate.

·         Similarly, 50 percent of men said it was acceptable to answer a call at a power lunch, compared to 26 percent of women.

·         Despite the casual reputation, professionals from the West Coast were less accepting of mobile phone use in meetings than people from the East Coast;

·         Higher-income professionals had less tolerance for smartphone use in business meetings;

·         Dramatic age gap: Younger professionals were nearly three times as likely as older professionals to think tapping out a message over a business lunch is appropriate – 66 percent of people under 30 said texting or emailing was okay, compared to just 20 percent of those aged 51-65;

·         At a working lunch with five other people? Chances are, just having your phone out is offending somebody: A full 20 percent of professionals said simply having your phone out at a business lunch is rude.

·         Saying "Excuse me" to take a call didn't cut it, over 30 percent still found it to be rarely/never appropriate during informal/offsite lunch meetings.

"Not surprisingly, millennials and younger professionals were more likely to be accepting of smartphone use, but they might be doing themselves a disservice," Cardon said. "In many situations, they rely on those older than them for their career advancement."

Melvin C. Washington and Ephraim A. Okoro of Howard University were co-authors of the study.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

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Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Cell Phone Behavior from Body Language Expert


I work with Fortune 500 companies, consulting on their communication. I recommend several cultures norms for cell phone behavior. One is to try turning off and putting away the cell phone when sitting down and beginning a meeting.  So, for example, for Deloitte I recommended that all consultants begin the meeting with a statement such as, “This meeting with you is so important I am turning off my phone and putting it away.” And then actually putting the phone away off the table and out of reach, so they were not tempted to do what I call “hip checks” where they might rest the phone on their hip and gaze at it.  You can get more information about etiquette and research on cell phone use from my book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma. The last piece is how cell phone use affects the brain by laying down neural pathways to the ego centers of the brain so that we act and feel superior to those around us.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Top Ten Things Not to do at a Business Social Event or Job Search Mixer


Top ten things not to do at a business social event or job search mixer.
Here are some things you know and some you may not know are rude.
                         

1.       Arrive late.

2.      Not offer to shake hands with someone who wants to shake yours. (My clients are saying they even have candidates refuse to shake hands in formal job interviews.)

3.      It seems obvious not to wear clothing that is inappropriate such as too revealing or too casual, but you may need to be reminded to think about your footwear.  Flip flops to a corporate headhunter cocktail hour are not appropriate.

4.      Walk up to two people who are engaged in deep conversation and interrupt without an apology. It is old school etiquette, but job candidates can be overly aggressive in their attempts to meet and greet. Assertive behavior is fine, rude behavior is not. An, “Excuse me am I interrupting?” at least.

5.      Cut in the line at the buffet or bar.

6.      Put too much food on your plate or take the last remaining favorite items such as the last three shrimp or last piece of cake if there are people in line behind you.

7.      Drink more than three glasses of anything alcoholic. I would prefer you not drink at all.

8.      Start eating before the host without being given permission.

9.       Wipe your face without a napkin or eat without a napkin.

10.   Leave without thanking the host, or at the very least, if it is a large event and the host is busy, waving at the host and mouthing the words thank you.

And a few more

11.     Make a loud intrusive entrance.  If you arrive late you should be especially unobtrusive and if you’re late arrival is obvious to all, apologize.

12.   Talk about your health problems, diet, your recent dates or your cat’s funny habits.  If someone else starts the conversation you can make one quick comment.

13.   Monopolize the conversation. If you are only hearing your voice. You are talking too much.

14.   If you are standing or sitting talking with someone or a group and leaving without a goodbye or excuse me such as, “ I enjoyed speaking with you can you excuse me I haven’t eaten and I would like to try that delicious looking  shrimp before they are all gone. This is old school etiquette again, but manners still mean something.  Do I need to say, don’t look at your smart phone?
 
Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

15 Christmas Presents from Children's Art Work and or Your Photos and or Your Recipies


1.       Make into lampshades for kids rooms by hot gluing on the OUTSIDE of a lampshade.

2.       Collage the artwork and or photos into placemat size, get a laminating kit or take the big artwork to Office Depot to make into placemats for the table.

3.       Put photos or artwork or recipe inside a special insulated cup, there is a company in Sarasota Florida that makes Tumbler insultated cups.

4.       Collage a hard cardboard box off birthday party photos and artwork for Birthday present box or Christmas photos and Christmas art for Christmas present.

5.       Take photos of kids, or family or group of friends while they are doing art or craft project or cooking something special. Coollage the photos along with artwork, craft project or recipe for what you make inside a frame or with the gift of the art or food.

6.       Make a cardboard Book Marker

7.       Wrap around pencils then cover with clear tape

8.       Take photos of the artwork and photo shop into elegant and fun frames, print out and use as gift to from cards.

9.       Make Photo, artwork or recipe into fabric  with kit from Michael’s Craft store and then sew onto the cuff of socks

10.   Do above and sew onto cuff of mittens or gloves
·         can get a clear smart phone case for an smart phone online or at a kiosk in the mall and put in photos and artwork. That gives you the option of rotating out photos and artwork.
·         If you are buying your sweetie and TV you can put a photo of you two or family photo on the remote and cover it the photo with clear contact paper or clear tape.
·         Know someone who loves bake goods or who is gluten free? Buy inexpensive reseal able clear floor sugar and or coffee containers from Big lots or Target (the plastic or glass kind with rubber seal and metal clip look and work best.) Take or glue photos, artwork and or recipe on outside, Put baking ingredients on the inside. ( There are gluten free baking mixes at most grocery stores, Wal-Mart, Home Goods and Wholefoods if you don’t want to make dry ingredients from scratch.
·         For a funny present buy a paper towel dispenser (My favorite is the fantastic one that you can one hand to break off a towel at time from Bed Bath and Beyond) and a six pack of paper towels.  Carefully take the cardboard rolls out of the paper towels. On a sheet of paper the length and width or the roll paste photos or artwork, Glue around the cardboard roll place back into paper towels. You now have a six pack full of surprises. As your gift recipient finishes a roll they find their unique gift hidden on the cardboard roll.  
·         Buy a business card case. On the inside cover place a family photo, cover with clear contact paper.  
 

 



  1. Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Quick, Easy and Clever Halloween Costumes


 
 
10 last minute Halloween costume ideas that are quick and easy to create from stuff you already have in the house

  1. Strap a flashlight or two into a belt and wrap tight with duct tape then put on a sheet with big eye holes. It gives a whole new meaning to ghost.
  2. Put your phone headset on your head. (One of the ones that goes over your head with the mike in front.) Put on oxford shirt and khakis and go around saying, "Please hold." And "how can I help you today?" To dress like tech support.
  3. Put white powder in your hair or grey wig, and strap, sew or hot glue office supplies to your body, a stapler, notebook, pens, paperclips and post its to your clothes and say you're an old desktop computer.
  4. If you're single, hot glue recipes and perhaps a measuring spoon and a whisk and such to an apron put it on over a white shirt and black pants say you're a chef looking for a food critic to cook for or that you're a future contestant for top chef and you would like to try out some recipes.
  5. Go to the dollar store or grocery store and get tons of boxes of Cracker Jack. Hot glue them to a buttoned shirt, tell people you're the Cracker Jack surprise.
  6. Carry an open newspaper and say you're the last subscriber to the daily paper. (Read the paper first as people will ask you what you've read)
  7. Dress in all deep purples and carry or attach a dinner knife, a bag of white bread and jar of peanut butter. You are a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
  8. Dress all in black (that can be fun) or brown attach or carry a coffee cup cream and sugar and say you're a cup of coffee.
  9. Find all the birthday cards around the house, hot glue them to an outfit, along with birthday candles, a paper table cloth and an empty box of cake mix and say you're a birthday party.
  10. Put a couch throw around your shoulders strap on a pillow from the sofa, a TV remote and some popcorn, and you're a couch potato.

And a few more

Look up conversation starters or questions to start conversations on the internet and print a ton of them, then cut them into strips, glue them on your clothes and you are a conversation starter. My book strapped to your waist is also a good opener.

Print out a ton of photos of all the things that interest you, your fav foods, and places to travel, people, books and famous people, tape them on. You're PINTREST (The website where you pin photos.)

Put on all black, a cap, mask, gloves and tennis shoes and take all your purses and hang them all over you to be a purse snatcher.

If you have dark hair and a big smile, put on a white shirt and white pants and red lipstick and carry a clip board and you’re Madge the Progressive Insurance girl. (Have a YouTube video of her commercial on your phone ready to play.)

If you’re a guy put on a business suit, make a table out of cardboard that you can fit around your waist or sit on the floor and have people gather around you in a circle and ask inane questions and you’re the AT&T guy in the cute commercial with the kids.

Take all the old ties from the closet pin and or wrap them around you. Swing by a Thai restaurant for some take out boxes, menus and chopsticks and you are Thai food.

 Dress up like a witch, but instead of a broom bring a Swiffer or little vacuum to be a modern day witch.

 Put on all your sports related clothing, hats, shoes etc. (please no Miley Cyrus foam finger) and go as a sports fan. You can even go as a fan.

I am going to dinner with friends on Halloween but, we are not dressing up. Instead we are going to play twenty questions and have each other guess what famous person we would dress up for.



Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

A Word of Thanks!

It was wonderful to receive the below email from one of my clients who attended a recent program that I did.  I am so thankful that my students are learning new ways to understand people and deal with difficult situations not only in their work but also in their personal lives.

Patti-
I completely enjoyed your seminar Thursday
Thanks so much for some truly useful insight and new tactics to deal with MY difficult people.
I am also now following you on twitter!
Thanks,
Marianna


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

9 Nonverbal Cues to Help You Ace Your Next Job Interview

Patti was interviewed by NewYork.com on what nonverbal cues you should be aware of when interviewing for a job.  Check the link below to learn what you can do to ace your next job interview.
http://www.newyork.com/articles/jobs/9-nonverbal-cues-to-help-you-ace-your-next-job-interview-37749/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Patti Meets LR President David McKee

Patti Wood body language expert with David Mckee the President of the Louisiana Realtors Association.  Patti spoke to the Realtors this fall on Body Language and Selling based on her book Snap Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.

 

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to Tell if Your Dog Was Involved in a Sex Scandal, Body Language, Mouth Cues, Lying, Deception, Infidelity


                              How to Tell if Your Dog Was Involved in a Sex Scandal,

                             Body Language  Mouth Cues, Lying, Deception, Infidelity


 
This lip pressed together mouth turned down facial an expression I call the cover smile. Yes, most people who give this expression believe they are covering their true emotions with a smile. They are giving out many cues that say what they are truly feeling, but they really believe they are doing a good job fooling you and perhaps deceiving themselves in the process. Of course the dog is just being cute, that video of him with the Poodle was a set up. He will tell you all about what really happened in his Oprah interview.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Lavender not only helps you sleep it makes the sleep you get deeper!

You've probably heard that the smell of lavender helps you to get to sleep. New research shows it helps improve sleep as well.  People who breathed lavender scent as they slept enjoyed a 20% increase in the quality of their slumber. So find a lotion with lavender in it and put on a little before you go to sleep.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Creating the Perfect Light for Sleep


For a sounder slumber and quicker going to sleep time replace your bed side lightbulbs with one labeled warm white or soft white.  Research shows reading in the soft light prompts the brain to release melatonin hormones that promote sleep.  When I'm on the road, I put my hot pink hoodie sweatshirt over the bedside table lamp to give the light in the evening a soft pink glow one that promotes the correct brain waves for sleep.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Create a Set of Nighttime Rituals


Before I go to bed I check the locks on all the doors, turn out the lights, let out the dog, wash my face, pull down the shade in the bedroom and curl up with a good book. Creating nightly rituals like checking the house, brushing your teeth, reading before bedtime will send subconscious signals to your brain it's time to relax.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Losing Your Memory? Pick Up a Pack of Gum!


Did you know I was the national spokesperson for Wrigley's spearmint gum? In fact, I helped develop the Chew IQ test that distinguished your personality type based on your chewing style. During my time researching as national spokesperson, I discovered that chewing gum has many positive benefits. There's new research out that confirms one of those key benefits that chewing gum can actually improve your memory.  Next time your attention is flagging before a late-in-the day meeting, pop a piece of gum in your mouth to help you stay sharp. British researchers have found that chewing gum improves performance on tasks that involve tuning into audio cues that is listening to somebody talk and retaining key information in short-term memory. In the study, subjects listened to random lists of numbers for 30 minutes,  then were tested on their ability to pick up patterns. Compared with non-chewers the gun group detected patterns more quickly and accurately and their abilities improved as the task progressed. The action of chewing seems to temporarily increased blood flow to the brain, allowing more energizing oxygen to reach brain cells. Personally, I would recommend that you chew the gum before your meeting and then spit it out and put it in a piece of paper in the trash before going in the meeting room so people won't see you chewing the gum but your brain will be supercharged to remember what they say.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Speech Anxiety is a Good Thing

Quick Fix for Stage Fright
Standing in front of an audience with your heart racing, your palms sweating, terrified and wishing you were anywhere else but in front of that audience?

Good news is at hand!

Research from University of Rochester New York suggests that embracing your stress symptoms as beneficial can help you stay calm and collect yourself during your speech. When subjects in the research were encouraged to consider the physical signs of nervousness like sweaty palms and heart racing as natural and even advantageous they were more relaxed and had better bloodflow during the high-pressure speech assignment than those who were not trying to view their anxiety in a positive light.

So reframe your stress.  See it as a good thing.  Use all that energy to give a terrific presentation.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Are Headaches Keeping You from Sleeping?


If tension headaches are keeping you from sleeping there are options.  Researchers say that people with chronic tension headaches who took 3 mg of melatonin daily for three months reported six fewer episodes a month and the headaches they did get were less painful due to the sleep inducing supplement. Most antioxidants and anti-inflammatory compounds may help counter the inflammatory enzyme that trigger head pain.  So if your doctor says it's safe to take melatonin take one tablet before bedtime to prevent headaches and get a good night sleep.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Ways to Get a Good Night Sleep


Studies show that having a good evening laugh like watching Bridesmaids or the Bachelor after dinner improves your sleep by making the brain release more of the sleep hormone melatonin. You don't have time for a movie and it's time for bed? You could do exercises to release the day's stress.  With laugh exercises breathe like you do when you laugh. As it turns out, by just mimicking the breathing motions of laughter you can relieve stress and improve your circulation, digestion and sleep.
 
Steps for laughing exercise:
  1. put your hands in front of your chest
  2. put your palms out, and as you push your palms forward twice giving a deep belly sounding HO each time
  3. then press your palms down twice saying HA each time
Now turn to your sweetie and notice they are looking at you and laughing and ask them to thank you for helping them fall asleep.


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Is Your Smartphone Ruining Your Sleep?


Have you ever wondered why you couldn't go to sleep at night? Have you ever picked up your cell phone late at night to send just one more text?

Latest research shows us that sending text messages and surfing the web within two hours of going to sleep boost your stress levels more than any other pre-sleep activity.  More than watching TV, sending emails or even making love. Researchers suspect that late-night texts or Internet searches ignite alert centers in the brain that interfere with deep sleep. In my book SNAP in the chapter  on text impressions I discuss how those quick shallow decisions of texting and surfing actually extend and deepen pathways to the EGAN centers of the brain sending stress hormones. So read a book late at night and send the text tomorrow.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Smell Can Help You Make a First Impression


You can "SNIFF out someone's personality in a SNAP.  The four first impression factors are credibility, likability, attractiveness and power. 

New research says that you can use your sense of smell to tell if someone isn't nice. A new study in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, reveals that self-centered or domineering people (those high on power) have higher levels of stress hormones --- and that those hormones emit a unique scent that is detected by your lymbic and subconsciously alerts us to their true personality!  Thus if you get a gut feeling that someone isn't nice, it may be our sense of smell that's identifying that personality trait for you. So don't leave your house if you have a cold. 

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Video of Miley, SNL, Today Show, Tongue Thrusts, Sticking Out Your Tongue, Body Language Read of Miley


Miley, SNL, Today Show, Tongue Thrusts, Sticking Out Your Tongue



Body Language Expert Patti Wood will be talking about
Miley's body language on the Today Show and on her recent SNL interview.

Baby's thrust their tongues to as they nurse and to "self comfort" or self sooth. When a babies stop thrusting their tongues when they are not nursing it is a sign that they are ready to eat solid food.  Miley thrust out her tongue to show she was ready to grow up and be seen as a sexual being.  As she did it with the entire tongue thrusting out of the mouth and held is very sexual and aggressive.

During the Saturday Night Live Monologue she appeared  confident and sassy. She came out giving a prayer steeple and self comfort handclasp. As she said, "I don't apologize for my VMA performance."  Eye flutter. That she still feels bad about it. Though she appeared at one level to be UBER confident for the entire monologue their was something that may surprise you that revealed what she was feeling underneath the hupla and performance façade. It was very very subtle. When I do a read of a performance  like this I have the first level read of how they performance and then how they feel about what they are saying.  What was the most interesting that when she said,  I'm not going to do Hannah Montana - She did a rapid eye flutter that indicated she high anxiety she I hate that old role in my life, I am done with that child persona. Then she said, "... but I can give you an update on what she's been up to.  She was murdered." and then did a eye shutter.  Though her voice was coached and powerful as she said she was murdered she puckered her mouth with distaste. She didn't really like saying that. So as much as you think she was confident and having the time of her life, their was a "tell" that she was

From SNL: She said

MILEY:  I don't apologize for my VMA performance.  If I owe anybody an apology it's the people who make the bottom half of shirts, but there are a few subjects we're not going to get into tonight.  I'm not going to do Hannah Montana - but I can give you an update on what she's been up to.  She was murdered.  And also, we went back and forth on this - but guys, I just don't think we should do that wrecking ball sketch.

BOBBY:  What? I mean, come on...
MILEY:  Sorry Bobby

On the today
TODAY SHOW INTERVIEW
She was a
 TODAY:

IN:  00:00:01

MILEY:  I don't really worry about anything because I know who I am, and I know that I'm and artist and I know that I've put all of this time and this effort into my record and my record is proof of really who I am and you know I said something before - where for me the most important thing is being a really good person and that doesn't depend on what you do on stage - that depends how you treat people when you're off stage - and I know how I treat people, so I'm not really too worried about it.

 

  TODAY


MATT:  Any do-overs in terms of your career right now?  Is there something you'd like to do differently that you've done in the last couple of months? 

MILEY:  I can't change anything. Can't go back, so I can do a lot of things but I can't  change the past - so nothing.  Can't change. but you know, anything I can't control I don't really think about.  I just live my life the way it is and I don't really regret anything.

Can't go back rather than I can't go back, Can't Change, Depersonalize it. Taking away her responsibility for what she did in at the  awards. Then she speeds even faster than her baseline through the, I don't regret anything.
 TODAY:


MATT: Do you have a five-year plan?  You said you don't plan things a second ago.  I think you meant overnight, but do you have a five-year plan?

MILEY:  Not really.  I'm just - I'm focused on when I get to go on tour - which is gonna be next year - which I'm really excited about.  And, so that's really my focus.  My plan is focusing on right now and continuing what I'm doing because everything - I'm the happiest I've ever been in my whole life so I'm really happy to be here.

In the media interviewing BIZ they call that statement aTalking point. It a prewritten rehearsed statement, written by your marketing team. Notice how she  She rushes into it. Letting me know it is prepared statement.
 




Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language Read of Orlando Bloom and Miranda Kerr

Patti read the body language of Orlando and Miranda for Life & Style as they made their entrance at the Broadway play, Romeo and Juliet in NYC.  Patti noted that their bodies create the shape of a heart.  She also noted that with his embrace, it shows that Orlando loves and cherishes Miranda.  His face is soft.  He's at ease with her.  Miranda is posing for the camera, but her body is relaxed.  She's at ease with him too! Patti gives this couple a 4 on the True Love Rating scale!


Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.