Does a
Narcissist Want You to Chase Them?
They like both
pursuing and being pursued; ultimately, they want to control. Malignant Narcissists feel good
when they CONTROL the happiness of others. They get a Narcissistic Supply from
controlling their target's happiness. If the victim pursues them, the Malignant Narcissist can
control the flow of joy by being out of reach and unattainable, just out of reach,
seemingly won, and then out of reach again, in a continuing cycle. They can get
a supply hit from seeing their target's efforts to pursue. When they appear
"gotten," they can get a hit of supply from knowing that it is all a
ruse, a game, and then they can get a bit hit supply from dropping the victim,
disconnecting, ghosting, and then another by reappearing. By controlling and
creating more pleasure in their targets, they can also get hits of narcissistic
supply by withdrawing that source.
So while a typical
relationship on an extreme narcissistic abuse generally
follows three stages of them pursuing and idealizing their target and devaluing, and discarding their target, they
like it when their target is discarded and still wants them and pursues them,
and that is one way the cycle can
repeat numerous times, spinning a merry-go-round where the narcissist and get
the golden ring again and again.
