Research shows that our limbic responds to danger by going
into Freeze, Flight, Fight, Fall/Faint or Friend response. When we are stressed,
doing something wrong or dangerous, or when we are in the presence of someone
who is out of integrity, who is lying, doing something wrong, and or is dangerous
and or pathological our limbic response to the danger. Our blood pressure
rises, our heartbeat increases, our cortisol levels may rise, we may flush to the surface of the skin, or blood may rush from the face and to our extremities, leg,
and hands so we can run and or fight.
Surrendering is realizing you can’t control everything. But
you can let go of people that are out of integrity in your life. You surrender
to the fact they won’t change; they won’t suddenly be who you want them to be. If
they are close to you, you surrender to the loss, surrender to the fantasy of
how you would like the relationship to be or even how it use to be.
And if you must interact with them the best way to stay safe
and stress-free is to surrender your emotional response to them. Go grey rock. Stay
calm and centered. Don’t let them trigger you. Let go of emotional responses or
reactions. If your limbic system still gives you a message of danger listen and
respond, but if it’s just gameplaying don’t play.
