Your central nervous
system is your human lie detector, your early warning system for potential
stress and danger. When you feel safe, when something feels right and true, and
when you are with a good honest person with integrity your central nervous system
is calm. It alerts if there is danger.
For example, your limbic system can read thousands of nonverbal cues in a
fraction of a second in fact when you meet someone.
- Receive the
visual image of a person's face in a hundredth of a second.
- Analyzes
details in a quarter of a second.
- Synthesize all
the information into a single whole.
- Recognizes this
face out of thousands, memory details second.
- Interprets
expression on the face…
- Forms feelings
toward the person
- Decides what to
do with the person.
- Adjust the body
to deal with them.
How can you tell if someone is honest, deceitful, or dangerous?
When you are in the presence of an honest person who has integrity your
body calms and unfolds, breathing deepens moving from high in the chest to the
belly.
When you are in danger your Limbic system will respond with the Freeze,
Flight, Fight, Fall/Faint, or Friend Response. Think of a squirrel in
the road in response to your car coming at them. When we are stressed,
doing something wrong or dangerous, or when we are in the presence of someone
who is out of integrity, lying, or doing something dangerous our limbic system
immediately gets the body ready. A first early warning perhaps hairs may rise
on your arms and legs, and your body will tense and tighten, your blood
pressure will rise, your heartbeat will increase, your cortisol levels may
rise, your breathing rate may increase, you may perspire and you may flush to
the surface of the skin or leave you pale as you freeze in place and or rushes
to your extremities so you can flight and flee... As your blood pressure
increasing the blood mu our blood pressure may rise your run-and-fight
breathing may increase, at any point, your mouth could go dry, you could have
trouble swallowing or yawning, you may perspire heave, start to heave, and or
fight-breathing may increase, your heart rate may increase anymore, you may
perspire, go dry mouth, have trouble swallowing, blink and you may feel nauseous,
YOUR GUT FEELS BAD. You may Freeze in place holding your body tense and tight,
Flight -you may pull back down or away, point or bounce your feet towards an
exit, Fight -tense up and form your hands into fists, feel faint, and or Friend
you may smile, tilt your head and lower and sweeten your voice to sound
unusually passive, even childlike or seductive or charming its accommodating
passivity.
You may give off Comfort Cues when you are with someone bad or in a dire
situation. For example, you may hug yourself, hold your hand touch your
face, adjust your clothing, hold on to the chair arms, or clutch an object
because. Touch stimulates the nerve endings in the
skin so it sends signals to the brain
to release calming endorphins. When we are stressed, the brain
wants to restore itself to “normal” condition. The brain will enlist the body
to provide comforting touch behaviors. In other words, the brain requires the
body to do something that will stimulate nerve endings to release calming
endorphins in the brain so that the brain can be soothed.
AGAIN, THIS IS COMPLETELY DIFFERENT TO HOW YOU FEEL IN THE PRESENCE OF A
True North person. In the presence of a True North good person or a good
situation, your body warms and relaxes, you feel safe, comfortable,
calm, and sometimes both calm and energized in their presence. With free open
relaxed body movements and gestures, you may even notice that your breathing
changes, moving from high on your chest to your belly, is easy full, and deep
with regular interval flowing breaths, and your voice changes, becoming warmer,
fuller, and richer. You feel you can be fully yourself, say and do anything.
Below is a very short video of me
talking about this and the technique to know if you are with a good person you
can trust.
http://youtu.be/QQw4PCi18i0
You feel good after you are with them. You can get a highly charged
feeling of euphoria when you meet the Right Person, which means you still feel
good after you are with them. Your body has not had to go overdrive, so you
feel good. When you are with an emotionally toxic person, your central nervous
system goes on in overdrive to protect you. It may push tons of adrenaline and
cortisol into your system while you are with them, giving you a high, but that
is your body in danger mode of Freeze, Flight Fight, Fall, or Friend response. It
is quite different from the pleasant limerence high of love, and one of those
differences can be monitored by how you feel AFTER you are with them and how
you feel when you are about to see them. Do you think overstimulated with
racing thoughts and worries about what you said and did or what they might say
or do, or are you pleasantly excited?
2) How can someone tell if a gut feeling is based on emotion versus
intuition? Why is this an important distinction? There is a difference between
stereotypes and intuition. Stereotypes are based on past experiences and
prejudice and are formed in the neocortex where word language is formed and is extremely
low in accuracy, and you can feel highly emotional about your stereotypes or
preconceptions. Intuition or your gut response should take place in the limbic
system where emotions and body language are processed and is based on thousands
of cues you're able to detect and process so quickly that you may not be able
to have words to describe how you know
3) How can believing you are lucky increase your chances of being lucky? How
does curiosity relate here and increase your chances for positive
opportunities? Pay conscious attention to what your body is saying to you. When
you are with new people, are in new situations, or making a decision do a
“Check In” scan of your body. What is your body language? Are you relaxed or
tense? Is your body open or closed? Write it all down. Record your gut
instincts. Then see if you were right. The more you notice, the more you can
improve. Research says that Judges are some of the best judges of deception
detection because they meet new people and have new situations, they have a gut
feeling they typically have notes on that feeling and then they see if they are
right and keep improving.
