According to research that I discuss in my book, SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma are Credibility Likeability Attractiveness, and Power on a first date we often prioritize attractiveness. The top two things we look for on a first date are. I think they are attractive
and humor.
Attractiveness
We are attracted to
bilateral symmetry – when the body or face
is perfectly balanced – has a subliminal effect on first impressions Researchers
have also found correlations between symmetry and health, which lends itself to
the theory that in looking for a mate, humans and other animals look for those
who will be most healthy and free of disease Research has shown that women are
more attracted to men with more symmetrical features. One study even found that
women have more orgasms during sex with men who are more symmetrical,
regardless of their level of romantic attachment or the guy’s sexual
experience. How about that?
Men are more likely to have their own personal physical
ideal so on a first date they are looking for the qualities in the date to see
how they rate with their ideal woman, as in short blonde, talk skinny with long
dark hair etc,
Both genders look at the eyes first and are attracted to
large pupils and find someone that gives healthy conversational eye contact
more likable.
Appearing more dominant effectively draws the
attraction of women. To attract women, stand with your feet 6-10 inches apart,
and toes pointing outward
Research shows that women are attracted to men
wearing the color blue. Blue is the color of approachability, stability,
constancy, reliability and calmness
Humor is sexy.
The research shows women like men who make
them laugh, and men like women who laugh at their jokes.
Recent research
suggests that while both men and women say they like a "good sense of
humor" in a potential mate, they differ in what they mean by this phrase.
Women tend to prefer men who make them laugh, whereas men tend to prefer women
who laugh at their jokes. Gil Greengross and Geoffrey Miller found in a sample
of 400 university students that general intelligence and verbal intelligence
both predicted humor production ability (writing captions for cartoons), which
in turn predicted lifetime number of sexual partners (a proxy of
reproductive success).
