Johnny & Amber - Chill in the Air

Engagements are meant to be blissful, but Johnny Depp, 50, and Amber Heard, 28, didn't get the memo.  At a May 6 event, Johnny forced a smile and put his arm around Amber, but Patti observes that Amber is not giving herself fully.  The way she holds her arm over her pelvis shows she has been harmed by infidelity.  The ice barely thawed as Amber visited Johnny on set June 2, notice how Amber has crossed her arms in front as he kisses her.  As if she does not want to be kissed!

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Magic Phrases

When you get nonverbal signals such as comfort cues around a particular topic there are magic phrases that you can use to get the person to tell you the truth about what's going on. 

What can I do to make you feel comfortable talking about this? 

I know you'll feel so much better if we can talk about what's going on.

I know you'll feel so much better and the tension you're feeling will ease as soon as you share what's going on. 

  

When giving coaching or criticism or asking for a change in behavior you want the person you're giving the coaching to to feel comfortable listening to you fully and assure them that the working relationship is important. 

Especially for supporters and influencers on the disc personality assessment who are people that are focused and they need to know you will still like them after you criticize them.  You need to make them know you value them as team members

I value our working relationship 

I want you to know as I share a way to take your game to a new level this is about your game not about you. 

Let's talk about a way you can play even better for the team.

I value you as a team member.

  

After you've given somebody an assignment you can ask some of these questions.

What's the best way to make this happen quickly? 

Is this the best way to make this happen easily?

What would be a barrier to making this happen?

What would keep this from being able to happen quickly and easily?

What are your concerns going forward with this?

What are your top three concerns going forward with it?

What are two thoughts you have about this project? 

I don't know if I've been clear with this assignment or not can you pretend like you're sending me an email to do it and tell me what you'd say in the email? 

What are the questions that you have about what I expect from you on this?

What would make this easy to do or what would make this easier to do? 

What would be the challenges to making this? 

What would be the first thing that you would need to do to make this happen?

What would be the first to make this happen?

When you get back to your desk what will you need to make this happen?

What can I do to make you feel comfortable talking about this?

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Walking Styles of Men and What They Reveal

Patti was interviewed by Men's Health on the walking style of men.  Check the link below to read her insights.

http://www.menshealth.com/best-life/walking-style

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Looks Can Deceive

Nuzzling Casper Smart, 27, at an Oscars afterparty in 2012, Jennifer Lopez, 44, looks like she is focused on her beau. Not so, observes Patti.  "She's posing for the camera.  Her heart is centered on the camera.  And her eyes are not on him."

By contrast, at this year's Billboard Music Awards, J. Lo wasn't as tuned-out as she appears.  "Her body is more turned toward him and she has a playful energy.  It tells Patti that there is some playfulness in their relationship.

Patti gives this couple in 2012 a 3 on the Life & Style True Love Rating scale.

Patti gives this couple in May of 2014 a 4 1/2 on the Life & Style True Love Rating scale.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to Read Your Date's Body Language - Clue #5

Body-language clue #5: The Stance
Compatibility clues are even located in an area that’s ordinarily overlooked: The feet. “Where the feet go, the heart follows,” says Wood. “The lower portion of the body is under the least control, and the feet are the most telling of how someone feels.” So if your date is thinking, “Hey, I really like this person,” his feet will move towards you—say, he’ll stretch his legs out under the table at dinner. That’s a very clear declaration of “Let’s get closer.” - See more at: http://www.match.com/magazine/article/13075/Read-Your-Dates-Body-Language/D#sthash.FLOIn7dP.dpuf

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.