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Top Dark Murder Mystery Novels, List of Recommended Mysteries


Top Murder Mystery Novels

List of Recommended Series and Dark Mysteries

by Patti Wood

 

Kate Atkinson -If you have not read her work, start with behind the Scenes at the Museum and go from there. Her novels are lovely, complex reads. The detective novels are the Jackson Brodie novels. In When Will there be Good News -Atkinson writes about truly horrific matters, often involving violence against women. She brings such remarkable tonal range to her material—four revolving narrators alternate between wit and somber reflection.  Human Croquet (1997).  There is one passage where a character who was adopted as a baby by an older couple is discussed; that says they were an old couple who only knew about gin and canasta, so they taught him both. Oh my gosh, I love it. She describes the character's little quirks of body language so very well. Other writers have adapted the four Jackson Brodie novels for the BBC under the series titled Case Histories, featuring Jason Isaacs as Brodie. I have read everything she has ever written. I love her work.

Defiantly one of the best murder mystery series in modern fiction.

 

Elizabeth George – Her Inspector Linley Mysteries are so well written. Linley's partner Barbra Havers is one of the most interesting, vulnerable, and authentic mystery characters I have ever had the pleasure of getting to know in fiction. If you read all her novels, you will get the painful delight of seeing how she handles a moral dilemma in a case involving her neighbor and the neighbor's daughter. I loved traveling the arch of her character. She is one of those fictional characters that feel like a family member, a troubled family member, but a family.

 

Henning Mankell - I loved all his dark, disturbing, and prose-filled novels. Wallender has an interesting relationship with his father and his daughter that is fascinating to follow throughout the series. The best of the books is told from his daughter's perspective. There are 13 books in the Wallander series, and he also has other excellent novels. Unfortunately, the BBC version of the stories was dark as well.

 

Tana French - The best of her novels is "The Secret Place" A year after the brutal murder of a young man at a posh school for girls, the case remains unsolved. Then 16-year-old Holly Mackey approaches Detective Stephen Moran with a tantalizing clue. French brilliantly and plausibly channels the craziness of youth and shared bonds of friends. Her other books are ok, but this one was special.

 

Peter Hoeg- I have only read this Danish author's work, "Smilla's Sense of Snow" The main character is an expert on ice/snow, and she helps solve a murder case with her expertise in a way that speaks to the quirkiness of my body language expertise. Smilla is 37, unmarried, and, like Isaiah, part of Denmark's small Eskimo/Greenlander community. She is also a minor Danish authority on the properties and classification of ice. Smilla is never less than believable in her contradictions--caustic, caring, thoughtful, impulsive, determined, and above all, rebellious. The best translation of a book I have ever read, the translator Nunnally won an award for best translation.

 

Dennis McFarland - A Face at the Window, Wow!  What a book. It's a deep, disturbing ghost story, a page-turner, and a sophisticated bit of literature. I loved how it got me inside the head of an intelligent and troubled man. In that respect, it reminded me of another good read from years ago, Presumed Innocent. FYI another book that was better than the movie. A quote for A Face at the Window.

 "One Monday morning about a year and a half ago, in late autumn, I woke with a vague awareness of a long dullish instrument of some kind, maybe the butt-end of a medieval halberd, being alternately inserted and withdrawn at the small of my back." The best modern ghost story I have ever read. Read this and then read Frankenstein, the best horror book of all time, written by a 17-year-old girl.

 

Steig Larson –"The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo." I read the other Larson novels and found them too disturbing, and for a gal that's read well over 1,000 murder mysteries, that says a lot. 

 

Paula Hawkins – I loved The Girl on the Train. But not because it was an exceptionally well-written novel. I found the journey of the Girl and the story so addictive sad, and disturbing. It's one of those books like "Her Husband's Secret." I wanted my friends and family to read it so I could talk to them about what this character did and what they thought about the effect of her choices.

 

Michael Chabon- I love his work. He is such an incredible writer. "The Yiddish Policemen Union" draws on the obscure historical fact that FDR proposed Alaska become the postwar Jewish homeland. Chabon constructs a nightmarish world in frigid Sitka, where black humor is a kind of life-supporting antifreeze and where a browbeaten detective, Meyer Landsman, must stave off Armageddon. The novel combines satire, homage, metaphor, and genuine suspense in delectable prose seasoned with all manner of Yiddish wordplay.

 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights, go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Also, check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Do You Know a Stand-Up Guy or Stand-Up Gal? Are You a Stand-Up Person for Someone?

Do You Know a Stand-Up Guy or Stand-Up Gal?
 Are You a Stand-Up Person for Someone?

My dad was a Stand-Up Guy, and I didn’t know it. The other night I was talking to my mom about love and she shared a story about my dad.  Many of you know my parents met and married seven days later. (Read that romantic story here)

Sitting in the convertible on the beach under a full Miami moon, my dad proposed and my mother turned him down. She gestured to her hearing aids, two large transistors in the pockets of her dress and the chords going to her ears and said, “I can’t hear well and you deserve to marry someone without a hearing problem.” My dad responded, “That will never be a problem.” “We will take care of it.” And he did. My mom said, in the many years that they were married and she still had the hearing problem, he never once said, “You are not listening.” Or “You need to pay attention.” In all those years he never in any way mentioned it or demeaned her or made her feel less than.” Not once.  She said, “He saw me as a whole person, so I could see myself that way.” Now by this time I am crying on the other end of the phone, because I didn’t know this about my dad and my heart is just filling up. I fell in love with my dad again. I thought about how much love they had. It would have been so easy for anyone to such a disability as weakness against their partner.

My mom goes on to share that my dad spent years researching her hearing problem and after I was born finally found a doctor at the Mayo Clinic and my mother had surgery, in fact eventually six surgeries which my father researched, interviewed doctors about and arranged every other detail to make happen. My dad was a Stand-Up Guy. Suddenly, so many things about the deep affection my parents had for each other, how they always held hands, how she looked at him with love, even though he was a tough man to love at times made sense. For me this story was a revelation and it made me think about all the Stand-Up Guys and Stand-Up Women I know. The people that do the right thing, the moral and good thing, who give of themselves even for just a moment can heal, change and inspire you. How they can help you stand up in life. My father died when I was in college and my parents didn’t share this story with my sisters and I and I am so glad my mom shared it. 

I have been asking friends and audience members to share stories of their stand up friends, family colleagues and more. I have heard some beautiful, heart tugging stories. Stories about doctors that serve patients in extraordinary ways, stories about special moms and dads, of support through divorce, job loss, illness and depression. I have heard stories about open hearted mentorship, and even a story about a guy who talked on the phone to the wee hours so that a friend who was struggling could fall asleep comforted with the phone against her ear. What a great gift it is to know a Stand-Up Person.

I would love to hear more stories of Stand-Up People, so please send them on. Write it down, just a few words, or share it in voice to text or record it and then please share it. I want to hear about these people in your life and what they have meant to you. In my body language programs on deception detection and my programs on leadership I share a method you can use to recognize if someone is credible, if they are a person of integrity.  You can read the short version of the method here: http://www.pattiwood.net/article.asp?PageID=10452 

Good people make you feel good, and giving of yourself, being selfless, even for moment, can give back to you and enlarge your heart. Ask someone today if they have known or know a Stand-Up person and perhaps, pull your shoulders back a little and bring your head high, open your heart and know the strength and love inside you that always gives you the opportunity to Stand Up! 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

First Meeting of Obama and Trump, What the Body Language Reveals

How Obama out-manspreaded Trump: Body language expert reveals the truth behind that very awkward-looking first meeting between the pair at the White House

·         Obama and Trump put on a united front when they met at the White House
·         Body language expert Patti Wood analyzed the meeting for DailyMail.com
·         She described Obama as 'extremely fatigued, resigned and not hopeful
·         Trump was 'tentative, serious and perhaps fearful', Wood revealed
·         Hand position suggests 'he learned something he didn't know before

Click the link below for the full body language read:

 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     



http://www.newsweek.com/whats-donald-trump-hiding-his-body-language-says-it-all-541941




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Trump's Body Language in the Muir Interview Voter Fraud, and Nuclear Codes

Here are my rough notes on Trump's body language, for a media interview. Forgive any spelling or grammatical errors.

Trump sits with his legs far apart in classic alpha male seating position of power. Muir questioned Trump about his voter fraud numbers of 3 to five million and Muir said, “..That would be the largest voter fraud in history, “ Trump takes his downward prayer steeple and flings his fingers out in symbolic weapon to strike out at Muir then interlocks them to hold his own hand then goes back again into  downward prayer to gain internal control, as he battles the statement saying it was, “.. It was so misrepresented…that was supposed to be confidential meeting….I said it and I said it strongly.”

As he argues with Muir Trump says, “I am going to do an investigation…” as he holds up both hands palm open slightly downward in a stop and suppress motion to Muir. Trump flings out his finger in symbolic attack, he points his left finger to symbolically shoot Muir with his left hand while holding his right hand more cupped as a shield and he interrupts Muir several times.
When discussing the Pew report Muir says, “What you have said about Fraud has been debunked. Trump says, “No it hasn’t.” “Take a look at the Pew report” (as a source to support his claims of Fraud.

As he says, “Take a look at the Pew report. “ His voice becomes loud and certain and his head goes forward. Then in the next moment when Muir says he talked to Pew and Pew said his report does not support voter fraud Trump says, “According to the Pew report… “then he pauses realizing he was just told it does not support him and finishes the sentence “… then, He (Pure) is groveling again” and then he denigrates the report and Pure as a groveling reporter as he does this he holds his downward steeple to gain internal control again, then clasps his hands together to center himself and gain strength.. So in one sentence he quotes the report as support stops mid sentence and denigrates the writer of the report and the report.

 When Muir says in follow up to Trump talking about voter fraud and says he wants to ask about something bigger Trump put his both hands up in  stop push down motion and says, “There is nothing bigger,” “There is nothing bigger…” and then goes onto to say, “…millions of people agree with me.” Note here that his posture has gone down and forward and he again goes into the resting posture of holding his own hand.

When Trump is asked about his visit to the CIA and the crowd size and when he will let it roll off his back. Trump says that his speech was a, “Home run” and that he got a standing ovation for a long period of time and they never sat down for long period of time.” As he holds his arms close to his chest and flings out both hands to fling Muir’s question away. Then Trump says, “You and couples of other reporters tried to downplay that speech…” He flings his fingers toward Muir again, symbolically flinging Muir’s statements away then at time code ---he grimaces and as he has down before in the interview holds up both hands with the fore fingers in symbolic pistols and the  bottom fingers curled like hands on the triggers and holds then pointed at Muir’s head. (This is a very proactive image.)

Part of my whole victory is that the men and women who have been forgotten, will never be forgotten again, part of that is when they try to demean me unfairly “cause” we had a massive crowd of people, we had a crowd. “I looked out at that sea of people, and as he says that he does something very interesting he at time code ---- he holds his hands outward and down showing he feels he controlled and was omnipotent over the crowd.  Typically speakers hands go up to honor a massive audience. They cup up and our  to hold and embrace and even lift up the crowd. Speakers typically only hold their  hands  and bring them down to suppress the crowds noise. So for him to be describing the big crowds and go into a crowd suppress motion it interesting. He may be doing that to continue to suppress Muir’s line of questioning but he is doing as he continues he hands go out, “WOW!” and he first holds his hands out on the wow and then instead of going further out he pushes his hands in to hold in the wow in a motion that is confusing, unless he doesn’t fully believe the word wow he is saying.

Later in the interview when they are walking and he is asked hearing about the nuclear codes Trump moves his hands and arms that have been at his sides swinging very slightly in a very front  pelvis in a  natural protective motion as he walks. When he is asked if hearing about the codes and possible destruction keeps him up at night. He says, “NO…” and then his arms come up and he holds them out expansively and confidently and flings out his finger in power as he continues the thought, “…confident I will do the right thing… the right job.”













Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Why Donald-Trump-avoids-holding-hands-Melania.html



http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4191956/


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Reading Job Candidate Body Language, Job Interviewer Tips

Here is a piece I did on how to give a good interview with body language insights.


http://recruitingsocial.com/2017/02/body-language-in-interviews/


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language Read of Trump and Melania



"Trump's saying, I'm on my own, I am singular, I am president."






Here is the link http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a8647744/body-language-donald-melania-trump/

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

#FreeMelania: Twitter sends out call to ‘save’ Trump’s wife


In the wake of a compromising video shot during the inauguration of Donald Trump, the Internet has sent out an ironic SOS to #FreeMelania.

The clip, which was filmed as Rev. Franklin Graham was delivering a blessing to the new president, shows Melania smiling brightly at her husband as he looks over his shoulder, and quickly dissolves into a scowl once his back is turned. It has sparked speculation that the first lady is unhappy in her role and has subsequently placed the Trumps’ relationship under the virtual microscope.

Naturally, Twitter users have been having a field day with the clip and other snapshots from inauguration day.

The interactions between the president and first lady were in stark contrast to those between Barack and Michelle Obama on inauguration day. While the outgoing first couple were caught in a few spontaneous tender moments and were generally seen smiling and laughing, the Trumps barely made any physical or eye contact.

“They are a very different couple than the Obamas,” says Patti Wood, a body language expert and professional speaker. “Couples who are connected will lean up against each other, briefly touch or kiss, and offer helpful gestures, like when Barack took Melania’s gift from Michelle.”

“When [Donald] glanced back in the video, he wasn’t looking directly at Melania and didn’t make a connection. Her smile was up and energetic, but there wasn’t a warm connection that was broken. It looks more like she was hoping for a connection.”

Wood says there were several gestures that he made that indicated he doesn’t think they’re on the same plane as a couple. When they arrived at the White House to greet the Obamas, he walked up the stairs without waiting for Melania to exit the car. Similarly, during their inaugural dance, he pulled away from her.

“Those were all interesting choices,” she says. “He could have made small changes toward his wife to indicate that he honours her. Instead, he didn’t do anything to make her feel comfortable.”
The Trumps have just celebrated their 12th wedding anniversary.

Link to full article - http://globalnews.ca/news/3204415/freemelania-twitter-sends-out-call-to-save-trumps-wife/

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body language expert explain Donald and Melania Trump’s relationship

Body language experts explain Donald and Melania Trump’s relationship

http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/marriage/body-language-experts-explain-donald-and-melania-trumps-relationship/news-story/8c0424df65c1f9fd1566cc43835f62a7 
If you found yourself watching the presidential inauguration and thinking, ‘Geez, you could cut the tension between Donald and Melania Trump with a knife’ you weren’t alone.
During the President’s first week in office, social media has been quick to scrutinise the relationship between the new First Family — and how it compares to that of former President Barack Obama and his wife, Michelle.
On Inauguration Day, the Trumps stepped out of their black security car to greet the Obamas who were waiting outside the White House.
This was the first moment body language expert, Patti Wood — who has been studying interactions between celebrity couples for more than 20 years — noted as the first flaw in the unit.
“What I didn’t see when they stepped out of that car was warmth or tenderness,” Ms Wood told news.com.au.
“There were several ways in which Trump could’ve waited for his wife before greeting the Obamas, which he failed to do.
“Instead, he walked ahead and left her behind, showing that he is more important and takes precedence.”
Ms Wood said that while President Trump could’ve escorted the First Lady up the stairs, or given the gift to the Obamas as a couple — “he didn’t make the choice we wanted him to make”.
“The big ticker for me is that he didn’t even look back, check on his wife and formally introduce her to the Obamas,” she said.
“He didn’t make eye contact or smile at her, and he didn’t bring her into the fold.
“During the gift exchange, it looked like he had told her what to do with the box.
“It didn’t indicate they were a unit.”
Ms Wood said while the day is about the new President, the meeting at the White House is more a family exchange — from one unit to another.
“The Obamas made her feel welcome, but I didn’t see him make her feel that way,” she said.
“Meeting at the White House is for one family welcoming the other, but from what we saw — it didn’t look like the Trumps were a unit.
The rest of the story. 
http://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/marriage/body-language-experts-explain-donald-and-melania-trumps-relationship/news-story/8c0424df65c1f9fd1566cc43835f62a7
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Melania Trump and Donald Trump's body language throughout the inauguration weekend, as compared with Barack Obama and Michelle Obama.

I analyzed Melania Trump and Donald Trump's body language throughout the inauguration weekend, as compared with Barack Obama and Michelle Obama. I shared what we can learn about Trump and his relationship with Melania through their body language. Below is a link to the article and the video that I watched.

https://mic.com/articles/166340/trump-melania-dance-inauguration-2017-awkward-behavior-experts-explain-compare-barack-michelle-obama#.tfXVKGlHi

Here are a few photos, gifs and video clips the journalist sent me. What do you think?










Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language of Hillary, Obama, Trump and Melania at the presidential Inauguration

Here is a piece I did on the body language of Hilary, Obama, Trump and Melania at the presidential inauguration.


EXCLUSIVE - Hillary is fearful, Trump is selfish, and Obamas are sympathetic to Melania because Donald does not attend to her needs: Body language expert gives inauguration insights
  • Hillary Clinton appeared 'fearful' before making her entrance at inauguration on Friday says body language expert Patti Wood, pointing to how her body froze
  • 'She is steeling herself to make this entrance and her freeze response shows that she has a stark fear about what is going to happen,' said Wood
  • Wood also said it showed 'weakness' when Hillary kept her eyes on the ground and her feet when she walked down the steps to her seat
  • Meanwhile, the relationship between Barack and Michelle Obama is just as perfect as it appears based on their body language said Wood
  • The couple were also sympathetic to Melania Trump when she arrived at the White House on Friday said Wood, with the Obama s realizing she was nervous
  • Donald is selfish at times and does not a read the rest on the link. 


http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4142298/Hillary-fearful-inauguration-Obamas-help-Melania.html

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Trump's Press Conference Body Language, Newsweek Magazine


WHAT’S DONALD TRUMP HIDING? HIS BODY LANGUAGE SAYS IT ALL
BY JESSICA FIRGER ON 1/12/17 AT 1:02 PM

Experts have long known that humans communicate with much more than just words. Nonverbal cues are critical in everyday situations, from parenting effectively to dating to acing a job interview, or even getting served in a timely fashion at a restaurant.
These cues are also important for assessing and forming opinions about the people around us, including public figures. Plenty of research shows that hand gestures, posture and facial expression and other visual communication cues (even how close a person stands near others) are ripe for interpretation. Often-cited (and debated) research from psychologist Albert Mehrabian suggests that 55 percent of human communication is through body language, 38 percent is the tone of voice and only 7 percent of the message understood is the result of the words that come out of a person’s mouth. This assertion may not hold true in all circumstances, but it does suggest that nonverbal cues are critical to communication.
What makes this particularly interesting is that often these visual cues don’t match up with what the person says, especially when it comes to people in public prominence. More recent research suggests that when people’s nonverbal communication isn’t in line with their words, these visual cues are probably a better way to read their thoughts and feelings. Take, for example, Donald Trump.
On Wednesday, Trump held his first press conference as the incoming commander in chief. The event quickly turned raucous as Trump denied he had any involvement with the Russian government and criticized members of the press. Amid his more obvious, aggressive forms of communication (yelling and finger-pointing) was a message that the president-elect is on the defensive and perhaps has a little something to hide, says Patti Wood, a body language expert for more than 30 years, speaker and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma.
Wood has been analyzing the nonverbal communication of politicians since George W. Bush Jr. was in the White House, and she has made some interesting observations about Adolf Hitler’s salutes and Sarah Palin’s winks. Trump, she says, is a great study of how a person’s gesturing, posture and facial expressions can be both confusing and persuasive.
“He is the perfect person to say the nonverbal has the power,” she says of Trump. “People don’t hear the words, they don’t really pay attention to the verbal message. It doesn’t matter at all.”
When Wood assesses someone’s communication skills—verbal and nonverbal—she thinks about what’s customary for any person in a given scenario and environment (in this case, a high-profile press conference held by the president-elect). She also considers the “baseline” behavior of that particular person. Wood has been studying Trump’s idiosyncratic communication habits over the past 18 months and says there have been some small changes in the way he addresses the public since he began campaigning for the presidency. For example, Trump now raises his hands higher when he gestures, suggesting he may have a higher opinion of himself after winning the election.
The way he evokes feelings through facial expression has also evolved. In the beginning of his campaign, Trump had what she calls a “broad emotional range,” meaning he could move freely from facial cues of laughter to rage and anger. “And then I noticed a transition where he stayed in anger more often,” she says.
But there are also many things that remain consistent, such as his habit of evading questions and then providing an answer that’s seemingly unrelated and ultimately falls apart into fragmented language. “His baseline is often the baseline of someone being deceptive,” says Wood, adding that these are communication cues she looks for when asked to analyze a video of an interrogation. “He’s someone who doesn’t use complete sentences and chooses to answer questions with an odd mix of words. That would typically be an indication of deception.”
That verbal communication is underscored by some visual cues, such as Trump’s trademark gesture: an emoji-like AOK symbol with his index finger and thumb touching at the tips. In public speaking, many people are trained to clench their thumb and finger tips together to evoke the message “I’m being precise.”However, Trump’s gesture is different, and Wood says that can be confusing to people watching and listening. In that way, the hand movement becomes a great distraction from his imprecise verbal communication.
Trump, Wood adds, also uses plenty of “weapon-like gesturing.” This includes “chopping motions,” which he employed on Wednesday when he declared, “I have no ties with Russia.” When he reprimanded BuzzFeed for leaking an unverified intelligence document outlining his ties to the Russian government, he moved his hands aside as if “pushing something out of the way,” Wood says. That’s a less subtle visual cue. Unsurprisingly, it’s one of the uncommon occurrences when his verbal and nonverbal communication actually match up.
Even when Trump isn’t standing before a mic, his body language sends plenty of strong messages. (It didn’t take a Ph.D. to conclude that Trump’s lurking behind Hillary Clinton while she answered questions during the second presidential debate was an attempt to intimidate her.)
During Wednesday’s press conference, after giving up the podium to Sheri Dillon, Trump’s attorney, others on the stage, including his daughter Ivanka and son-in-law Jared Kushner, stood formally with arms folded, hands in front of their groins. This is what’s known in the public speaking world as the “fig leaf position” since private parts are being shielded. It’s a stance that’s customary at public meetings like press conferences and evokes respect but also vulnerability.
Trump wasn’t guarding his loins at this point. He stood on the sideline swaying back and forth, what Wood calls “self-soothing.” He could also be seen biting his lip several times, a subconscious behavioral cue that indicates “self-punishing” and suppressed anger, she says.
In several instances, Trump turned his head slightly to see behind him, which reflects a “primal need to be an alpha animal and know your territory,” Wood adds. It also didn’t take long before Trump’s entire body faced the audience. Meaning: “I want to be the center of attention.”
In short, she says, the 45th president of the United States looked bored.








Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How Important is Appearance in a Job Interview/


Many people know that most hiring decisions are made in the first 10 seconds of the interview and then the interviewer gather information to confirm their first impression. So appearance does matter. 

Research shows the validity of the “What is beautiful is good stereotype and that people judge attractive individuals more positively. In my book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma I share that the four first impression factors are Credibly, Likeability, Attractiveness and Power and it’s interesting that attractive people are often perceived as having the other three factors. In terms of “Appearance” If someone is well dressed and well groomed, it gives them credibility. If there dress is high end (expensive) and high status, and or they give power cues, like taking up space verbally and visually, and giving extended eye contact we typically perceive them as powerful. And if they smile sincerely and give off other warm cues we perceive them as likable. And by the way all of those assessments can be done in the limbic system in as little as 1/300th of a second.

Here is some of the scientific data.
Substantial empirical evidence and three meta-analyses have firmly established the existence and validity of a "what-is- beautiful-is-good stereotype" (e.g., Dion, Berscheid, & Walster, 1972; Eagly et al, 1991; Feingold, 1992; Jackson et al., 1995). For example, meta-analyses by Eagly et al. (1991) and Feingold (1992) showed that attractiveness has (a) a strong effect on perceptions of social competence, social skills, and sexual warmth, (b) a moderate effect on perceptions of intellectual competence, potency, adjustment, dominance, and general mental health, and (c) a weak effect on perceptions of integrity and concern for others. In addition, sex-of-target differences were observed for the perceptions of sexual warmth and intellectual competence. More specifically, the effects of attractiveness on perceptions of sexual warmth were stronger for women than for men (Feingold, 1992). However, the effects of attractiveness on perceptions of intellectual competence were stronger for men than for women (Jackson et al., 1995).

Furthermore, more recent meta-analyses (Langlois et al., 2000) have shown that (a) following actual interaction with others, perceivers judge attractive individuals more positively (e.g., in terms of interpersonal competence, occupational competence, social appeal, adjustment) and treat them more favorably (e.g., visual/ social attention, positive interaction, reward, help/cooperation, acceptance) than less attractive individuals, and (b) attractive individuals experience more positive outcomes in life (e.g., occupational success, popularity, dating experience, sexual experience, physical health) than less attractive individuals."



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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language Read of J Lo and Drake by Patti Wood Body Language Expert

Jennifer Lopez and Drake have everyone talking about their new romance after they both posted an intimate photo of themselves snuggling up to the camera. Is their relationship all for show or is it the real deal? HollywoodLife.com reached out to top body language expert Patti Wood who gave us the EXCLUSIVE 411 on this sexy pair.


There’s no mistaking that Jennifer Lopez, 47, and Drake, 30, look like one happy couple in the adorable photo they both shared on Instagram on Dec. 28. And body language expert Patti Wood agrees! “It’s significant that JLo’s eyes are closed because she’s typically looking at the camera. In this photo, she’s in the moment with Drake,” Patti explains. “The eyes closed is a very vulnerable way of presenting herself non-verbally. In the moment means she’s actually experiencing the connection with him.” Awe!
What about Drake? Is he just playing games with the megastar or does he have real feelings for the beauty? “I like how Drake’s arm is wrapped around JLo and how his hand is wrapped lightly around her wrist with his relaxed fingers. This shows that Drake is confident and relaxed,” Patti tells us. “It makes the moment more tender as well. I think she feels cherished by him, that he’s a sweetie-pie. Her body is relaxed. She’s cuddled in.” We love it!
As we told you earlier, J.Lo seems to be quite taken with the Canadian singer. In fact, the mother of two is “smitten” with Drake, a source revealed to PEOPLE.  “Jen is looking forward with excitement to the new year. She keeps hanging out with Drake, and he has visited her house,” a friend of J.Lo’s told the outlet. Sounds serious!


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Let’s Celebrate Christmas till July

Let’s Celebrate Christmas till July
Rough Draft by Patti Wood

 Spent two hours untangling the Christmas lights
 Strung them up, then they didn’t work right
 Went to three stores to find more in white
 Decorating the tree will take all night

I’m keeping up all the Christmas lights
Santa can see them next time he flies by
I’m not taking down our tree all bright
Let’s celebrate Christmas till July

Not packing up the boughs down the banister
I’m not retying all those big red bows
Not baking more cookies for the canister
No more cooking for me. You heat up all I froze

I’m keeping up the Christmas lights
Santa can see them next time he flies by
I’m not taking down our tree all bright
Let’s celebrate Christmas till July

I’ve picked up and vacuumed this house enough
I’ve filled ten garbage bags with all our trash
I’ve battled crowds and traffic to buy you stuff
Let’s enjoy it and next year give me cash

I’m keeping up the Christmas lights
Santa can see them next time he flies by
I’m not taking down our tree all bright
Let’s celebrate Christmas till July

I want to sit with my feet up by the fireplace
And listen to each Christmas carol
I want us together not rushed let’s feel God’s grace
And drink a little mulled wine, make that a barrel

I’m keeping up the Christmas lights
Santa can see them next year when he flies by
I’m not taking down our tree all bright
Let’s celebrate Christmas
Let’s celebrate Christmas
Let’s celebrate Christmas tilllll July


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.