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How to o Solve Changing the Temperature on the Thermostat Arguments.

The E.R.A.S.E.R. Method

How to Solve Changing the Temperature on the Thermostat arguments.

by Patti A. Wood

The E.R.A.S.E.R. Method

by Patti A. Wood

Are you upset, irritated or angry with your partner or roommate because you can’t agree on the thermostat settings? Are you frustrated because you have the same argument over and over again? The ERASER Method is a step-by-step process to create a script of your message and word it in such a way as to make it easy to give and easy to hear! You can avoid misunderstanding and lessen defensiveness in the receiver of your message. It prepares you for positive discussion and makes it possible to ERASE the Thermostat problem.

STEP E Be Exact: Describe the offensive behavior on paper, then answer the ``W'' questions noted above regarding the behavior.

Exact Express your concerns in exact terms. Don't use generalizations like, ``Every time you...'' or ``You never think of me...'' or ``You always...'' Also, don't guess at or express an opinion as to why they do what they do. For example, ``You don’t care about how cold I am or you would...''

Example, “In the last three weeks you have turned down the thermostat to less than 59 degrees all most every night before we go to bed.”

Example, “In the last week we have argued about the thermostat five times.”

STEP R state the result Know the result. As yourself, ``What is the concrete result of the offending behavior

Result After you've described the behavior, the person may still not understand why they should change their behavior. You may need to give them a result, i.e., tell them what happens as a result of the behavior.

Examples:

``When you do that, I am so cold that no matter what I wear to bed I am too cold to sleep”

``In the arguments we both raise are voices and say things we regret later.

STEP A

Aware There are times when it's obvious from the steam escaping from your ears that the person's behavior is upsetting to you. Sometimes it is not so obvious, especially to the offending person. Clue them in. Notice what emotion their behavior arouses in you and communicate it to them.

Example:

“I know that saving money is important to you and I know we need to keep to a budget, and I also know that when I am that cold, that miserable and don’t sleep it affects every part of my life, my work, my time with you and the kids, and I worry that you don’t see how miserable I am and it makes me feel you don’t care about me.

Example:

The arguments affect our ability to have quality time with the kids, I think you notice how upset they get and we both agree that arguing so much is a bad example for the kids.

Notice these statements are worded carefully. Absent are statements like, ``You made me angry.'' By using an ``I'' statement, you avoid arguments. No one can argue with an ``I'' statement. It's pretty difficult for someone to tell you how you do or don't feel about something. Your feelings are your feelings. There are times when this step is very significant.

Granted, there are partners who only need to know what really aggravates you to be motivated to continue the behavior!

STEP S Switch the behavior. Suggest and recommend the behavior you would like to see occurring in place of the current offensive behavior.

Switch Examples:

``Can we sit down with the electric bill and our budget Saturday afternoon when we both have some energy and come up with a compromise that works for us?

“I have looked at our bill and our budget, here they are. What if we choose to each give up two things from our personal expenses that add up to the 20 dollars a month increase in the bill and set the thermostat at 68 at night for two months and see if that works/

STEP E Evidence—establish and agree on the behavior change.

Evidence If you're concerned that the person may backslide into old behaviors, you can ask for an agreement as to what the change will look like. Perhaps you can set a time frame when you both will be observing the changed behavior, or a specific number of times you would like to see the behavior.

Examples: Lets plan on checking in on this date with each other, I will fix your favorite that beef stew for dinner and we can see if we both.

This example includes a reward step see below.

Reward Some people are motivated by rewards; some are persuaded through the prospect of punishment. Think about what motivates the person you are talking to. Would it be helpful to give them a specific reward if they erase the old behavior and switch to a new one? What punishment could you present as a possibility if they don't? Caution—make sure it's something you absolutely, positively will do. If you won't carry through on this step, it's powerless. They must know you mean business.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Signs of a toxic workplace, Narcissism in the Workplace. How do Narcissists effect corporate culture and their employees. Patti Wood Body Language Expert

Here are my rough notes from a media interview on Signs of a toxic workplace

Confusion, miscommunication, silence stressed and defeated body language, people talking behind others backs, rumors, cliques and us against them mentality.

Toxicity creates Confusion, not knowing what truth or fiction is, real or imagined can destabilize you a make employees more susceptible to future deceit and abuse. Toxic cultures/leaders love to confuse you with mixed messages. It destabilizes you and makes you a great target for their abuse. People don’t know who or what to believe they are in a state of cognitive dissonance.

For example, an abuser showers someone with compliments at work, gives them great projects and or jobs with perks and alternates that with yelling and criticism, threats of firing, or other behaviors such as cutting them out of email or project. Then returns with good behaviors such as statements like, “But you’re a great guy and I would never fire you.”

The culture itself may alternate bad with the good. They may heap them with praise and special attention that makes them feel special or create a culture of high rewards, money, great perks, prestige, health insurance then switch with no rhyme or reason to coldness, abuse, overworking and unreasonable expectations and or attacks or threat to withdraw job perks or job altogether later.

That mixture is dangerous. The employee doesn’t know what is real or true. I know people that worked for and or with Harvey Weinstein for example who is highly charismatic and he was known in this work culture to give his full charismatic focus and attention that made people feel special, praise give perks and promise amazing success to his employees and his business associates but yell and scream and abuse and threated to fire a get rid of people.

This is dangerous in the workplace because the employee may let the abuse escalate hoping for the “goodies” and to feel good and safe and be stressed out by the abuse and therefore weakened to disagree defend or stop the abuse. And they may spend an inordinate amount of time trying to please and or keep the toxic person for getting upset or to try to keep the toxic business rolling along, without rocking the boat just to keep their jobs. It is just like an abused wife staying with her abuser. They are hanging on, but not functioning in a healthy way that is good for them or others.

There are also “Sunk Cost” factors and what they have already invested and cannot be recovered in their job creates an aversion to losing more by changing the toxic environment in any way. They may do the least work with the least effort, but they will stay. So again, you have fearful unmotivated employees.

If a business culture is toxic people don’t feel safe, to tell the truth, there is too much risk. They can’t say what is wrong and often because of the stress they don’t have the energy or confidence to do so.

In group narcissism, we see an unquestioning loyalty and admiration for the group and an intense fervor in the persecution of any person who questions the authority of the overarching ideals of the group. It's us against everyone else who we view as other and less than. Cliques form, creating outsiders who feel left out and abandoned and powerless.

The group will do anything to ignore any bad behavior of their fellow narcissists, give him a pass and then another pass, normalize unhealthy behaviors bullying, abusive and dangerous behavior. They will defend one of their own kind, for fear of losing the group. They will even attack any innocent person or persons who threaten the group status quo. The group is their breath, their life, their sustenance, their "supply." In the presence of other narcissists, who reflect back “like” behaviors they don't see their dark selves. In the group, they are whole and belong. They may see damage in others, yet it only serves to make them feel superior. And in fact, their very acceptance of the dark damage in their fellow tribe members may make them think they are good people! They don’t consider the fact that in a healthy group dark damage behavior is called out as unacceptable.

Fromm explains, “[an] individual narcissist, who is out on his own, comparing himself to normal people may see he lacks a moral core unless he is mentally very sick, he may have at least some doubts about his image. But, if he joins a group that has other narcissists, he has none, since his narcissism is shared by the majority” (ibid., p.204). They feed each other giving each other narcissistic supply

For your information

Definition of Essentially, cognitive dissonance occurs when humans experience a state of holding two or more contradictory thoughts or beliefs in their cognition at one time. The result is a state of anxious confusion and a desire to reduce the resultant overwhelm and unbalanced perception.

How to look and feel more attractive Even On Bad Days When Your Feeling Down

How to look and feel more attractive

Be "UP!
Create Attractiveness energy confidence and by moving and holding your body “UP!” If you follow me you know that I created the label UP! to describe all upward posture and movements and facial expressions such as head held up, gestures with up motions. When we are happy our body naturally moves up and holds itself up.

When you hold or move your body the way you would like to feel the posture actually sends a message to the brain, “Hey I am feeling hot, attractive ” As you hold your body the little pharmacy in your brain starts producing the chemicals that match that state, (in as little as a 40th of a second.) and pumps them into your body and you begin to feel up. The combination of your up posture and movement up and chemical "Up" state is felt by those around you. They start to give you attentive nonverbal cues and that makes you feel more attractive. I call this the fake it till you make it technique. You only have to fake it for a fraction of a second before it actually affects how you feel.

Gesture

Attractions is also communicated by gestures. Our eyes are designed to go towards movement so our ancestors could find food when they hunted and prospective romantic partners and others are drawn towards the movement. Also, Research shows that charismatic leaders use gestures four times as many as others do when they talk. Charismatic speakers from Orpah and Martin Luther King from Cesar Chavez to your favorite motivational speaker punctuate almost every sentence with a strong gesture.

Choose how YOU want to feel.
You chose a word that expresses how you want your listener to feel, then choose a word that expresses how YOU would like to feel in a particular situation and then get into a posture that matches it. So if your word is Beautiful or Confident you put your body in an open position, arms away from your body, legs uncrossed, shoulder back, heart forward, extending eye-contact for as long as three seconds, and make your voice go down at the end of sentences. I shared this tip with one of my coaching clients and had him act out his word for a job interview. He chose the word Excitement. He smiled and laughed as he finished doing it. He said that he didn't feel excited at the moment before he started moving his body, he felt afraid. But he said,:"... when I did it was weird" "I brought my shoulders back and smiled and put some energy in my voice. I really did get excited" "It felt like I had just had a big cup of Starbucks."

Lower your voice- a low voice is perceived as more sexy and attractive. In men, it’s a sign of testosterone that makes low voiced men more attractive to women and voices in women are perceived in the emotional center of the brains in men and low and soft voices are interpreted as more attractive.

By the way, we tend to tighten the vocal chords when we are tense and the high, sometimes screechy sound does not sound sexy so move up your body language but bring down your voice.

What makes and Inspirational Charismatic Leader

Inspirational leaders often are shown in research to be high on the “Charismatic Factors.” For example, in the US the popular vote tends to go to the most Charismatic Candidate. The four first impression factors are credibility likeability attractiveness and power and the last three likeability attractiveness and power form Charisma. I discuss at length in my book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma that charismatic people are shown to have the ability to lead, motivate and persuade people to action.

When you really look at charismatic people those that inspire they often have the power/alpha characteristics tall and broad, big gestures, and deep-voiced and an intense gaze just borderline of staring, (but what charismatic people do has they put in not just the "power" the aspect of eye contact but the likability of smiling and nodding,) Interpersonally that gaze and intense focus make the Charismatic person makes the person they are talking to feel mesmerized, as if they are special an It’s interesting that it’s often how they make the other person or other people feel that identifies them as charismatic, which I think is one of the magical secrets about it.
If you act interested in others, they’ll have a better impression of you, which is why charismatic people also happen to be great listeners. Holding eye contact, leaning in, ignoring their phone, giving the person their total focus even if it's for a short handshake and a one-minute conversation.
They are also talented at drawing out information from others by being superior listeners (They can talk a lot but when they listen, they really listen) They ask questions and want to know about you. They often tend to be great at matching and mirroring the nonverbal cues of the person they are with so again the person feels valued and totally understood. They can often match the zeitgeist or the emotion of the room, client, audience, country. For example leaders like Hitler, used anger which has shown to be the strongest persuasive emotion, that mirrored a segment of the population to inspire them to follow him.

Charismatic inspirational leaders often have ‘Emotional contagion,” meaning very strong, very clearly communicated emotions, and those emotions transfer to the listeners So, we can’t stop watching them when they speak. And inspirational leader’s ability to show and communicate a broad range of emotions that translate into perceived power and charisma.

You will notice that charismatic leaders don’t have to be credible. In fact, when someone is highly charismatic, it overrides our brain's ability to detect whether or not they are credible. We can’t tell if they are honest or not. So charismatic people have superpowers they can use for good or evil. In a research study on the effects of charisma on politics, the researchers found that people with charisma are able to gracefully persuade us to buy from them, vote for them and (as charismatic leaders like Kennedy and Clinton have shown) mate with them. But authentic body language where the words and the nonverbal cues are shown to communicated honesty. The limbic brain can decern when someone is dishonest.

Take Care,

Patti

What Does Resting Face and Resting Bitch Face Mean, Body Language Expert Patti Wood Explains Resting Face

Here is an article I contributed to as a body language expert. I love that many years ago I created the term resting face and now it's part of the national consciousness!

I woke up this morning with two creases between my eyebrows that were so deep, they might as well have been independently memorizing the philosophies of Nietzsche to share at an upcoming dinner party. This state of perma-furrow, thanks to some weird sleeping position I vow to never repeat, left me actually feeling frustrated rather than my everyday situation of just looking frustrated. You see, because I suffer from resting bitch face (RBF), I don’t need additional features or accessories to make me come across as less friendly—with the operative words here being “come across as.” That’s because I’m not actually unfriendly—it’s just, you know, the way my resting face looks. What I wish everyone would realize, though, when parsing answers to the question of what does RBF mean and what does it not is that there are many ways to convey emotions, and not all of them rely on what your face is doing. supporting my contention that having RBF really has little if anything to do with actually having the attitude of a B is a recent study by Ohio State University, which points out that facial expressions don’t always show the full spectrum of what a person is feeling. So, what does RBF mean if not conveying a sense that the person sporting the expression is angry, unenthused, and unwelcoming? To help me fight the good fight against RBF stigma, below, a body-language expert explains the demystifies why RBF is received the way it is.

What does RBF mean, according to a body-language pro?

1. RBF IS ROOTED IN A SMILE—BUT NOT A GREAT ONE

“Your face can make over 10,000 different expressions and over 50 different kinds of smiles, and RBF is actually a smile of contempt,” says Patti Wood, body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma. “Contempt is a feeling that a person or thing is beneath consideration, worthless, and deserving of scorn. When someone feels contempt, they often feel superior to others, though people in subordinate power positions can feel contempt to their superiors.”

What this amounts to is a kind-of crooked smile, or even a slight sneer. “What you are seeing is one side of the lip pulled back slightly or a very slight raising the outside corners of the mouth and freezing in place,” she says. “The lack of symmetry of the mouth is seen by others not just as unattractive, but that there is something wrong that is being hidden. It alerts the viewers central nervous system to be on guard and creates a stress response,” says Wood.

2. NEUTRAL OR NOT, RBF STILL CONVEYS AN EMOTION

“The broader category of ‘resting face’ is the typically neutral expressions a face shows when not actively showing an emotion,” says Wood. “But because your facial expressions actually do move muscles in your face, whatever emotions you show the most may form expressions. Interestingly, it can be the emotion a person believes they are actually suppressing.”

“‘Resting face’ is the neutral expression of not showing an emotion. But because facial expressions move muscles in your face, whatever emotions you show the most may form expressions.” —Patti Wood, body-language expert

So a neutral-seeming RBF might still be showcasing some trace elements of feelings you’ve pushed down in the past. While you might not actually be angry or feel negatively at all, if you’re one to push down feelings of contempt or frustration or sadness, that maybe what’s showing. That is, even if your face is relaxed, it still shows traces of emotion. And to take it a step further, the expression might inform what you’re currently feeling. “Think of it as like the lingering effects of a lot of alcohol in your body: You will feel it even if you haven’t had a drink in hours,” Wood says.

3. RBF IS INTERPRETED DIFFERENTLY BASED ON GENDER

Men experience RBF at the same rate as women, but when men make the expression, they’re perceived more so as powerful rather than, well…bitchy, Wood says, adding that “smiling differs in males and females.”

4. YOU CAN MINDFULLY SHIFT YOUR RBF

“Do resting-face check-ins throughout the day and self-correct,” says Wood. “Look in the mirror in the morning and throughout the day, and check on the cues that show RBF. Change your expression to be what you feel comfortable showing. You don’t have to smile if you don’t want to.” To be clear, that means there’s no need to fake smile, ever.

https://www.wellandgood.com/good-advice/what-does-rbf-mean/?fbclid=IwAR2pQOXy6Csiv3IfI0I8_E7ehkbLFumYDSBhDYUtuFp5AMMsMSeZrU8kKdk

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

A Body Language Expert Analyzes Historical Photos, Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Other than the read I did of Melania was an entirely different photo than the one they used so that the reader has nothing to do with their new photo and is totally inaccurate this story turned out great! I have asked them to change the first photo to the one I actually analyzed and hope they make the change.

Here is the link to the body language story.

https://www.rd.com/culture/body-language-iconic-photos/page/2/?fbclid=IwAR2LFuX7znOQa8cojlwBcF_dkQf6J4h9L5tCCNfNMhbT415TDwQoEbsu5Dg

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

What Is a Resting Bitch Face, What it means and What You Can do About it, Body Language Expert Patti Wood give you RBF tips.

1. Your face can make over 10,000 different expressions and over 50 different kinds of smiles and RBF is actually a smile of contempt.

2. Contempt is a feeling that a person or thing is beneath consideration, worthless and deserving of scorn. When someone feels contempt, they often feel superior to
others, though interestingly people in subordinate power positions can feel contempt for their superiors. Contempt is a sign of annoyance and sometimes a sign of anger and you can see therefor why seeing someone showing is disturbing.

3. What you are seeing is one side of the lip pulled back slightly or a very slight raising of the just the outside corners of the mouth and freezing in place (may appear as a slight sneer) and the eyes squinting slightly or a tightening around the eye and sometimes the addition of the “lines of focus” above the bridge of the nose wrinkling. It there is the one side up a form of RBF it indicates that the limbic system is showing the true emotion of contempt while the neocortex is
trying to suppress it and the lack of symmetry of the mouth is seen by others not just as unattractive but that there is something wrong that is being hidden and it alerts the viewer's central nervous system to be on guard and creates a
stress response.

4. The broader category of “Resting face” is the typically neutral expressions a face shows when you are not actively showing emotion but because of your facial expression
actually do move muscles in your face whatever emotions you show the most may form expressions that someone feels often. Interestingly it can be the emotion that a person believes they are actually SUPPRESSING!” So people with RBF may insist that at that moment when they are showing RBF that they are NOT “angry” or feeling negative about a person or topic what is showing on their face is the thousands of times they have felt contempt/anger/negatively. 

Whatever expression your face shows even if it's just a hint of expression that expression sends the message to your brain to feel the matching emotion and
create the matching chemicals to RBF sends “prescription” to the brain to feel contempt/anger/disproval. Think of it as, like the lingering effects of a lot of alcohol in your body, you will feel it even if you haven’t had a drink in hours.

5. Though RBF is not gender-specific people often think of it as being a female expression and judges harshly in women. Research shows men give RBF just as much as women, but the expression is perceived as making the men seem more
powerful.  

6. There are gender differences in how RBF is perceived that are complex. Smiling differs in males and females with boys reducing big teeth showing smiles about the age of
five and girls starting to smile more than the body in mixed-gender groupings starting in about fourth grade. Women smile more often socially to be liked and to increase the community. High-Status people smile less. Men who smile less have been shown to have more testosterone. Research shows that men are most sexually attracted to women who looked happy and are more uncomfortable around
women who aren’t smiling. The United States, there is a greater sex difference among Caucasians in smiling, but this difference virtually disappears among African Americans. Men are often uncomfortable when a woman who typically
smiles in not smiling. (I believe men who say, "why aren't you smiling?" are concerned that a non-smiling woman may be angry or trying to assert power if she is not smiling.

7. If you have RBF and want to get rid of it there are things you can do it.  

Get Botox in the little V frown lines above your nose. Those lines just make you look angry
they create that “prescription” for the anger that I mentioned in 4. If you have that one lip that is asymmetrical you can get Botox to correct it as well. There are some subtle makeup tricks to help as well look for video tutorials on those. 

Do resting face check-ins throughout the day and self-correct. Look in the mirror in the morning and throughout the day and check on the cues that show RBF and change
your expression to be at what you feel comfortable showing. You don’t have to smile if you don’t want to. Also do check in on how you are feeling as you go into important interactions and see if you can change your mood to what is optimal for the interaction. Do you want to feel confident, recall a situation in your life when you feel exhilarated and filled with confidence and as you recall it your brain will reproduce the matching chemicals? The same goes for happiness or other emotions. Research also shows that listening to music or
singing or even imagining your self-hearing or singing a song that contains the emotion you want to feel, or show can create it so you RBF disappears. But, remember you typically have it, because you have felt it a lot so it's not going
to disappear forever with one round of singing out Walking on Sunshine or Pharrell Williams Happy.

8. If you see someone showing RBF remember (especially guys) that being told to smile is supremely annoying. It’s condescending, for one. And it can make the non-smiler
angry because at some level it’s a request that they diminish their power.

Patti Wood,
a body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First
Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma and has conducted research on smiling
in the US and Canada.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of

Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma and has conducted research on smiling in the US and Canada.

Malignant Narcissism and the "Collapse of Time" That Makes their Pain Never Ending

Many of you know I write about malignant narcissism. This article explains “ The collapse of time phenomenon” that explains among other things, why malignant narcissists lie with such conviction! They have to need to stay in the present moment. And why they bring up past events in a never-ending fashion and seek revenge!

Most of us have a sense of time that is liner like we are traveling on a train.

With a “collapse of time” events that occurred years ago carry the same emotional power (and impact upon decision making and behavior) as events occurring at the moment.

So a Malignant Narccissts lies to protect himself/herself at that moment.

Past hurts, hurt, just as much as they did when they first occurred so the MN’s pain is never-ending.

Since time is not linear, They need to save themselves now at this moment at any cost to anyone and don’t think about how their actions affect the future. Consequences don’t matter. There is no possibility of redemption.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/eternal-emperor-in-his-own-mind-the-distorted-reality_b_5929abfee4b07d848fdc0429?fbclid=IwAR2dr7RyZS_wftBNUGnHDd5pr3lMFJ_XmjK6ns0A3otNfo0J0H1aa3qNPro

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Hitler and a child Body Language Read by Body Language Expert Patti Wood

I am an expert on Hitler’s body language and have watched 100’s of hours of videos of him as well as over 1,000 still photos of him. He was none for planning meticulously and rehearsing for not just his speeches but also his one on one meetings. He would find out about his "audience" and create a character and script to create whatever result he wanted.
But I noticed that Hitler when caught not being "on", seemed incredibly uncomfortable and awkward in his interactions. He had to have his "Mask" on.

I saw this in Photo "OPs" with Children. See the photo below.
He never seems to really connect, instead, he seems like an outsider looking on. This photo shows exactly that. The child with a sun-in-her eyes unhappy squint is focused and facing the photographer confidently posed and right elbow back and her right elbow out and back in a “power block” to Hitler from getting closer while Hitler sits behind her slightly hunched forward and left hand awkwardly and passively placed between his legs.
This photo reveals something that I see in Hitler his lack of full confident self-esteem when he is not fully “on” and in Character as well as his awkwardness with Children who have the ability, because their reliance on nonverbal cues rather than fancy words, can have the ability to see to a person’s true soul.

In high school, I was in a special summer program for gifted kids in German language and history. I spoke German before I spoke English because we lived in Germany when I was a child and I was fascinated with l all aspects of World War II from Toddler age when our German housekeeper/nanny would dangle the bangles of gold on her wrist that held her wealth. In the summer program, I began to study Hitler’s body language and overall communication and persuasion style. I continued to read everything I could get my hands on about World War II and Hitler. I had to figure out how someone so evil had risen so high in the power and been adored by the masses.
In my master's program I did research on Hitler’s body language and persuasion style. In the following years as I begin in earnest to analyze politicians and world leaders and as I consulted with the media I looked for similarities and differences in their styles to my knowledge of Hitler's behavior. I discussed them in my credibility deception detection intensive one to three-day workshops. I’ve also discussed him in several documentaries.
This photo was taken after a 10-hour shoot I did for a six-part documentary on Hitler called “Hitler, the rise and fall” it was on the history channel for a while and on Amazon. With a six-part documentary I did three months of intense research analyzing photos and videos some of the films had never been released to the public and was only accessible with special permission for my use for the documentary.

https://www.gettyimages.com/…/german-dictator-adol…/333182

Bruce Jenner Olympic Wind, Victory Body Language By Body Language Expert Patti Wood, Kaytlan Jenner

See how his arms rise in victory! Arms rise above his head, to show victory. His arms are stretched out wide exposing his heart and chest which shows bravery and fierceness He also has his hands raised in fists to show us he feels that he has won the battle through his strength and determination. We also see his face eyes raised mouth open in what I label an open-mouthed “victory roar” we can’t hear it but the expression and sound are other signals of fierceness.

Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth Body Language Expert Patti Wood

This took me to many photos so I attached the one I read. Overall, in "couple photos", I look to see if they have a mutual site line/focus for their eyes and how their torso and limbs isolate or intertwine. Though Here they just look like paper dolls cut out and pasted together in their photos. Though the sides of their body are slightly overlapping here which should be a good sign their outer limbs and hands are close to their sides and with his hand in his pocket pushing down and in tensely. Their facial expressions both are wistful and sad. Note both have lowered upper lids and their mouths pull-down and how his eyebrows are asymmetrical showing mixed emotions as he tries to look happy, but can’t

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

Trump Rebuffing Pelosi's Offer of a Handshake at the Beginning of Debate Where She Ripped, Body Language Expert Iconic Photo

Much has been said of House Speaker Pelosi ripping up her copy of Trump’s State Of the Union Address but not everyone saw this moment where Pelosi put out her hand at the beginning of the State of the Union as she takes the address he offers with her left hand and Trump who just handed it to her and should have initiated the shake at that time see her hand out and the moment later, not photographed where he rebuffed her outward stretched hand. This is iconic because of the controversy including those who said he didn’t see her hand, when clearly in this photo he sees it. What’s also interesting are the facial expressions and other cues Pelosi is leaning forward actually giving Trump a soft smile and her full eye contact as she extends her hand with the fingers tightly and tensely held together, one finger even bent and folded over the others and hand-stretched out and downward. She is showing she wants to fully engage with Trump and shake hands, but it’s not a passive shake offer, nor are the fingers curved in friendship. Trump is looking right at her outstretched hand and leaves his arm down at his side and fingers curved down and towards himself. You see his hand in the curved position your hand typically takes to shake hands and he even has the hand at the ready at the waist position. But his shoulder points to her in slight “cold shoulder” position instead. Notice his downward turned “bad taste in my mouth” and chin and jaw withdraw facial expression.

Sailor's Kiss in Times Square at the End of the War

Not everyone knows the background of this famous kiss so let me give you the nonverbal cues that give you insight. This is our iconic image of a passionate kiss, but the kiss is really only the man being very intense in passionate. Notice how his large right hand is holding her in close to him and how awkwardly his left arm crook holds her head and how the fingers of his left hand are not caressing but tensely held together. And see how his kiss pressed down on her face and she doesn’t move up and towards him. ( Fingers gently curved and touching indicate tenderness and intimacy and I don’t see that here. )Notice her left arm how its pulled back rather than wrapped around him and look closely at the modified fist her curved fingers tense fingers are formed in. This is suppressed resistance and that is also seen in her twisted posture. See how her upper body is being pushed backward and

her head is not pressing towards the kiss. If you look from the legs to oddly hanging arm and body you can see she looks like a soft mannequin or doll limp and passive rather than actively and willingly participating in the kiss. When you under stress one response is to go limp and that’s what she is doing.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

The famous kiss in Times Square in 1945 Sailor's Kiss Body Lanaguage Expert Patti Wood

Not everyone knows the background of this famous kiss so let me give you the nonverbal cues that give you insight into what really happened. This is our iconic image of a passionate kiss, but the kiss is really only the man being very intense in passionate. Notice how his large right hand is holding her in close to him and how awkwardly his left arm crook holds her head and how the fingers of his left hand are not caressing but tensely held together. And see how his kiss pressed down on her face and she doesn’t move up and towards him. ( Fingers gently curved and touching indicate tenderness and intimacy and I don’t see that here. )Notice her left arm how its pulled back rather than wrapped around him and look closely at the modified fist her curved fingers tense fingers are formed in. This is suppressed resistance and that also seems in her twisted posture. See how her upper body is being pushed back and her head is not pressing towards the kiss. If you look from the legs to oddly hanging arm and body you can see she looks like a soft mannequin or doll limp and passive rather than actively and willingly participating in the kiss. When you under stress one response is to go limp and that’s what she is doing.