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Do Masks on Children in School Interfere with a Childs Development?


We primal hard-wiring that makes our eyes unconsciously look at interesting things, especially faces, and look away from unpleasant things. So much of how children can learn, and be emotionally healthy about masks is how the adults and other children in their lives view masks and those who wear them. Children can be quick to adapt and read body language without mouth cues as long as those around them see people wearing them as normal. But if they see those wearing masks as scary, they will associate them with danger rather than safety.


Eye Scanning—We scan faces according to a systematic pattern. The pattern consists of a series of triangles that crisscross the eyes and then travel down to the mouth. During an initial interpretation, we spend 75 percent of the time exploring the triangle of the eyes and mouth, 10 percent on the forehead and hair, and 5 percent on the chin, with the remaining 10 percent devoted to other features. The average scanning time is around 3 seconds.

One of the main stress points adults have when wearing masks is they feel they can see or show a smile to show they are friendly. The smile is such an important signal of friendliness that it can be recognized from a football field away. Smiling is a "harmless" cue that makes you look less threatening. Smiling makes people feel safe as you approach or lets them know it's safe to approach you because you are smiling. But many of the facial cues that indicate a "real" smile occurs above the mask.

We have learned to read those cues and simply showing children how to read them and be confident in reading a true smile can help children adapt and be more comfortable wearing a mask in the classroom. (We can fake a smile with the mouth, and you can recognize a real smile from just the eyes. 




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Do Leaders Need Soft Skills?

I speak to millions and billon dollar business owners and C-suite executives on body language and leadership. Why? -Yes, More than ever. They have to assess and respond to the needs of their employees. If they are oblivious to the nonverbal cues and don't put credits in the "relationship account, they won't be able to keep their employees happy, prevent conflict, and keep their employees motivated. Leaders say their top two priorities right now are how to hire the best employees, keep employees from leaving, and detect deception.

Are Narcissists Happy? Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Happiness and Malignant Narcissism. Years ago, I was dating a charming Malignant Narcissist and broke up with him. One of his arguments in his plea to keep me was that I couldn't break up with him because he always has to start a new business when a woman breaks up with him, as otherwise, the emptiness in his life makes him feel like he is in a deep dark void. He already had too many businesses and didn't want to start another one. He didn't say what he liked and loved about me. Instead, he shared the emptiness he would feel without me in his life and equated that with the fulfillment of starting and business. Not very romantic, but it does show how Malignant Narcissists view their happiness met by a supply of stimulation filling a void. Malignant narcissists feel happy when they are fed well with Narcissistic supply. What makes them "Happy" is different. They don't feel the normal human emotions of love, bonding, and empathy. Those parts of their brains don't light up. Instead, their brains light up when they are admired and feel they can control others. They are happy, creating negative emotions in others. T They are puppet masters. Normal (low score on a continuum) narcissists can receive pleasure and happiness, making people happy. For example, a normal narcissists actor derives pleasure from the applause of a delighted audience watching them perform. However, the malignant narcissist pleasure centers light up when they see and or create intense negative emotions like drama, fear, pain, and discord in others. These emotions create the MG's "Narcissistic Supply." Because they lack those loving bonding emotions

Why we need to improve our gun safety laws.

Why we need to improve our gun safety laws.

 

When I was in my 20's in my master's program and teaching at Auburn, I got a call at 7:00 in the morning from the father of my brand-new boyfriend, Shane Ford. He said, "Shane was shot in a hunting accident. He is not expected to make it, and he is calling out your name and wants to see you." The pain in Shane's father's voice was the worst sound imaginable. I had lost my father a few months before this, and I knew that pain.

I was home with the flu and 103-degree temperature, and there was an ice storm, and I had never driven in snow. So I got in the car and drove on an ice-covered deserted road to the hospital. I masked up and went into the intensive care unit to say goodbye to Shane. When I first saw Shane, he was covered in blood and hooked up to many pieces of equipment. (I didn't know some was the deer's blood.) So there, surrounded by his family, Shane and I said our goodbyes.

That morning a young boy, I believe he was 14, who had never hunted or held or shot a rifle, was handed a gun and instructed how to shoot it by some men that knew the boy came from a troubled home. Their intent was the teach him to be a man and help him bond with other men. The boy and the hunters laid down in line at the deer stand with their guns and Shane ran the deer (chased the deer in front of them) The body saw movement and shot Shane.  The Bullet went through Shane's spleen and his kidney bounced off his spine and lodged in his heart. He lost 37 pints of blood in 24 hours. In the first surgery, they couldn't find the bullet. They stitched him up and we said our goodbyes as he was bleeding to death. But just by happenstance there was a visiting physician there to teach at the hospital and he asked us if we were willing to have Shane be a research patient since he was going to die, they would continue to look for the bullet, but they didn't have much hope. We said yes, and the visiting surgeon found the bullet lodged in his aortic value and was able to replace it with a pig's valve and save his life. With his blood loss, this was a medical miracle and in fact, Shane's case was written up in three medical journals.  Over 400 people donated blood at the hospital that week in Shane's name.
Shane, according to the doctors, was not supposed to live, and when he survived, they said he would never walk again, as the shock trousers they had put on him to push the blood to his heart and brain had cut off the blood supply to his legs for too long. He had a long recovery; that recovery was difficult and painful for him and all of us. I saw firsthand what that one rifle bullet did to his body. The long deep red scar down the center of his body. The hole in his back. I know how many people worked to save him; I see the love it took to keep him motivated to fight for his life. I know all the work it took for all of us to help him recover and walk again. I wouldn't wish that agony of a journey on anyone.  



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How can your space negatively impact your relationship? Decoration, Clutter and Your Relationships

How can your space negatively impact your relationship? Your space/territory is not only a reflection of you, your personality, your mood, and your energy it affects you profoundly.

If you have for example the clutter of too much stuff or merely make design and purchasing or decorating items that may mean something to you and give you pleasure, but have no meaning and nor give pleasure to you partner you may be sending the message I have all the power over this space and or my stuff is more important than you and your needs and pleasure.



How do things like clutter, not compromising over the interior
decor, etc. affect your relationship? In addition to what I shared above clutter may create a barrier between you and your partner. Sometimes that barrier is obvious such as pillows that keep your partner from sitting next to you on a sofa or getting near you in a bed. Or more subtle such as a collection of salt and pepper shakers Dolls or Star Trek or Sports memorabilia that take over the house and create clutter and dust and space for the other partner to mark his or her territory and or that take up the attention and time of a partner.

Sometimes it can be a color choice that significantly bothers a partner. For example, When my fiancé and I were getting ready to marry we talked about and redid my house to his comfort level. I had a turquoise guest bath that my fiancé hated as he thought it was too girly. I loved it but it was painful for him to even look at it so we went on home tours and he fell in love with this moss grey-green color and we went that day to get it and paint the bathroom and he was so extremely happy. I also had a collection of fiesta ware on display in the kitchen and he was a bit overwhelmed by it. It was not his favorite thing, but he knew I loved it so we compromised and we went through a scaled it back. I also had terracotta bunnies in the front yard and he again thought they were a bit too feminine and they were not that important to me so we moved them to the side yard.

What are some solutions to overcome these negative effects?

What are some other surprising home-related factors that could
have a negative impact? Lighting temperature and sound and size Some people like dark cool small quiet spaces that they can retreat to like a cave and recharge and relax.
So people like bright light airing large spaces filled with happy music. So creating spaces that give both partners their own happy space or that compromise on those needs is important for the overall mood of the members of the relationship. Again in my relationship, we had a cool lower lighting space to watch TV and the kitchen brighter. As a side note, when we were dating I painted my kitchen floor with bright colors like the partridge family bus. My sweetie was not overly fond of that floor, but to show me how much he loved me, he got down on one knee and proposed on that very floor!!! It was very symbolic of him embracing my happy bright personality!


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Safety Tips for Concert and Festival Attendees, How to Deal With Crowds, Recommendations for Crowd Safety From Body Language Expert, Patti Wood

 

These are tips that I not only recommend as a body language expert but also as 5 foot one petite blonde concert, and music festival attendee use. 

Tips

  1. Know your territory. That may involve getting a map and studying it carefully before the event begins so you know where the stage or stages, exits are. If you can rather than just knowing that there’s a map somewhere on your phone if you can print out the map too. 
  2. Get there early. That way you can see the space and again study your territory the stages in the exits. 
  3. Introduce yourself and your friends to security. Make sure you feel safe and comfortable with them and ask them how things are going how they’re reading the crowd. I use to train law enforcement officers so I go a bit above and beyond and ask if they need a soft drink or a snack. 
  4. Make plans with your friends for what you would do and where would you meet should someone get lost or some emergency happen. Have a backup to that plan. 
  5. When you get to your seat or to the stage look around again. Note the different exits from your seat or your standing position. Note any barriers that may be in your way. Always look for exits to your side in front of you and behind you. 
  6. Read the crowd. Your central nervous system is your best friend in potentially dangerous situations. Check-in with how you were feeling in your body to note whether there is danger. If you see agitated or angry people move away from the space as quickly and calmly as possible to somewhere safe, knowing that may be the exit. Aggressive behavior usually involves people not only raising their energy level but forming nonverbal cue gesture cues that are sharp-edged elbows out weapon-like hands in our motions and fast unpredictable motions. Your primitive limbic brain picks up on these cues before your neocortex. You may not be able to formulate words as to why you’re feeling uncomfortable but your body knows. Move away from danger. Every crowd has energy and crowds that are dangerous or recognizable if you’re paying attention. There’s a difference between excitement and being pulled into that wonderful uplifting excited dancing singing together crowd energy and dangerous energy. If you feel it flip and you feel scared move away and out of the crowd. 
  7. Know that the response to danger is not just flight or flight it’s also freezing in place faint or fall. If you find your body wanting to freeze in place that’s a sign you’re in danger move away from the danger. Override whatever social norms there are about having to be “cool” or not look afraid or be nice to dangerous aggressive or rude people. Move away from them. 
  8. If you are small or if you stumble in a loving mob, tell those around you I need help shout, "Lift me up" "I need help lift me up." 
  9. In preparation, if you can bring a clear plastic case for your phone in some sort of lanyard that you can wear around your neck it can be helpful. In a dangerous crowd,      situation trying to hold your phone as you move through the crowd can be dangerous you may need both hands. 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Alec Baldwin's Body Language in Interview about the Tragic On Set Shooting with Real Bullet by body language expert Patti Wood

Is Alec Baldwin Telling the Truth?

Body Language Notes from Interview by Patti Wood 

Tonight, the Alec Baldwin ABC interview is being aired as he opens up about what happened on the Rust movie set. I am doing body language analysis of the interview for the media and I have already done one of the clips below.  

 https://twitter.com/ABC/status/1466104944059199489

 BALDWIN SAYS: 'THE TRIGGER WASN'T PULLED, I DIDN'T PULL THE TRIGGER'

https://twitter.com/SusanneBrunner/status/1466367838038364166 

Here are my rough notes:

I would say overall that Baldwin feels real grief, and he is truly sad, and he does not feel he is responsible for the death of Halyna and the injury to the other victim.

 As part of a body language read, you consider what would be normal for anyone in the circumstances and what would be normal for that particular person. What is that person's normal?

Alec Baldwin is a strong, confident man with a big ego. Power and confidence are communicated in three ways, the amount of space you take up, whether your body windows are opened or closed, and with you are relaxed or tense. He takes up space, opens his body windows, and he is fairly relaxed. I know his baseline body language is expansive. He takes up space. He often sits with his legs apart. At the beginning of this interview, he's sitting in an alpha posture, legs apart, arms slightly out from his side. He shows his Baseline normal body language of confidence, perhaps in an effort to feel confident in this stressful interview.

In preparation for and response to the question, how could this have happened? You see Baldwin again, legs apart with his hands between his leg in a downward steeple. A steeple is a hand gesture that indicates a desire to gain control over the situation. This downward steeple is a symbolic representation of powerful masculinity.  All of this communicated nonverbally he wants to be a strong alpha man in his response.

I also do content analysis as part of my reads for interviews like this (I teach how to analyze interrogation videos and detect deceit ). Some phrasing that I found odd is his emphasis on why he's doing this is about because he doesn't want to be the victim. He keeps saying that this is not about him being a victim. I call this "He does protest too much" verbiage. The very act of saying this is not about me snd repeating that statement several times in different ways makes it about him being the victim.

As Baldwin begins to describe Halyna and says, she was "….loved liked and admired." On the word admired, he starts to cry. We see his Squeezed brow, the bowed head, and his hand over his face. Everyone, of course, wants to know if they are real tears if he's truly crying. He's an actor. I can say that this was the moment that if he was going to cry, he would begin to cry because he has to recall, to go back into his memory about the way she was as a human being.

And the aspects of real crying or there. You see his face crunch, That is, the eyes, nose and mouth and forehead pres down and towards the center of his face. You hear the sound of his sobbing. The intake of breath as he tries to stop the touch to his nose that the crying is distasteful to him (symbolically indicating that this crying doesn't smell good) and yet he comes back and continues speaking.

This again, it's him "manning up" He is showing his strength. He wants to be seen as a powerfully strong man.

This is his normal. The viewer may compare his behavior to what they think would be normal for someone who shot and killed someone and injured another and think he should be nonverbally smaller, hold his limbs closer to his body, his legs together.

Baldwin is asked, "Do you think she (The armorer) was up to the job?" Baldwin shakes his head no as he says he assumed she continued to shake his head no as he finishes his response to the question. Clearly, he didn't think that she was up for the job.

Later in the Interview------

When asked if safety and security were at risk because of the budget, Baldwin stutters and looks down and away as he says no and continues to deny that with a facial expression at one point that's full of tears. I believe he feels conflicted and perhaps will always feel conflicted about that. However, he recovers quickly and goes to what we call a media interview to speak a talking point. They planned a statement. He says something to the effective didn't see any security issues. But though his voice is strong, it's a prepared statement, but he is looking down and away and not at the interviewer.

The next part of the interview is all about him. The focus is on him and not the victims. If I were his media coach, I would have said, stick to a tight fifteen-minute interview with the emphasis where it should be, on the victims and their family and the ideally with a call to action to change the way guns and other amour are taken care of on sets.

Also, because of this next moment, the emphasis on him and his feelings and his victimhood shows. As he continues and he talks about how he loves moviemaking, and he discusses what it was like when they called him to work with "Tony" Hopkins and Merrill Street, he begins to cry again, but this time the crying is more expressive; it's louder he doesn't cover his face. We see the furrowed brow, the lines of focus at the bridge over the nose, we see the quiver of his chin, and we hear the tears, The clearing of the throat is verbalized whispered sorry, it's quite traumatic yet feels and shows as utterly real. The nonverbal delivery for his feeling of loss for those special unique moviemaking experiences is stronger and longer and more specific the ones that he grief. He showed earlier in the interview when he spoke of the victim, Haylana, The person that died.

In response to the statement/question from the interview about pulling the trigger, Baldwins responds, The trigger was not pulled did not pull the trigger. His statement "The trigger was not pulled." does not contain a pronoun. There is no I or me. That is a way for someone to distance themselves from the act.

Usually, that's all we hear from the person speaking that they are distancing themselves from the act. It can be an indication of guilt about the action,

He recovers fairly quickly from that lack of pronoun statement and says I did not pull the trigger. But we have another odd word usage. Baldwin says I did not pull the striker trigger rather than I didn't pull the trigger. Typically when somebody is innocent, they usually speak and naturally use contractions, and guilty people Think of their words more carefully with a vocal emphasis on the word not.,

Then we hear him say when I ask again, "say no no no no-no-no."

Here are the rough notes I sent out to my media contact for a story on Baldwin's Body Language in the interview about the Shooting on the set of his movie.

They are my rough notes. He emphasizes the first three no's, and if it had just been those three no's I would've found him to be honest as people when they're in a highly charged emotional state like a missing child or a missing spouse will often say things in triplicate. "My daughter, my daughter, my daughter or my Sara, my SARAH my SARAH."

Here the repetition seems more admonishing as if he is saying, "how could think that that's incorrect." Get admonishing of the interviewer no no no no no . not just a no I didn't do it.

When Baldwin begins to describe what happens after Haylana and the other victim are shot, his normal behavior becomes unemotional and detached. This can happen in someone that's experienced a trauma who needs to emotionally detach, or he could be just re-experiencing how he experienced it at the time that he didn't think that there was a real bullet in the gun and didn't think that she'd been shot. But even with those two justifications for his detachment, it seems odd. If I was his media coach, I would've coached him to be sensitive to what was really happening. Halyna, the victim, was dying.

His apology statement. I have written extensively and even have a chapter in one of my books on the proper way to apologize. Here he makes a common mistake and says to Haylana's husband, " I don't know what to say, I don't know how to say. I don't know how to convey to you how sorry I am."

 This is a distancing tactic. It distances him from the act. A more direct and proper apology would be to say simply, "I am sorry. " I know that there are legal issues in that statement, and some lawyers advise not to use the words "I'm sorry," and people in Baldwin's position in preparation for court cases and legal action are advised in this manner.

However, emotionally for the husband, in this case, a true, sincere proper apology even for an accident has a greater impact a greater Comforting factor for the person the apology is offered to. It seems much more true, much more heartfelt, much more real."


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

     

How Can You Tell Someone Your Are Interviewing is Honest and Credible, Hiring Tip From A Body Language Expert

Your True North

 

How do upi whether the person your are interviewing is credible? How can we know they are credible within seconds of meeting them?

 

Think about a person in your life who you think is the most credible person you know. What is it about them that makes you feel absolutely safe in their presence. You can believe them. What is it about them that makes you feel that way? What kind of behavior do they demonstrate? What do they say? Are there things they do with their hands, their body that makes you tell yourself ‘This person has integrity”?

 

 I call this person your “True North.”

Someone you trust to be honest, who is authentic and true think how you feel in their presence.  If you have someone like this in your life, you can recognize what it’s like to be in the presence of someone who truly demonstrates credibility when you interview them.  If you have a “True North,” You can compare each person you interview against this person and see if it feels as comfortable and trusting.

 

“True North” is a benchmark. Once you know it, you should be able to calibrate within split seconds that “this feels good” or “something is just not right there.” When somebody has that credibility factor in first impressions, it typically feels very safe and comfortable to be with them. There’s authenticity you don’t get with most people.

 



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Is Alex Baldwin Lying? Is Alex Baldwin Telling the Truth about the on set shooting? Deception Detection by Body Language Expert Patti Wood.

Is Alec Baldwin Telling the Truth?

Tonight, the Alec Baldwin ABC interview is being aired as he opens up about what happened on the Rust movie set. I am doing body language analysis of the interview for the media and I have already done one of the clips below. I will post my notes after the interview. 

 https://twitter.com/ABC/status/1466104944059199489

 BALDWIN SAYS: 'THE TRIGGER WASN'T PULLED, I DIDN'T PULL THE TRIGGER'

https://twitter.com/SusanneBrunner/status/1466367838038364166 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Does a Narcissist Want You to Chase Them? The Pursuit of Narcissistic Supply


Does a Narcissist Want You to Chase Them?

They like both pursuing and being pursued; ultimately, they want to control. Malignant Narcissists feel good when they CONTROL the happiness of others. They get a Narcissistic Supply from controlling their target's happiness. If the victim pursues them, the Malignant Narcissist can control the flow of joy by being out of reach and unattainable, just out of reach, seemingly won, and then out of reach again, in a continuing cycle. They can get a supply hit from seeing their target's efforts to pursue. When they appear "gotten," they can get a hit of supply from knowing that it is all a ruse, a game, and then they can get a bit hit supply from dropping the victim, disconnecting, ghosting, and then another by reappearing. By controlling and creating more pleasure in their targets, they can also get hits of narcissistic supply by withdrawing that source.

So while a typical relationship on an extreme narcissistic abuse generally follows three stages of them pursuing and idealizing their target and devaluing, and discarding their target, they like it when their target is discarded and still wants them and pursues them, and that is one way the cycle can repeat numerous times, spinning a merry-go-round where the narcissist and get the golden ring again and again.

 

 




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Can You Wear a Black Dress to a Wedding?


I contributed to an article in Southern Living Magazine
on wearing a black dress to attend a wedding.
There has been a controversy for years about wearing black to a wedding. Recently, Kendall Jenner from Keeping Up With the Kardashian wearing a black dress with cutouts that showed her midriff at a friend's wedding created a feeding frenzy. Kendall wanted to be the center of attention at the wedding, and she got the attention. But, taking attention from the bride is poor etiquette.
Black has symbolic meaning communicating evil and death and formality. It is used in negatively charged words like blackmail and blocklist, but it can symbolize class, wealth, and elegance.
I know many women think they look skinner in a black dress. It does cut down and the worries about an unflattering print, but know it can say Nonverbally, "I have a wish to look good, and I matter more than you, so I am willing to wear a somber color to your celebratory event."
So if the bridal event is formal and in the evening, a simple black dress may be appropriate. Still, I would recommend getting permission to wear it and making sure the bridesmaids are not wearing black dresses as you again would be "stealing" attention and the role of the bridesmaids.

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language Analysis of Kyle Rittenhouse's Crying. Real Tears or Fake Tears? Kyle Rittenhouse Murder Trial.

Murder trial.

 This is the clip of Rittenhouse crying in court - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2kX1Nzi1I8

At 1:54, Rittenhouse appears to be looking at the judge. 

 The full video can be seen here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bvcl0FqI518. Rittenhouse appears to be answering matter-of-fact questions before he starts crying. He starts crying at around 36:18.  Until he is asked about that moment he is calm. His voice is even and in “report” mode. His breathing is normal. He is stating facts. He shows no stress or fear when just reports that the adult who left him is gone, calm as he reports that the police stopped him and told him not to go into harm's way.  Calm as he reports that he was told to get a fire extinguisher and go to where people are reported to be setting cars on fire. He calmly states when people shout, “burn in hell” he says friendly friendly” though he knows that he is carrying a loaded illegal AR-15 (again the people shouting could be responding to him as a dangerously armed person and he is lying essentially lying that his only possible goal is to be friendly which an unarmed medic could claim as a fire extinguisher could be used as a weapon)

His crying shows several fake tear flags. 

It comes out of nowhere. He has shown no stress around any of the other stressful situation he was under.  His anxiety and stress and does not build as it would normally as he comes to the moment he is asked to describe. Remember he is being asked in this testimony about the day he shot and killed two people and shot and injured another.  When he goes to that moment.
His breathing is hyperventilating breathing he is bringing in big gulps of air to heighten the intensity of his emotional state. To gain energy to create the tears. Kyle Rittenhouse's facial expression compresses and explodes out hard down and up and out over and over again and the breathing gets more intense.  He is working to intensify the emotions and make them bigger rather than the normal manner I have analyzed in witness statements testimony that I have seen in victims who have been traumatized and asked to go back to the moment and relive it.

He also gives a very odd look to the side to the jury as he breathes hard which seems an attempt to figure out whether they are believing his tears and being swayed. I have seen little kids do the side-eye when they are fake crying. 

 Here are some previous pictures of his demeanor:

https://www.tmz.com/2021/01/08/kyle-rittenhouse-has-beer-at-bar-with-free-as-f-shirt-on/
What’s interesting here is the most obvious

Do his demeanor and his other nonverbal cues match what would be considered normal and natural for those circumstances.

The circumstances are he is free on bond from killing two people and injuring another.

First, consider what you would consider normal for someone to feel and do in those circumstances

Now let's look at how far from normal his behavior is.

Demeanor

Choosing to go into a bar where people are happy and partying

Choosing to drink alcohol in public to show the public he is doing an adult activity and considers himself an adult

Happy smiling,

His hat on backwards (As he did during the killing) is a subtle nod to defiance of old rules and a nod to youth.

T-shirt with not only a blacked-out cuss word but a message of defiance and profanity, “Free as …”

One hand in his pocket with arm crooked elbow out shows the power and any sharp-edged body language like this affects the limbic brain of the doer and the viewer as weapon-like. (In fact, there is what is termed a separate “brain” in the eye that reads human silhouettes for threat and large sharp-edged body silhouettes are read as a threat.

  Here he is in possession of an AR-15 at the Kenosha protest - https://www.the-sun.com/news/1403514/kyle-rittenhouse-illinois-kenosha-shooting-jail-murder/

 In this video, Rittenhouse appears to say that he carries his rifle to protect himself. https://www.foxnews.com/media/kenosha-shooting-new-footage-kyle-rittenhouse-tucker#

Look at him after time code 3:31.

 Word use and placement is a part of my analysis. First It's interesting that his lawyers frame the video by saying it was “good Samaritans united” odd labeling for armed boys and men most untrained and some with illegal weapons.

 In his first statement, Kyle has a slight smile his body language is expansive and buoyant and his voice is speeded up and excited as he says, “so people are getting injured.” Typically when someone is speaking of people being injured their body language would match the message and show sadness or concern or seriousness. He does not.

As he says, “Our job is to protect this (built list?? and part of my job is job is also helping. If someone's hurt I am running into harm's way.” Here is he reaches out his hand and arms to show himself running into harm's way, As he says, “That’s why I have my rifle” as he says that with an upward vocal emphasis on the words “My Rifle” he grabs at it holding his hands with his trigger finger out and smiles indicating he is ready to fire his weapon and happy at the prospect. Showing no fear at the prospect of any of this.

https://www.the-sun.com/news/4048987/kyle-rittenhouse-judge-trial-bruce-schroeder-forced-tears/

https://www.the-sun.com/news/4048987/kyle-rittenhouse-judge-trial-bruce-schroeder-forced-tears/



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Watch Bill Gates Get Very Uncomfortable When Asked About Jeffrey Epstein

Watch Bill Gates Get Very Uncomfortable When Asked About Jeffrey Epstein

Bill Gates is currently doing a media tour but was not prepared to be asked about his meetings with the late pedophile Jeffrey Epstein. Here are my rough notes on his body language that I gave in an interview for MEL Magazine. 

“I also want to ask you about something else in the public arena, it was reported at that time, that you had a number of meetings with Jeffrey Epstein—who, when you met him ten years ago, he was convicted of soliciting prostitution from minors,” Woodruff said as a preamble to her question to Gates on Tuesday night’s show.

What did you know about him “What did you know about him when you were meeting with him—as you’ve said yourself—in the hopes of raising money?”? (Jeffrey Epstein,)

“He had relationships with, ah, people he said, you know, would give to global health, which is an interest I have,”

“You know, I had... dinners with him... I regret doing that...”

Gates moves his body out forward and to the side in a “symbolic down and run” movement that shows he wanted to escape the question. Then squirms painfully in his seat as he pauses before he speaks and has lengthy uncomfortable pauses as he struggles to figure out what to say. First, he  says, “You know I had dinners with him.” As he says that final word, “Him” His hands clasp together and go into a closed, “steeple” the steeple hand gesture is an attempt of someone who feels they have the power to regain that power and the handclasp is a way to gain comfort by in effect holding your own hand. The blending of those gestures shows he can’t maintain his normal power façade in response to the question. Along with that hand motion Gates twists his head up and away his gaze moves into the memory and he shows a mixture of fear and anger.

Then as he says, “AHHH’ He sticks out his ring finger separately from his other fingers and plays with the tip of it with his other hand grasping the tip. As he says, “You know, I had dinners with him.” “I regret doing that.” As you might expect A married man playing with the wedding ring means a man is thinking about his marriage and specifically if he slips it off it means he would like to slip off the bonds of the marriage. GATES is even more obvious in specific as he is saying it as he saying that he is his decision had an impact on his marriage ending. What’s interesting for him is that he’s typically such a tactical individual and so awake and aware of his impression and yet his subconscious still Took over. That indicates to me that he feels the loss of his marriage profoundly. 

 “He had relationships with, ah, people he said, you know, would give to global health, (Gates oddly gives a faint shuddered laughs as he finishes that phrase which could indicate that Gates knew that was all a ruse a fun laughable cover for Epstein’s real goal, the nefarious goal for connecting people. ) is an interest I have,” Gates continued.

“You know, not nearly enough philanthropy goes in that direction. ( Gates verbal bride to this statement feels highly coached, as if a media coach said keep bridging to the philanthropy whenever you get a tricky question, but sounds very odd here in response to a question about having meetings with a known pedophile.

As Gates says Uh, you know, those meetings were a mistake. ( As he says mistake his hands to fling up and out palms up and move up and down in a classic supplicant posture, in an effort to push up and away from his mistake and be found innocent. (Uplifted palms suggest a vulnerable or nonaggressive pose that appeals to listeners as allies rather than as rivals or foes. Throughout the world, palm-up cues reflect moods of congeniality, humility, and uncertainty.)  of They didn’t result in what he purported, (Gates rubs his hand together here a tilts his head and gives an odd smirk that communicates to me that Gates feels Epstein was good at fooling people and Gates is oddly amused and upset by that.)  and I cut him off,” ( See how he now rubs tother his hand mostly at the tips trying to rub away the dirt from the situation and the question.

Gates said. “You know that goes back a long time ago now. I just... so there’s nothing new on that.” ( He looks away and gestures away indicating he wants the fact that it happened a long time ago to have significance then end the sentence with a large frowning clown downward masking smile in a strong attempt to mask his deep displeasure with the question and the situation. If you do a screengrab of that masking smile you see how big and award it looks and his sideward gaze that also shows contempt for the journalist.

 

“Is there a lesson for you... for anyone else looking at this?” Woodruff asked.

“Well, he’s dead, (As Gates says this again has his face turned away and gives the side-eye and makes this first statement quickly loudly and confidently showing nonverbally he believes that should have ended his problems with Epstein and so he (Gates)  doesn’t have to have learned anything to take to his current life. And the way Gates flings his hands up and out also shows his desire to fling away the problem.

Gates continues, “…so, uh, in general, you always have to be careful,” That is just a really odd statement overall.  You have to be careful of what???? Does that mean Epstein wasn’t careful of how he dealt with the super powerful or does Gates needs to be careful, or he will be killed? In either case, this remark makes us think that if you’re not careful someone will off you.

Gates emphasizes this by saying, “…in general you have to be careful” as he gives that stuttered laugh again and gives humor-filled smile that goes all the way up to his eyes at time code1:29. And holds his hands together knuckles up in a closed confident steeple. He is getting some glee from this that makes me think Gates feels he was smart enough to be careful. He then stumbles and stutters his cover statement about his philanthropy.

https://gizmodo.com/watch-bill-gates-get-very-uncomfortable-when-asked-abou-1847720423Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

     

Why Do We Wave Goodbye On ZOOM Calls?

                Body Language and How to Improve Your Zoom Calls

                        By Speaker, Trainer, and Coach, Patt Wood 

Here is the link to the CBS News article I contributed on why we wave and what else you can do to improve the ending of Zoom Calls.  Wave Article

The Zoom wave provides a social connection to recognize that the person or people you just interacted with have value, you enjoyed connecting with them, and you will miss them. We don't have the usual cues of end of engagement that space, territory, and full-body language give us, so we need to make a conscious action of waves. It also sends a clear, yet polite, signal that the meeting is over instead of just clicking away.

It creates not only a sense of closure and alignment but is also, for some, a signal of respect and acknowledgment: valuing others for their time, their engagement with us.

As a meeting with a large group is coming close, you can also use the comments section to show appreciation and give a verbal end of interaction cues. For example, at the end of the little courteous message, "I enjoyed that." "Great insights." "That was great." "Thanks, see you later" or "That was helpful; bye!" or just simply "Goodbye" or "See you later."


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.