Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
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Living and Working with your Spouses and Partners Durring Covid19, Coworking Durring Covid By Body Language Expert Patti Wood, Gives Tips to Co-Working With Significant Other
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
When People Say, "I am sorry for your loss." and other well meaning platitudes How Do You Deal With Loss
One of the many lessons of loss is that you
the sufferer, become responsible for helping those around you not feel bad as
they interact with you. Standing in your pain, you are often in situations
where you need to lift the burden of your sorrow off those who feel awkward about
dealing with the messiness of grieving and loss.
So, for example, when someone tries to comfort
you with the comment, “I am sorry for your loss." This may seem to you to be a
rote statement, you are left with the choice of giving a pat automated response
or going deeper. It’s always your choice.
As a body language expert, I give programs on
dealing with abuse, grief loss and trauma with professionals who deal with the
grieving. (funeral directors, social workers, therapists, school counselors,
law enforcement, ministers and rabbis, and others.) I share with them tools
they can share in turn with those suffering losses.
I suggest that you listen to the voice and watch the body language of the
person who makes the “Sorry for your loss” statement to see and hear if they
may be willing to go deep with you for a moment. If they are staying pulled
back and reticent and speaking with a flat automatic tone, just give them a
warm, “Thank You.” And let them go. They say the pain is too much for them, but
they are kind enough to reach out as far as they can go to comfort you.
If they are really making eye contact, leaning in, fully present
and have the paralanguage of truth as they say, “I am sorry for your loss.” it
you can give them your truth. The funny thing is when you are laid bare in
grief, you can read nonverbal cues acutely. You know. If they are open and
willing, you can share your truth.
You can share how the loss is affecting you, “I have lost my partner and my best friend,
and it hurts so much.”
You can thank them deeply, “Thank you for reaching out to me and standing in my grief
with me for a moment.” “My pain is so big, thank you for being in sorrow with
me.”
You can share memories of the person you lost that the person
who said sorry also shares so you can grieve at the moment together, “I remember how you and Roy loved to sing in
the car together when we went to the beach. I will miss hearing his voice
joining with yours.”
Patti Wood’s Bio
Called the “Gold Standard” of Body Language by The
Washington Post and credited in the New York Times for
bringing the topic to national attention Patti Wood, is a true expert. She is
the author of nine books and she speaks and consults to Fortune 500 companies
and associations. You see her on National TV shows like Good Morning America,
CNN and FOX News, The History Channel and the Today Show. She is quoted every
week in publications such as The Wall Street Journal, Psychology
Today, Bloomberg Business Week, Fortune, Good Housekeeping, and USA Today.
The Story of Roy and Learning to Love and Be Loved My Journey to Speak on Greif Loss and Trauma Patti Wood
We love, we grieve and we are grateful to have known such good souls.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Sample Business Continuity Statement for Corona Virus Pandemic. First Impression Expert Patti Wood
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
Ways of dealing with stress, decision making, crisis management during the Corona Virus.
- You have interacting remotely down and you can pivot
and adapt to the need to do so. Your tech confidence gives you an
advantage.
- Call on your social media network for support and to
offer support. What can you do for others? What are the critical things you need? Ask, offer to help, follow through with that help and make your needs clear and specific.
- If you don’t already have multiple ways to connect to
treasured contacts make sure you have phone numbers and email addresses for people you interact with on social media. Do that today an also print it out and have a hard copy. You can print out a hard copy of your contacts on your phone easily. I would also advise you to send a list of your important close contacts to your friends, family, and neighbors should they need to reach you.
- You may want to initiate check-in rituals for your key
friends family and contacts where you just talk about your day and how you are. You may be used to checking in all the time and having full access but that may be overwhelming so I would suggest a ritual be it Good morning contact, dinner chat or a good night sleep well chat. To give you and you network a sense of continuity and security. That way throughout your day if
its stressful you know you can hold it together or if something good
happens you can look forward to sharing it in that check-in interaction.
Start all your interactions with a request for information about THEM,
don’t rush to share. It will really help to focus on other’s needs.
- Have something you can do at home that calms you and
gives you the pleasure that is in no way tech-related. A pet, a musical instrument and a how-to-play training book, an art kit with paints, pens and such, and or hard copy books. Plan on a ritual every night of doing
something that gets you off of tech and away from the news.
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.