Tonight, the Alec Baldwin ABC interview is being aired as he opens up about what happened on the Rust movie set. I am doing body language analysis of the interview for the media and I have already done one of the clips below. I will post my notes after the interview.
Does a
Narcissist Want You to Chase Them?
They like both
pursuing and being pursued; ultimately, they want to control. Malignant Narcissists feel good
when they CONTROL the happiness of others. They get a Narcissistic Supply from
controlling their target's happiness. If the victim pursues them, the Malignant Narcissist can
control the flow of joy by being out of reach and unattainable, just out of reach,
seemingly won, and then out of reach again, in a continuing cycle. They can get
a supply hit from seeing their target's efforts to pursue. When they appear
"gotten," they can get a hit of supply from knowing that it is all a
ruse, a game, and then they can get a bit hit supply from dropping the victim,
disconnecting, ghosting, and then another by reappearing. By controlling and
creating more pleasure in their targets, they can also get hits of narcissistic
supply by withdrawing that source.
So while a typical
relationship on an extreme narcissistic abuse generally
follows three stages of them pursuing and idealizing their target and devaluing, and discarding their target, they
like it when their target is discarded and still wants them and pursues them,
and that is one way the cycle can
repeat numerous times, spinning a merry-go-round where the narcissist and get
the golden ring again and again.
This is the clip of Rittenhouse crying in court - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H2kX1Nzi1I8
At 1:54, Rittenhouse appears to be looking at the
judge.
The full video can be seen here - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bvcl0FqI518. Rittenhouse appears to be answering matter-of-fact questions before he starts crying. He starts crying at around 36:18. Until he is asked about that moment he is calm. His voice is even and in “report” mode. His breathing is normal. He is stating facts. He shows no stress or fear when just reports that the adult who left him is gone, calm as he reports that the police stopped him and told him not to go into harm's way. Calm as he reports that he was told to get a fire extinguisher and go to where people are reported to be setting cars on fire. He calmly states when people shout, “burn in hell” he says friendly friendly” though he knows that he is carrying a loaded illegal AR-15 (again the people shouting could be responding to him as a dangerously armed person and he is lying essentially lying that his only possible goal is to be friendly which an unarmed medic could claim as a fire extinguisher could be used as a weapon)
His crying shows several fake tear flags.
It comes out of nowhere. He has shown no stress around
any of the other stressful situation he was under. His anxiety and stress and does not build as
it would normally as he comes to the moment he is asked to describe. Remember
he is being asked in this testimony about the day he shot and killed two people
and shot and injured another. When he
goes to that moment.
His breathing is hyperventilating breathing he is bringing in big gulps of air
to heighten the intensity of his emotional state. To gain energy to create the
tears. Kyle Rittenhouse's facial expression compresses and explodes out hard down and up
and out over and over again and the breathing gets more intense. He is working to intensify the emotions and
make them bigger rather than the normal manner I have analyzed in witness
statements testimony that I have seen in victims who have been traumatized and
asked to go back to the moment and relive it.
He also gives a very odd look to the side to the jury as he breathes hard which seems an attempt to figure out whether they are believing his tears and being swayed. I have seen little kids do the side-eye when they are fake crying.
Here are some previous pictures of his demeanor:
https://www.tmz.com/2021/01/08/kyle-rittenhouse-has-beer-at-bar-with-free-as-f-shirt-on/
What’s interesting here is the most obvious
Do his demeanor and his other nonverbal cues match what would be considered normal and natural for those circumstances.
The circumstances are he is free on bond from killing two
people and injuring another.
First, consider what you would consider normal for
someone to feel and do in those circumstances
Now let's look at how far from normal his behavior is.
Demeanor
Choosing to go into a bar where people are happy and
partying
Choosing to drink alcohol in public to show the
public he is doing an adult activity and considers himself an adult
Happy smiling,
His hat on backwards (As he did during the killing) is a subtle nod to defiance of
old rules and a nod to youth.
T-shirt with not only a blacked-out cuss word but a
message of defiance and profanity, “Free as …”
One hand in his pocket with arm crooked elbow out shows the power and any sharp-edged body language like this affects the limbic
brain of the doer and the viewer as weapon-like. (In fact, there is what is
termed a separate “brain” in the eye that reads human silhouettes for threat and
large sharp-edged body silhouettes are read as a threat.
Here he is in possession of an AR-15 at the Kenosha protest - https://www.the-sun.com/news/1403514/kyle-rittenhouse-illinois-kenosha-shooting-jail-murder/
In this video, Rittenhouse appears to say that he carries his rifle to protect himself. https://www.foxnews.com/media/kenosha-shooting-new-footage-kyle-rittenhouse-tucker#
Look at him after time code 3:31.
Word use and placement is a part of my analysis. First It's interesting that his lawyers frame the video by saying it was “good Samaritans united” odd labeling for armed boys and men most untrained and some with illegal weapons.
In his first statement, Kyle has a slight smile his body language is expansive and buoyant and his voice is speeded up and excited as he says, “so people are getting injured.” Typically when someone is speaking of people being injured their body language would match the message and show sadness or concern or seriousness. He does not.
As
he says, “Our job is to protect this (built list?? and part of my job is job is also helping. If someone's hurt I am running into harm's way.” Here is he reaches out
his hand and arms to show himself running into harm's way, As he says, “That’s
why I have my rifle” as he says that with an upward vocal emphasis on the words
“My Rifle” he grabs at it holding his hands with his trigger finger out and
smiles indicating he is ready to fire his weapon and happy at the prospect. Showing
no fear at the prospect of any of this.
https://www.the-sun.com/news/4048987/kyle-rittenhouse-judge-trial-bruce-schroeder-forced-tears/
https://www.the-sun.com/news/4048987/kyle-rittenhouse-judge-trial-bruce-schroeder-forced-tears/
What did you know about him “What did you know about him when you
were meeting with him—as you’ve said yourself—in the hopes of raising money?”?
(Jeffrey Epstein,)
“He had relationships
with, ah, people he said, you know, would give to global health, which is an
interest I have,”
“You know, I
had... dinners with him... I regret doing that...”
Gates moves his body out forward and to the
side in a “symbolic down and run” movement that shows he wanted to escape the
question. Then squirms painfully in his seat as he pauses before he speaks and has
lengthy uncomfortable pauses as he struggles to figure out what to say. First, he says, “You know I had dinners with
him.” As he says that final word, “Him” His hands clasp together and go into a
closed, “steeple” the steeple hand gesture is an attempt of someone who feels
they have the power to regain that power and the handclasp is a way to gain comfort
by in effect holding your own hand. The blending of those gestures shows he can’t
maintain his normal power façade in response to the question. Along with that
hand motion Gates twists his head up and away his gaze moves into the memory
and he shows a mixture of fear and anger.
Then as he says, “AHHH’ He sticks out his
ring finger separately from his other fingers and plays with the tip of it with
his other hand grasping the tip. As he says, “You know, I had dinners with him.”
“I regret doing that.” As you might expect A married man
playing with the wedding ring means a man is thinking about his marriage and
specifically if he slips it off it means he would like to slip off the bonds of
the marriage. GATES is even more obvious in specific as he is saying it as he
saying that he is his decision had an impact on his marriage ending. What’s
interesting for him is that he’s typically such a tactical individual and so
awake and aware of his impression and yet his subconscious still Took over.
That indicates to me that he feels the loss of his marriage profoundly.
“He had relationships with, ah, people he said, you know, would give to global health, (Gates oddly gives a faint shuddered laughs as he finishes that phrase which could indicate that Gates knew that was all a ruse a fun laughable cover for Epstein’s real goal, the nefarious goal for connecting people. ) is an interest I have,” Gates continued.
“You know, not nearly enough philanthropy goes in that
direction. ( Gates verbal bride to this statement feels highly coached, as if a
media coach said keep bridging to the philanthropy whenever you get a tricky
question, but sounds very odd here in response to a question about having
meetings with a known pedophile.
As Gates says Uh, you know, those meetings were a mistake. ( As
he says mistake his hands to fling up and out palms up and move up and down in a
classic supplicant posture, in an effort to push up and away from his mistake
and be found innocent. (Uplifted palms suggest a vulnerable or
nonaggressive pose that appeals to listeners as allies rather than as rivals or
foes. Throughout the world, palm-up cues reflect moods of congeniality, humility,
and uncertainty.) of They didn’t result in
what he purported, (Gates rubs his hand together here a tilts his head and
gives an odd smirk that communicates to me that Gates feels Epstein was good at
fooling people and Gates is oddly amused and upset by that.) and I cut him off,” ( See how he now rubs
tother his hand mostly at the tips trying
to rub away the dirt from the situation and the question.
Gates said. “You know that goes back a long time ago now. I
just... so there’s nothing new on that.” ( He looks away and gestures away
indicating he wants the fact that it happened a long time ago to have
significance then end the sentence with a large frowning clown downward masking
smile in a strong attempt to mask his deep displeasure with the question and
the situation. If you do a screengrab of that masking smile you see how big
and award it looks and his sideward gaze that also shows contempt for the journalist.
“Is there a lesson for you...
for anyone else looking at this?” Woodruff asked.
“Well, he’s dead, (As
Gates says this again has his face turned away and gives the side-eye and makes
this first statement quickly loudly and confidently showing nonverbally he believes
that should have ended his problems with Epstein and so he (Gates) doesn’t have to have learned anything to take
to his current life. And the way Gates flings his hands up and out also shows
his desire to fling away the problem.
Gates continues, “…so, uh, in
general, you always have to be careful,” That is just a really odd statement overall.
You have to be careful of what???? Does
that mean Epstein wasn’t careful of how he dealt with the super powerful or does Gates needs to be careful, or he will be killed? In either case, this remark
makes us think that if you’re not careful someone will off you.
Gates emphasizes this by
saying, “…in general you have to be careful” as he gives that stuttered laugh
again and gives humor-filled smile that goes all the way up to his eyes at time
code1:29. And holds his hands together knuckles up in a closed confident steeple.
He is getting some glee from this that makes me think Gates feels he was smart
enough to be careful. He then stumbles and stutters his cover statement about
his philanthropy.
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