LORI Vallow appeared to be suppressing her anger as she was convicted of murdering her two children on Friday, a body language expert Patti Wood reveals

The "cult mom's" sentencing hearing will take place in about three months, Judge Steven Boyce said.

Patti Wood, an internationally acclaimed body language expert, analyzed Lori's behavior during the verdict for The U.S. Sun.

"She's suppressing her anger," Wood said.

Here is the rest of the article I contributed to 

https://www.the-sun.com/news/8108335/lori-vallow-verdict-body-language-expert-anger/

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Marine Daniel Penny’s anger outfit and posture during arrest reveal two key emotions after Jordan Neely’s death, Body Language Expert Patti Wood says

Subway Murder Suspect Daniel Penny's Body Language

Here are a few things I shared the rest are in the article. 

"He believes he's highly attractive," she told The U.S. Sun after examining photos of him making his way to court.

"It's obvious his appearance is important to him."

According to Wood, there was an air of confidence in Penny's upright posture and pushed-back shoulders.

"He's not showing fear, he's not showing shame," she said.

The full article is here. 

"He believes he's highly attractive," she told The U.S. Sun after examining photos of him making his way to court. "It's obvious his appearance is important to him." According to Wood, there was an air of confidence in Penny's upright posture and pushed-back shoulders. "He's not showing fear, he's not showing shame," she said.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Why is the Doomsday Cult Mom Lori Vallow Wearing Braided Pigtails in Her Latest Mugshot.

I just spent the morning reading the cult mother's mug shots for the media. She is a member of the doomsday cult. I will post the link to the article this afternoon. And yes, I talked about what braided pigtails mean. I am fascinated by the Manchu dynasty and have read quite a bit about it. In that dynasty braided pigtails where were a sign of political enslavement to the Manchu dynasty.
There is so much cultural meaning in braids. In some cultures braiding can signify age, rank marital status, etc. In some cultures and religions braids are worn by mothers and wives, and in some braids are worn by widows and children after the death of the spouse/father. Yes, I know that is creepy in her case and I think that is significant. While I think her choice is more of an attempt to control the one thing she can control and make us think of her as an innocent child. 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How to Look Approachable

I am a body language expert this article is from my Book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma. 

Give an eyebrow flash when you see someone you want to interact with. We raise the brow and fully stretch open the orbit of the eye when we see someone we know and like. It’s actually a signal to others that we feel they are safe; we like them and we want them to approach.

Stand to give room. One of the keys to approachability the key is to make yourself approachable is to stand in a way that shows you have room for others to approach. Men typically stand with their feet 10 to 12 inches apart indicating they have power and control over their space. So stand with your feet a couple of inches closer together.

Open up your body windows. Years ago I labeled certain parts of the body windows in the research on nonverbal communication because in my research I noticed that people open and closed certain parts of their bodies as they interacted. We know the old advice, don’t cross your arms so you look open and approachable. It’s a more complex phenomenon. You have WINDOWS at your feet, your knees, your stomach, heart, throat, mouth, eyes, and the palms of your hands and you open and close them depending on how you feel, who you are with, and what you are discussing. If you feel safe, to be approachable, ideally you should keep your windows open. For example, we tend to trust and approach people who have open exposed palms. This window is particularly important as the limbic system sees a hand in a fist or possibly a weapon as potentially dangerous so we stay back. The heart window is also important as shielding the heart indicates you are not open to approach or conversation. You are shielded from the interaction.  I can give you more details about this or other body windows. if you wish.)

Relax your body as body tension makes you look apprehensive and not open to approach.

Maintain good look/look away eye contact.

Nod, and head tilt to signal you're listening to what the other person has to say

Stand and sit side by side with men. Adapt the position you take when sitting or standing with someone. Though we typically think that sitting or standing face-to-face is the best way to greet and interact with someone, the real skinny is that it depends on your gender. Five Reasons to Stand or Sit Side by Side When Talking to Men

1. It makes you seem friendlier.
2. It allows them to open up their body windows.
3. It makes them share and self-disclose more.
4. It creates more agreement between the two of you.
5. It lets you more readily establish rapport.

 

 

Take Care,

 

Patti

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Which is More Challenging, Handling Angry Customers Face to Face or Over the Phone?

Both are difficult, and now there are certainly issues of personal safety that come into play in face to face in customer service interactions, but in my experience designing and conducting customer service training for a broad range of businesses is that phone interactions are more difficult.

First, the customer may have been frustrated or angered for a longer length of time before they get on the call, often escalating their emotional state.

They may have had to wait or be transferred before getting on the call with the right rep so again their negative emotions can escalate. There is an entire body of research on hold time and transferred calls' effect on customer service.

They may feel safer and shielded by physical distance anonymity, they are not right there in front of you, so even a little old lady customer who never yells or cusses in public could become a ranting maniac.

You don’t have all their body language cues to read so you can understand them and help them and relate to them personally more easily on a human level. You can exchange up to 10,000 cues with one person in a face-to-face interaction and you miss out on that rich information on the phone. It can be harder for you to relate to them if you are just going from a bad complaining customer to a bad complaining customer.

 In addition, they can’t see all your nonverbal cues and may react to you as a nebulous faceless “other” the company that, “Did them wrong” the enemy instead of a living breathing real human being.

You also don’t have access to many “de-escalating” techniques, such as nonverbal listening cues, like head tilts and head nods, look/look away constant eye contact, open body windows (like open heart, open palms, relaxing posture moves, side by side engagement, the list goes on and one. On the phone, you can do vocal matching and mirroring, which is very powerful, but you have to learn all the intricacies of matching and mirroring so it is authentic. 

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.