GOODNESS How to Deal With Bad People

What are you doing in your life right now that makes you happy? Who are the people in your life that radiate goodness, kindness, humor, and integrity? Who are you grateful for today? Today, who has lifted you up and done something awesome, fun, showed you they worked hard, showed you their talent or who was just plain kind and real to you today?

What work and social activities, interests and hobbies lift you up and make you feel alive, creative and successful? What are you glad you are doing or have done today? Breathe in gratitude for all that is true and good in your life.

Each day I write in a gratitude journal. Some days it's hard, some days it's easy. I write about my friend Rose who can make me laugh for hours on end. Somedays I am grateful for a huge business deal that is exciting and challenging, some days it's long real hugs with my loved ones, warm socks or thin mint cookies. Somedays I write about turning the car stereo up loud and singing with Bruno Mars or going to a house concert with friends and being "inside" the music of Eliot Bronson or The Ghost of Paul Revere, and lately I am grateful for the joy in writing new songs and recording them with talented musicians.

There is a lot of negative energy in the world right now. We see evil and injustice. But there is also a sea change towards goodness. Yes, we are heading towards more goodness. We are noticing bad behavior and saying, "Nope I don't like that." "Stop that because I find that unacceptable." "I choose not to be associated with or do business with someone who acts against my moral values.' That's a very good thing. Bad behavior might have been going on underneath and in the shadows before, allowed and accepted but, right now there is so much light!

Let's be grateful for that light. Don't turn away from what light shows you. I have read and been consulted on so many stories about people doing bad things, but I realized that there are brave, good people that stood up in those stories and said, "No!"  There are so many authentic strong people speaking out and showing what good behavior is. There is kindness.  Let us all focus on the good men and women in the world. And for you, focus on what it feels like to work with and love people you value and trust. Be grateful for them, grab a cookie and turn up some good music.

Look for the goodness!

Take Care,

Patti




Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Harvey Weinstein's Apology Statement.

I have done nonverbal behavior and statement analysis reads of apology statements for many years.
Someone asked me to analyze Harvey Weinstein's apology statement, but I had already read this analysis and thought they did a fine job.
Here is what I would add. First note the length of the apology. A person who is truly contrite is brief in his or her written statement. His statement, uses,  justification, (the sixties made me do it) obfuscation, (Look overa here at thndI would add that you see his disorder thinking. He does not speak in logical order.

http://justnotsaid.blogspot.com/2017/10/sociopath-alert-harvey-weinstein.html


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

MEGHAN MARKLE was close to tears next to Prince Harry as the pair spoke about Princess Diana, according to experts speaking to Daily Star Online

Patti was asked by the Daily Star Online to weigh in on the body language of Meghan Markle as she spoke about Princess Diana.  See her insights at the link below:

https://www.dailystar.co.uk/news/latest-news/663564/Meghan-Markle-Princess-Diana-Prince-Harry-interview-engagement-BBC-Royal-Wedding-video


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Celebrating Success in Your Business. What is Your Company Song?

I just got a media request to share my company song.

My company song is

"Gonna Fly Now" - Rocky 
Music by Bill Conti and Carol Connors 
Lyric by Ayn Robbins 

For over 30 years this has been our company song. I a consultant, professional speaker and author and the song has motivated me and my staff to celebrate every accomplishment and keep working hard through tough times.  I absolutely love what I do and my work itself often feels like flying.  I started the company in 1982. I was working on my graduate degree full time, teaching at Florida State had two other jobs. At the beginnings did some of my speeches for $10 dollars and hour! I was so excited to get my first speech for $500 dollars that when I got off the call about it I jumped up out of my chair, put my hands in the air like Rocky in the movie and started singing the trumpet portion of the song as I danced. All these years later I still do a hands in the air rocky dance when we get a booking/contract, spokesperson job, and or a big check and or when I have a big media interview. My staff joins in if we are in the office together. Sometimes we say over the phone or in emails we send to each other announcing a success “Rocky Dance!”  “Gonna Fly now” still motivated me. I am looking up now to the big year calendars on the wall above our desks in the office with stickers for each booking, and each one got a rocky dance!

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The company name is Communication Dynamics Inc. http://www.pattiwood.net/

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Understanding How Smart, Warm, Wonderful Women Are Targets of Psychopaths

If you truly want to understand how smart warm wonderful women are targets of Psychopaths read the research of Sandra Brown:

https://www.sott.net/article/228663-The-Unexamined-Victim-Women-Who-Love-Psychopaths

“The seminal aspect of the research was in detecting these women's unique and astounding elevated 'super traits' of temperament, personality strengths and weaknesses. These proved to be an amazingly compatible match for the strengths and weaknesses of a psychopath and brought a natural 'balance' to the honeymoon aspects of the relationship.”

“While the uncovering of her innate traits and conditioned behaviors explained much about this dangerous relationship and has brought huge intellectual and emotional relief to the victims, it does not seem to have gone very far in modifying the public misperceptions about psychopaths or their victims. On a recent radio show, after describing the huge elevation of some of the victim's temperament traits and explaining how it could affect her patterns of selection and even tolerance in these relationships, the host said, "That's a crock of crap! You're telling me that a few temperament traits can do that? I don't believe it. She picked him, she stayed, she needs to own it and she was probably abused as a child." These simplistic answers are what have been, and continue to be, at the core of the abysmal lack of public psychopathology education.”

“As mentioned, my research has revealed that women who love psychopaths (and other Cluster B personality disordered individuals) possess rather unique and extraordinary 'super traits' of temperament that make them the perfect target/victim of the psychopath. While the following does not cover all of her traits, these were the ones most highly elevated and were thus likely contributing factors:

Here is the research by Sandra Brown on what psychopaths look for in a romantic partner:

§  Extraversion and excitement seeking (Psychopaths are also extroverts and excitement seekers.)  In other words, these women started out being the least dependent types on the planet!

§  Deep Investment in all relationships (The victim gives great emotional, spiritual, physical, financial investments in any of her relationships, not just the intimate ones.)

§  Sentimentality

§  Attachment – Deep bonding capacity (She has a deep bonding capacity.)

§  Competitiveness – stand ground – not codependent (She is not likely to be run out of relationships – she will stand her ground.  Again, not the co-dependent type at all.)

§  Low Harm Avoidance – does not expect to be hurt (She doesn’t expect to be hurt, sees others through who she is.  In other words, not a person looking to recreate an abusive relationship of childhood.  In fact, more often than not, these women were never exposed to abuse of any kind as children.)

§  Cooperation

§  Higher Empathy – can be genetic

§  Responsibilty and Resourcefulness

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.