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Zendaya and Tom Holland's Body Language Says Good Things, By Body Language Expert Patti Wood





Here is the link to the article. 



As a whole, this body language is reminiscent of teenagers, says Wood. She cites the softness of the couple's facial expressions and demeanors "that has an innocence about it."

 

Zendaya's smile, in particular, is one that Wood sometimes sees in new mothers. "It's a joy of beginnings, of a certain kind of love," she explains. And it makes sense—after all, Tom is holding her in a very vulnerable way with her whole back up against him and their faces smushed together. The way their bodies are pressed against each other "typically indicates connection and trust," Wood says. "She feels really safe."

 

And if you look at Tom's face, "there's a certain kind of wonder in his eyes," Wood explains of his soft gaze. It's almost as if his facial expression says: "I can't believe this is happening," as if he still can't believe how lucky he is to be with Zendaya.

 

The way they hold hands shows they support each other.

celebrity sightings in new york city february 16, 2022GOTHAM//GETTY IMAGES

In this February 2022 pic, Zendaya and Tom were spotted leaving their hotel together. Here, Tom is "taking the lead in front of her to protect from the paparazzi," says Wood. He's in a "guarding position," purposefully walking in front of his girlfriend to make sure she stays safe, Wood explains.

 

Despite the distance between their bodies, the couple's handhold is secure, meaning Tom's not pulling Zendaya, and the grip is not forced. You can tell because Zendaya isn't off-balance, even though she's walking in heels—her whole body is "not leaning forward having to catch up with him," Wood says. Instead, this handhold is one of support and connection.

 

Wood also likes that while Zendaya is standing in her own strength and power—due to how she's standing up straight and strutting in her heels—she's still looking towards Tom. "That tells me she trusts him," Wood says. "She doesn't have to be the center of attention for the cameras in front of them."

 

Zendaya likes to share all types of moments with Tom.

bnp paribas open 2024 final dayMATTHEW STOCKMAN//GETTY IMAGES

Here's Tomdaya looking absolutely adorable—if not completely absorbed—by a match at the BNP Paribas Open. While it looks like this pic was taken at a rather tense moment, Zendaya still leans into Tom and mirrors his facial expressions, as if saying, "I want to share this with you, I want to experience with you," Wood explains.

 

Their playful and joyful energy shows they feel safe with each other.

tom holland zendaya body languageSPLASH / SHUTTERSTOCK

In this pic, Zendaya is sporting what Wood calls a "Julia Roberts smile," where she's grinning with her full mouth open, showing her teeth, and dropping her jaw. She's also projecting the smile with her eyes as she looks in Tom's direction, which signifies that she wants to share this moment of joy with him, says Wood.

 

For Tom's part, he's buoyant. His smile is significant because it shows his upper teeth and his mouth is open, a type of smile men typically reserve for true happiness, according to Wood. "When you look at his smile, you can tell it's a surprised, happy, joyful smile," she says.

 

These two clearly have a lot of fun together, but that fun can even be characterized as child-like. Not only do they look giddy here, but this photo was also taken in a spontaneous type of moment "that kids can go into very easily," Wood adds. (They're not posing for the pic—Zendaya looks like she's trying to suppress a laugh with her fist while Tom is reaching toward the person taking the photo.)

 

"When you can be vulnerable enough to experience playfulness and joyfulness like a kid...you feel safe with your partner," Wood says. All together now: Awwwww.

 

Okay, so... if you need me, I'll be patiently waiting for MY Peter Parker and MJ's next Spider-Man film to drop!



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Meghan Markle And Prince Harry's Eye-Popping PDA Body Language Read by Expert Patti Wood

Here is the link to the article. 

Harry and Meghan arrived at the event together, with Harry wearing a grey sports jacket and Meghan rocking a white halter dress and black sunglasses. Their hands were held loosely together, a gesture Wood calls "relaxed and easy." "If you look at his hand, his hand is down holding. He's not pulling her to him. She's not pulling him back," she says. "They don't have to hold hands, but they do. In this photo, you see that they're not struggling to do it. It's not effortful. It's just like, 'This how we're most comfortable.'"

But what stands out the most is Harry's posture, says Wood. His arms are wide, taking up space, and his shoulders are back, making him look "powerful." This is a "dramatic" difference from photos of Harry in his youth, Wood says, where he would appear far less confident in himself. Harry's relationship has empowered him to take up space, with his body language indicating how secure he is with his wife.

Furthermore, with her shoulders back and hips pointed forward, Meghan appears to follow Harry's gait so they mirror one another, Wood notes. She finds a slight bit of tension in Meghan's smile, but attributes it to the sun in her face. On the whole, H&M's body language signifies that they feel relaxed when they're near one another.

"They're not [holding hands] for the camera," she says. "You can see by their postures—they're not doing it because they need each other or they're struggling. It's more like, 'We just feel better like this. This is natural for us."

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Harry helps Meghan down the stairs.Yaroslav Sabitov - PA Images - Getty Images

Meghan trusts Harry to uplift her.

In a second snap, Harry holds Meghan's right hand while she descends a flight of stairs. On the other side, a woman holds Meghan's other palm. Although they're not in the shot, Wood says that Meghan is likely wearing a particularly high pair of heels—hence the extra hands. (The style blog Meghan's Fashion reports that she's sporting the Aquazurra Purist Pumps, which tower at over four inches tall.)

But Wood points out that Meghan isn't even looking back to ensure Harry's help. Rather, she simply trusts him to support her. "Her face is relaxed. There's not a lot of tension in the gentle smile that she's showing," she says. "But she's holding his hand fairly tightly. So there's trust."

Meanwhile, Harry has a wide stance and bends over "far" at the waist, showing the effort he's exerting to hold Meghan upright. "It's just him showing, 'Okay, babe, I'll do this. I'll hold the space for you. I'll be the support for you. I will balance you and I'll keep you from falling,'" Wood says. "It's lovely and symbolic."

And even though Meghan's in front, this isn't a "diva" moment, Wood says. Instead, her body is tilted backwards, since she's using Harry's support while he stays on-stage. "That weight back and the [lack of] tension in her face tells me she feels safe," Wood says. "She can depend on him to help her."

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Meghan presents Harry with the winner’s trophy.Yaroslav Sabitov - PA Images - Getty Images

They're absolutely 'in sync' with each other.

After the match was over, Meghan helped present her husband with a trophy to commemorate his win, and the two shared a loving kiss.

And despite the cup appearing to be quite hefty, Wood points out that Harry is using most of his energy to kiss Meghan, signifying his want to make her feel valued. "You can see him take the real weight with that bottom hand, the way that the fingers have tension as they're pushing up," she says. "But even though he's bearing the most weight of the award, he's expending a lot of energy. Look at the upper body, and the tension, and the neck muscles, and how far the head is protruding forward towards her. He's expending a lot of energy to say, 'You are more important,' even though he's holding the weight of the cup."

For her part, Meghan's fingers are pointed upwards, helping Harry hold the weight of the cup. This shows "her desire to support him" at his own event, Wood says. Plus, she smiles into the kiss, getting "joy" from the encounter, while Harry's smooch is more "tender," Wood notes. "It's not just a picture kiss. Photo kisses, often, are just contact of the lips," she says. "But here, there's some overlap of the cheeks, and the chins are resting on each other. It's just a loving kiss."

But the sweetest part of all comes in the couple's overall postures, Wood says. From their matching positions, they're "mirroring" one another, she says, which means they're really "in sync" as a couple. This is even more notable given their height difference, she adds. (Harry is 6'1", while Meghan is a much shorter 5'6".)

"It lets me know they're good with their power. One is not pushing to be seen more," Wood says. "This is his event. But in this moment, it's really about you celebrating this with me."

Overall, Harry and Meghan's body language signifies that their 'ship is doing just fine. "Their relationship, in these photos, it looks healthy," she says. "If people are saying that what's going on with the other royals is having a having a negative consequence on this relationship, they're saying no. They're connected. They're good."



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Analysis of the Body Language in the Republican Presidential Nominee Debates. Ramaswamy, Desantis, Haley and Christie's Body Language, Debate



Key Moments and Nonverbal Analysis 
of the Republican  Debates
Below are my rough notes in preparation for my TV interview

 1: RAMASWAMY Attacking Haley about not being able to name PROVINCES

Vivek - “It is one thing that Joe Biden and Nikki Haley have in common. Is that neither of them could even state for you three provinces in eastern Ukraine that they want to send our troops to fight for. Look at that. This is what I want people to understand. She has no idea what the names of those provinces are but wants to send our sons, daughters, and military equipment to go fight it.”

My read - Ramaswamy FINGER WAGGING Pointing– He did throughout the debates as a symbolic weapon, which was not even acceptable in debates until a few years ago, but here it's worse he is attacking a woman, yelling, and pointing over and over. You can say oh it is a speech but in domestic violence and my threat assessment work that is a red flag warning that the man wants to physically hurt you.

It reminded me of the Hilary Clinton Trump debate where he came across the stage and stalked up her as she spoke. This is no small nonverbal behavior.

 2: CHRISTIE RAMASWAMY BLOWHARD (CHRISTIE ATTACKING RAMASWAMY)

Christie: “We see it on video. We confront you on the debate stage. You say you did not say it and back away. This is the fourth debate and you will be voted in the first 20 minutes as the most obnoxious blowhard in America so shut up for a little while. (cheers).”

My read - Christie – It is a sword fight; you see Christie finger-pointing and wagging and Ramaswamy pointing back. Christie's is Matching and Mirroring that level of violence. Christie is relaxed resting his arm on the podium, in a nonverbal response that says, “I have been fighting in the real world all my life buddy, you can’t scare me.” Nonverbal Response

3: Video of Haley being attacked HALEY ATTENTION FELLAS

DeSantis: “We know from her history that Nikki will cave to those big donors when it counts” //flash//Ramaswamy: “The only person more fascist than the Biden regime now is Nikki Haley who thinks the government should identify every one of those individuals with an ID. That is now freedom, that is fascism and she should come nowhere near the levels of power let alone the white house.” //flash//Haley: “I love all the attention fellas, thank you for that.”

My read - They Attacked Haley for a good twelve minutes at the beginning of the debates. Their yelling, angry faces, verbal insults, and the length of time were clear behavioral indications. They think she is the one to beat. Notice she smiles, it is a little bit tight, but her voice is warm and lilting beauty pageant way.

4: DESANTIS TRUMP AGE – “FATHER TIME IS UNDEFEATED” (HAS LOTS OF YELLING)

a.  (In 0:00) – (Shows Christie and DeSantis yelling) “Someone that is almost 80 years old it does not mean that someone can get elected. Ron! Ron!” //flash//” Father time is undefeated, and I do not know how someone will score on a test, but I know this we have an opportunity to nominate and elect someone for two terms.”

My read - DeSantis here and throughout the debates is giving an overly extended raised forehead, eyes wide look that is the poster face for deception. In my deception detection speeches, I give the example of a little 2-year-old covered in cookie crumbs saying with that face, “I didn’t still the cookies I didn’t do it!”


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Jim Jordan's Body Language, President Biden's Body Language about Israel and Putin by Body Language Expert Patti Wood

1.   Rarely pointed. Kept hands in"hold the earth in place"Gesture

So when he did point as he talked about Putin in made his stabbing motion stronger.

2.   American is a beacon, power of the point- his eyebrow goes up with emphasis. Point downwards. I refuse to let that happen. ( I will take them down.)

3.   Jim Jordan presser. Look at this body orientation he is run off the stage body alignments and instead of standing firm straight up and down he is leaning quite dramatically to the side and onto the podium showing a lack of strength.  Also,he is nervously playing with his note cards using them as comfort security. And finally notice his even faster than normal vocal pace, another strong nonverbal indicator that he wants to be out of there.

4.   Head back laughing, unbridled over the top glee at what’s going on. In context in most business meetings in the corporate world if coworkers laughed like that at a potential boss they would have been at least reprimanded if not full-on fired for inappropriate behavior. 



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Trump's Body Language in Court, By Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Here is a story I did on Trump's body language. 




Body language expert Patti Wood analyzed Trump's court appearance and speech afterward and shared her findings with The U.S. Sun.

Right away, Wood noticed similarities between the court appearance and another of Trump's recent outings.

“The scowl on his face is very similar to the mugshot," Wood revealed, drawing a comparison to the photo from Trump's August arrest.

"If you break it down, you have the glare of anger, the lowered brow, and the glaze in his eyes.

“That scowl and the downward jowls are similar to the mugshot.”

Wood noted that while the expression is normal for Trump, it's abnormal for someone to express that level of anger in a courtroom.

“He’s playing this part of an angry man," she said.

“He wants to look angry and strong and defiant. But it’s normal in these circumstances.”

However, Wood said it's "unusual to show anger of that magnitude in mugshots and in court.

"So that choice is an interesting choice."

Wood continued, noting Trump's posture sitting at the table between his two lawyers.

“His body is strangely kind of hunched forward," she said.

"That hunching of his shoulders downward, the protecting of his body, actually is a more honest reveal.

"That reveals that he’s scared and he doesn’t feel powerful, he’s hunching forward almost like a child would do if they’re being scolded.”

'LACKED HIS USUAL VIGOR'

Trump addressed the media before the first day of the trial began, on a lunch break, and then at the end of the day.

Wood said that while Trump had his normal talking points, his body language told a different story.

“He had to power himself up and I got that from his breathing, the way he’d lift up and go into a talking point and just deliver it," Wood said.

"But it didn’t work because he’d start a sentence and then he’d have to start it over again."

Wood noted that Trump has trouble getting to the end of a sentence and that while he didn't speak for a long time, he did stop and restart several times.

“He acted as if he was strong and powerful and angry and attacking but his nonverbal was to stop midsentence and there to be this pause, and then he would finish, sometimes repeating words or changing to finish the sentence," Wood said.

“That’s a tell for the fact that he doesn’t really feel full confidence.

"His mental energy [is] not there to fight fully.”

As far as his gestures were concerned, Wood was quick to note that Trump's usual gestures were tighter to his body than normal.

“It’s the same accordion gesture he always does," she said, adding that "his arms from the shoulder up to the elbow were held tighter and closer to his body.”

“The way it showed up to the viewer is, again, a lack of power, a lack of energy.

“It lacked his usual vigor.”



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Why Do Guys Flirt with Other Women To Make You Jealous?



A man flirts to gain power. He shows interest in other women to illustrate to you his skills in making other women feel good, and light up because of his advances, and for you to see that other women (now your competition) are interested in him.

By flirting he can take away your confidence in yourself and your confidence in the security of your bond as a couple.

He wants to see a response from you. It’s an attempt at manipulation.

He may get to see you in pain, you get angry, you work harder to keep him, you become subservient and not make reasonable requests of him because a shift of power,


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

What Are Sanpaku Eyes? How They Can Help You Spot a Liar, Psychopath or Narcissist Insights from Body Language Expert Patti Wood

Top body language expert reveals secrets of the ancient art of "eye reading"

The entire article is here. https://www.firstforwomen.com/posts/mental-health/sanpaku-eyes                      The excerpts where I am quoted are below. 

According to the ancient tradition of Japanese face reading, “sanpaku,” you can learn something interesting about people from how much of the whites of their eyes show. For most of us, the whites of our eyes only show on either side of our iris (the colored part of our eye). But for some folks, the whites (or sclera) show underneath the iris — this is known as “yin sanpaku.” In other people — and this is quite rare — the whites show above the iris — this is known as “yang sanpaku.” Read on to learn what these different types of eyes indicate about the people who have them — including the late Princess Diana.Yin sanpaku, or white under the iris, is believed by practitioners of traditional Japanese face reading to signal physiological turmoil, owing to drug abuse or overindulgence, and may hint at future struggles in life. People with whites below the iris may view the outside world as a danger — which could said of the three of the celebrity examples below: Marilyn Monroe, JFK and Princess Diana. “Singer Billie Eilish, Diana Ross, Marilyn Monroe, James Dean, Twiggie, Princess Diana and President John F. Kennedy all have or had this trait,” reveals body language expert Patti Wood author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma.

She adds that while sanpaku is a mystical tradition, science tells us that scleral show can be attributed to several factors from good old-fashioned genetics to health conditions like thyroid issues, which may cause the whites of the eyes to become more pronounced. Long before we had the science of body language, people were already ‘seeing things’ in the eyes,” says Wood. “That’s because eyes are the first part of the body we look at — they’re a key indicator of one’s emotional state and can signal the next action a person may take by what they’re looking at or focusing on.

What is a ‘reptilian stare’?

“The whites of the eyes are the first thing I notice when I look at police photos or a ‘perp walk,’” reveals Wood, who once consulted as a police officer trainer. She explains the wide, cold glare of serial killer Ted Bundy or Bryan Kohlberger, who is suspected of killing four college students last year, exposes more of the whites of their eyes. This sends chills down our spine because it activates the limbic system, triggering our fight-or flight-response—the body’s version of a fire alarm warning us of danger.

What is the ‘hypnotic gaze’?

While running into a Jack-Nicholson-in-the-Shining-esque psycho with an exaggerated  “sanpaku stare” is about as likely as aliens touching down on Earth tomorrow, what is sadly more realistic is interacting with a narcissist. One trick of their manipulative trade is known as the “hypnotic gaze.”

“This is a focused and intense stare that makes you feel like they love and adore you in a way you’ve never felt from anyone before,” observes Wood. Trouble is a malignant narcissist may intentionally use this gaze as a weapon. “They might look at you intently during a conversation, but as soon as you question them, like ‘Why were you late for dinner?’ they’ll immediately drop their focus, making you feel horrible

They “hook” you on their laser-focused attention, then pull the rug out from you, leaving you disoriented and full of misplaced self-blame.

It’s helpful to note that psychologically healthy people — very charismatic folks, to be specific— also employ the “hypnotic gaze” to make you feel seen and heard, says Wood. But the key difference is a narcissist will use this strategy to exercise control over you.

Just knowing this is part of their larger arsenal of love bombing — showering you with compliments and attention — only to withdraw them on a whim, will shift the power dynamic in your relationship and help you create healthy boundaries.

How do you spot ‘lying eyes’?

Another “Pinocchio” signal to look for? Watch for someone’s blink rate to suddenly tick up. A rate of 40 blinks per second is normal, notes Wood, but if you, say, ask your teenager a question, like “Where were you last night?” and their eyes are instantly aflutter, it may indicate increased anxiety owing to deception, because we tend to blink more when emotions are high.



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Duggar's Documentary Body Language Secrets, Jill Duggar reveals

I analyzed the body language of Jill Duggar in the Documentary about her family.
TRUE FEELINGS Jill Duggar reveals ‘anger & betrayal’ over pressure to defend Josh & has ‘lack of respect’ for dad’s power, says the expert. Carly Stern

JILL Duggar has shared her candid reactions to her brother's abuse and the pressure her parents put on her to do damage control.

In a new interview, she reflected on the "burden" she felt to help her family retain their TV show after the scandal and even laughed about the "umbrellas of authority" that made her so obedient to her father.

The rest of the article is here 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

A Trick To Look More Confident When Your Speak



Years ago when I was teaching my nonverbal class at Florida State I consciously started using every principle to increase my confidence and look powerful.
I am 5 feet 2 and blonde so I needed some help to have any presence at all to my 150 to 200 students in dark staired seating auditorium in my nonverbal communication class. One of the power-boosting behaviors that I started doing that I use to this day is using the whole room! To this day I never stand behind a podium. I use the whole stage, and always come off the stage into the audience and go all the way to the back of the ballrooms!
I love being with my audience. I just sent my room set up for the opening speech I am giving and the client got excited that I wanted stairs to come down the front of the stage so I can easily go out into the audience! She said, she never had that request.
I love my work!
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How to Look Approachable



I am a body language expert this article is from my Book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma. 

Give an eyebrow flash when you see someone you want to interact with. We raise the brow and fully stretch open the orbit of the eye when we see someone we know and like. It’s actually a signal to others that we feel they are safe; we like them and we want them to approach.

Stand to give room. One of the keys to approachability the key is to make yourself approachable is to stand in a way that shows you have room for others to approach. Men typically stand with their feet 10 to 12 inches apart indicating they have power and control over their space. So stand with your feet a couple of inches closer together.

Open up your body windows. Years ago I labeled certain parts of the body windows in the research on nonverbal communication because in my research I noticed that people open and closed certain parts of their bodies as they interacted. We know the old advice, don’t cross your arms so you look open and approachable. It’s a more complex phenomenon. You have WINDOWS at your feet, your knees, your stomach, heart, throat, mouth, eyes, and the palms of your hands and you open and close them depending on how you feel, who you are with, and what you are discussing. If you feel safe, to be approachable, ideally you should keep your windows open. For example, we tend to trust and approach people who have open exposed palms. This window is particularly important as the limbic system sees a hand in a fist or possibly a weapon as potentially dangerous so we stay back. The heart window is also important as shielding the heart indicates you are not open to approach or conversation. You are shielded from the interaction.  I can give you more details about this or other body windows. if you wish.)

Relax your body as body tension makes you look apprehensive and not open to approach.

Maintain good look/look away eye contact.

Nod, and head tilt to signal you're listening to what the other person has to say

Stand and sit side by side with men. Adapt the position you take when sitting or standing with someone. Though we typically think that sitting or standing face-to-face is the best way to greet and interact with someone, the real skinny is that it depends on your gender. Five Reasons to Stand or Sit Side by Side When Talking to Men

  1. It makes you seem friendlier.
  2. It allows them to open up their body windows.
  3. It makes them share and self-disclose more.
  4. It creates more agreement between the two of you.
  5. It lets you more readily establish rapport.

 

 

Take Care,

 

Patti



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.