Patti Wood Body Language Expert Blog

Patti Meets LR President David McKee

Patti Wood body language expert with David Mckee the President of the Louisiana Realtors Association. Patti spoke to the Realtors this fall on Body Language and Selling based on her book Snap Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

How to Tell if Your Dog Was Involved in a Sex Scandal, Body Language, Mouth Cues, Lying, Deception, Infidelity

How to Tell if Your Dog Was Involved in a Sex Scandal,

Body Language Mouth Cues, Lying, Deception, Infidelity

This lip pressed together mouth turned down facial an expression I call the cover smile. Yes, most people who give this expression believe they are covering their true emotions with a smile. They are giving out many cues that say what they are truly feeling, but they really believe they are doing a good job fooling you and perhaps deceiving themselves in the process. Of course the dog is just being cute, that video of him with the Poodle was a set up. He will tell you all about what really happened in his Oprah interview.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Lavender not only helps you sleep it makes the sleep you get deeper!

You've probably heard that the smell of lavender helps you to get to sleep. New research shows it helps improve sleep as well. People who breathed lavender scent as they slept enjoyed a 20% increase in the quality of their slumber. So find a lotion with lavender in it and put on a little before you go to sleep.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Creating the Perfect Light for Sleep

For a sounder slumber and quicker going to sleep time replace your bed side lightbulbs with one labeled warm white or soft white. Research shows reading in the soft light prompts the brain to release melatonin hormones that promote sleep. When I'm on the road, I put my hot pink hoodie sweatshirt over the bedside table lamp to give the light in the evening a soft pink glow one that promotes the correct brain waves for sleep.

Create a Set of Nighttime Rituals

Before I go to bed I check the locks on all the doors, turn out the lights, let out the dog, wash my face, pull down the shade in the bedroom and curl up with a good book. Creating nightly rituals like checking the house, brushing your teeth, reading before bedtime will send subconscious signals to your brain it's time to relax.

Losing Your Memory? Pick Up a Pack of Gum!

Did you know I was the national spokesperson for Wrigley's spearmint gum? In fact, I helped develop the Chew IQ test that distinguished your personality type based on your chewing style. During my time researching as national spokesperson, I discovered that chewing gum has many positive benefits. There's new research out that confirms one of those key benefits that chewing gum can actually improve your memory. Next time your attention is flagging before a late-in-the day meeting, pop a piece of gum in your mouth to help you stay sharp. British researchers have found that chewing gum improves performance on tasks that involve tuning into audio cues that is listening to somebody talk and retaining key information in short-term memory. In the study, subjects listened to random lists of numbers for 30 minutes, then were tested on their ability to pick up patterns. Compared with non-chewers the gun group detected patterns more quickly and accurately and their abilities improved as the task progressed. The action of chewing seems to temporarily increased blood flow to the brain, allowing more energizing oxygen to reach brain cells. Personally, I would recommend that you chew the gum before your meeting and then spit it out and put it in a piece of paper in the trash before going in the meeting room so people won't see you chewing the gum but your brain will be supercharged to remember what they say.

Speech Anxiety is a Good Thing

Quick Fix for Stage Fright

Standing in front of an audience with your heart racing, your palms sweating, terrified and wishing you were anywhere else but in front of that audience?

Good news is at hand!

Research from University of Rochester New York suggests that embracing your stress symptoms as beneficial can help you stay calm and collect yourself during your speech. When subjects in the research were encouraged to consider the physical signs of nervousness like sweaty palms and heart racing as natural and even advantageous they were more relaxed and had better bloodflow during the high-pressure speech assignment than those who were not trying to view their anxiety in a positive light.

So reframe your stress. See it as a good thing. Use all that energy to give a terrific presentation.

Are Headaches Keeping You from Sleeping?

If tension headaches are keeping you from sleeping there are options. Researchers say that people with chronic tension headaches who took 3 mg of melatonin daily for three months reported six fewer episodes a month and the headaches they did get were less painful due to the sleep inducing supplement. Most antioxidants and anti-inflammatory compounds may help counter the inflammatory enzyme that trigger head pain. So if your doctor says it's safe to take melatonin take one tablet before bedtime to prevent headaches and get a good night sleep.

Ways to Get a Good Night Sleep

Studies show that having a good evening laugh like watching Bridesmaids or the Bachelor after dinner improves your sleep by making the brain release more of the sleep hormone melatonin. You don't have time for a movie and it's time for bed? You could do exercises to release the day's stress. With laugh exercises breathe like you do when you laugh. As it turns out, by just mimicking the breathing motions of laughter you can relieve stress and improve your circulation, digestion and sleep.

Steps for laughing exercise:

put your hands in front of your chest
put your palms out, and as you push your palms forward twice giving a deep belly sounding HO each time
then press your palms down twice saying HA each time

Now turn to your sweetie and notice they are looking at you and laughing and ask them to thank you for helping them fall asleep.

Is Your Smartphone Ruining Your Sleep?

Have you ever wondered why you couldn't go to sleep at night? Have you ever picked up your cell phone late at night to send just one more text?

Latest research shows us that sending text messages and surfing the web within two hours of going to sleep boost your stress levels more than any other pre-sleep activity. More than watching TV, sending emails or even making love. Researchers suspect that late-night texts or Internet searches ignite alert centers in the brain that interfere with deep sleep. In my book SNAP in the chapter on text impressions I discuss how those quick shallow decisions of texting and surfing actually extend and deepen pathways to the EGAN centers of the brain sending stress hormones. So read a book late at night and send the text tomorrow.

Smell Can Help You Make a First Impression

You can "SNIFF out someone's personality in a SNAP. The four first impression factors are credibility, likability, attractiveness and power.

New research says that you can use your sense of smell to tell if someone isn't nice. A new study in the Journal of Nonverbal Behavior, reveals that self-centered or domineering people (those high on power) have higher levels of stress hormones --- and that those hormones emit a unique scent that is detected by your lymbic and subconsciously alerts us to their true personality! Thus if you get a gut feeling that someone isn't nice, it may be our sense of smell that's identifying that personality trait for you. So don't leave your house if you have a cold.

Video of Miley, SNL, Today Show, Tongue Thrusts, Sticking Out Your Tongue, Body Language Read of Miley

Miley, SNL, Today Show, Tongue Thrusts, Sticking Out Your Tongue

Body Language Expert Patti Wood will be talking about
Miley's body language on the Today Show and on her recent SNL interview.

Baby's thrust their tongues to as they nurse and to "self comfort" or self sooth. When a babies stop thrusting their tongues when they are not nursing it is a sign that they are ready to eat solid food. Miley thrust out her tongue to show she was ready to grow up and be seen as a sexual being. As she did it with the entire tongue thrusting out of the mouth and held is very sexual and aggressive.

During the Saturday Night Live Monologue she appeared confident and sassy. She came out giving a prayer steeple and self comfort handclasp. As she said, "I don't apologize for my VMA performance." Eye flutter. That she still feels bad about it. Though she appeared at one level to be UBER confident for the entire monologue their was something that may surprise you that revealed what she was feeling underneath the hupla and performance façade. It was very very subtle. When I do a read of a performance like this I have the first level read of how they performance and then how they feel about what they are saying. What was the most interesting that when she said, I'm not going to do Hannah Montana - She did a rapid eye flutter that indicated she high anxiety she I hate that old role in my life, I am done with that child persona. Then she said, "... but I can give you an update on what she's been up to. She was murdered." and then did a eye shutter. Though her voice was coached and powerful as she said she was murdered she puckered her mouth with distaste. She didn't really like saying that. So as much as you think she was confident and having the time of her life, their was a "tell" that she was

From SNL: She said

MILEY: I don't apologize for my VMA performance. If I owe anybody an apology it's the people who make the bottom half of shirts, but there are a few subjects we're not going to get into tonight. I'm not going to do Hannah Montana - but I can give you an update on what she's been up to. She was murdered. And also, we went back and forth on this - but guys, I just don't think we should do that wrecking ball sketch.

BOBBY: What? I mean, come on...

MILEY: Sorry Bobby

On the today
TODAY SHOW INTERVIEW
She was a

TODAY:

IN: 00:00:01

MILEY: I don't really worry about anything because I know who I am, and I know that I'm and artist and I know that I've put all of this time and this effort into my record and my record is proof of really who I am and you know I said something before - where for me the most important thing is being a really good person and that doesn't depend on what you do on stage - that depends how you treat people when you're off stage - and I know how I treat people, so I'm not really too worried about it.

TODAY

MATT: Any do-overs in terms of your career right now? Is there something you'd like to do differently that you've done in the last couple of months?

MILEY: I can't change anything. Can't go back, so I can do a lot of things but I can't change the past - so nothing. Can't change. but you know, anything I can't control I don't really think about. I just live my life the way it is and I don't really regret anything.

Can't go back rather than I can't go back, Can't Change, Depersonalize it. Taking away her responsibility for what she did in at the awards. Then she speeds even faster than her baseline through the, I don't regret anything.

TODAY:

MATT: Do you have a five-year plan? You said you don't plan things a second ago. I think you meant overnight, but do you have a five-year plan?

MILEY: Not really. I'm just - I'm focused on when I get to go on tour - which is gonna be next year - which I'm really excited about. And, so that's really my focus. My plan is focusing on right now and continuing what I'm doing because everything - I'm the happiest I've ever been in my whole life so I'm really happy to be here.

In the media interviewing BIZ they call that statement aTalking point. It a prewritten rehearsed statement, written by your marketing team. Notice how she She rushes into it. Letting me know it is prepared statement.

Body Language Read of Orlando Bloom and Miranda Kerr

Patti read the body language of Orlando and Miranda for Life & Style as they made their entrance at the Broadway play, Romeo and Juliet in NYC. Patti noted that their bodies create the shape of a heart. She also noted that with his embrace, it shows that Orlando loves and cherishes Miranda. His face is soft. He's at ease with her. Miranda is posing for the camera, but her body is relaxed. She's at ease with him too! Patti gives this couple a 4 on the True Love Rating scale!

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Body Language Reads of Ashton and Mila as well as Sofia and Nick partying at Emmy's afterparties.

Oh my goodness, this relationship makes sense, Ashton is actually giving some loving dad energy in his bowing slightly down hug. I see this hug and that soft focused gaze on dads as they hug their daughters at the soccer game. Its all good. There is the romance as well the hand clasp he has over her left hand is great. Her head is slightly forward so she can stand on her own. You know it's good even though it's only an upper half of the couple I give them a 5.

I am amazed in this Sofia photo. He wants to gently and sweetly rub her down and eat her up. A great combination of hot and steamy and yet with his tender touch and her grin of joy, sweet joy.

10 Ways to Find Out If Your Date has His or Her Act Together

Check the link below to see how eye contact, according to Patti, can determine if your date has his or her act together.

http://www.howaboutwe.com/date-report/10-ways-to-find-out-if-your-date-has-his-or-her-act-together/

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Blake & Miranda Body Language Read

Love how he is surrounding her in an envelope side hug. He is leaning over and has a great true smile. She feels a bit embarrassed at the posed one finger gesture, but she really is taking that tension and is hunching in towards him to be comforted.

I give them a 4 on the True Love Rating!

Dakota Fanning and Jamie Strachan A Couple Body Language Expert Read

Goodness they are both sleep deprived!

There are subtle signs he is not quite into her. Though you know that any guy at a ball game is going to be somewhat distracted. The arch of his shoulders in and away from her and both his hands are caressing his smart phone not her. Though his face is slightly towards her the mouth is down. This all may be a response to being photographed but he is tired and not up and happy in this snap. She is tired but feels protected behind him. Her chin is not just posed but fully resting with significant weight put on his shoulder. That shows her trust in him and along with her subtle last night I was loved well smile and arm encircled around his arm lets me know she wants him and feels safe with him.

Body Langauge Read of Jason Sudeikis and Olivia Wilde

Jason and Olivia got extra flirty while watching the US Open in the Emirates Suite in Queens, NY. According to Patti, "The way Jason's right arm is positioned, he's saying, "If there weren't people around, I'd be doing more." "He's more into Olivia than the tennis" and vice versa. Olivia is so smitten! Patti reveals that Olivia's her head tilt and hold on him prove she feels safe and playful. Patti gives this couple a 4 True Love Rating!

Body Language Read of Robin Thicke and Paula Patton

Patti did a body language read of Robin Thicke and his wife, Paula Patton, for OK Magazine concerning the state of their relationship and how they're responding to one another since the cheating scandal this week after a photo of him visibly grabbing a blonde girl's butt at a VMA after party surfaced. Paula has responded by saying that "they're not concerned." You can read Patti's insights on what their body language reveals in OK Magazine.

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Putin and Obama Handshake Read by Body Language Expert

http://worldnews.nbcnews.com/_news/2013/09/05/20342654-the-big-chill-a-dominant-obama-meets-a-cool-putin-at-g20?lite

Patti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.

Life & Style PDA of Gwen and Gavin

Synchronized step with both of their pelvises angled in slightly. Terrific mutual hand hold where they both lift each other up, and something you rarely see, though they are walking, both have their heads turned significantly to "admiration" position, so they are looking at each other equally with love. Chins up in happiness. I rate them Five out of FivePatti Wood, MA, Certified Speaking Professional - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com. Also check out Patti's YouTube channel at http://youtube.com/user/bodylanguageexpert.