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Nancy Pelosi Ripping Trump’s SOTU Speech Had More Meaning Than You Think according to Patti Wood Body Language Expert



According to Patti Wood, a body language expert and author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma, Pelosi’s actions clearly signal that the act was planned and done very intentionally. "It’s not something she is doing lightly. She’s doing it multiple times. It’s so distinctive," Wood told Refinery29.

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Prince William & Kate Middleton’s Christmas 2019 Body Language Is Confusing according to Patti Wood Body Language Expert


Patti Wood, Body Language Expert,  noticed a few unusual signs that William and Kate weren’t totally in sync. “I usually see them very proper,” she explains, noting that they tend to convey an air of “warmth and balance.” But here, that wasn’t exactly the case, and the photos convey that they might have been at odds with each other.

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language When You're Holding Hands by Body Language Expert Patti Wood


Your body language when you’re holding hands with your partner can provide all kinds of clues about the dynamics of your relationship and your romantic connection, says Patti Wood, body language expert and author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma. "It’s one of my favorite couple behaviors to interpret because it shows not only the connection and confidence in the connection between the members of the couple, but also, potentially, the power dynamics and passion and tenderness," says Wood about hand-holding.

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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Pitt and Aniston's Body Language at the SAG Awards by Body Language Expert Patti Wood

These two have major chemistry!
Body language expert Patti Wood says we're not wrong to jump to that conclusion. According to the author of Snap: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, Pitt and Aniston are making a "deep connection" in the photo. Wood points to Pitt's right hand, which clutches the statue. "His award is in his hand, but he holds it low, below his waist. What’s important to him is her," Wood says. Pitt's left hand, which grasps Aniston's right arm, bolsters that message. According to Wood, that's a grip that says, "Stay here with me."
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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How to o Solve Changing the Temperature on the Thermostat Arguments.

The E.R.A.S.E.R. Method
How to Solve Changing the Temperature on the Thermostat arguments.
                                                                                                                                                                                             by Patti A. Wood

The E.R.A.S.E.R. Method
                                                              by Patti A. Wood

Are you upset, irritated or angry with your partner or roommate because you can’t agree on the thermostat settings? Are you frustrated because you have the same argument over and over again? The ERASER Method is a step-by-step process to create a script of your message and word it in such a way as to make it easy to give and easy to hear! You can avoid misunderstanding and lessen defensiveness in the receiver of your message. It prepares you for positive discussion and makes it possible to ERASE the Thermostat problem.

STEP E Be Exact: Describe the offensive behavior on paper, then answer the ``W'' questions noted above regarding the behavior.

Exact           Express your concerns in exact terms. Don't use generalizations like, ``Every time you...'' or ``You never think of me...'' or ``You always...'' Also, don't guess at or express an opinion as to why they do what they do. For example, ``You don’t care about how cold I am or you would...''
                     Example, “In the last three weeks you have turned down the thermostat to less than 59 degrees all most every night before we go to bed.”
                    Example, “In the last week we have argued about the thermostat five times.”

STEP R  state the result Know the result. As yourself, ``What is the concrete result of the offending behavior
Result          After you've described the behavior, the person may still not understand why they should change their behavior. You may need to give them a result, i.e., tell them what happens as a result of the behavior.

                             Examples:
                             ``When you do that, I am so cold that no matter what I wear to bed I am too cold to sleep”

                             ``In the arguments we both raise are voices and say things we regret later.

STEP A
Aware  There are times when it's obvious from the steam escaping from your ears that the person's behavior is upsetting to you. Sometimes it is not so obvious, especially to the offending person. Clue them in. Notice what emotion their behavior arouses in you and communicate it to them.

                             Example:
                          “I know that saving money is important to you and I know we need to keep to a budget, and I also know that when I am that cold, that miserable and don’t sleep it affects every part of my life, my work, my time with you and the kids, and I worry that you don’t see how miserable I am and it makes me feel you don’t care about me.

                             Example:
                            The arguments affect our ability to have quality time with the kids, I think you notice how upset they get and we both agree that arguing so much is a bad example for the kids.
                            
                      Notice these statements are worded carefully. Absent are statements like, ``You made me angry.'' By using an ``I'' statement, you avoid arguments. No one can argue with an ``I'' statement. It's pretty difficult for someone to tell you how you do or don't feel about something. Your feelings are your feelings. There are times when this step is very significant.

                             Granted, there are partners who only need to know what really aggravates you to be motivated to continue the behavior!

STEP S Switch the behavior. Suggest and recommend the behavior you would like to see occurring in place of the current offensive behavior.

Switch               Examples:
                             ``Can we sit down with the electric bill and our budget Saturday afternoon when we both have some energy and come up with a compromise that works for us?     
                          “I have looked at our bill and our budget, here they are. What if we choose to each give up two things from our personal expenses that add up to the 20 dollars a month increase in the bill and set the thermostat at 68 at night for two months and see if that works/               
STEP E Evidence—establish and agree on the behavior change.

Evidence    If you're concerned that the person may backslide into old behaviors, you can ask for an agreement as to what the change will look like. Perhaps you can set a time frame when you both will be observing the changed behavior, or a specific number of times you would like to see the behavior.

                             Examples: Lets plan on checking in on this date with each other, I will fix your favorite that beef stew for dinner and we can see if we both.

This example includes a reward step see below.
                            

Reward       Some people are motivated by rewards; some are persuaded through the prospect of punishment. Think about what motivates the person you are talking to. Would it be helpful to give them a specific reward if they erase the old behavior and switch to a new one? What punishment could you present as a possibility if they don't? Caution—make sure it's something you absolutely, positively will do. If you won't carry through on this step, it's powerless. They must know you mean business.









Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.