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What Can You Do If You Think Your Partner is Pulling Away By Dating Coach and Body Language Expert Patti Wood

1. To make sure you aren't imagining their actions or misidentifying the motivations for their behavior, notice their exact verbal and nonverbal behaviors, what they do and how often they do it, and in what circumstances they do it to see if it's consistent and triggered by interactions with you. 

2. Have a conversation sharing what your partner did and how you felt about it. For example, "For the last three weeks, when we sit together at dinner, as soon as I start talking about my day or something I did or read, your turn and look away or touch or look at your phone." -State the concrete result. "I stopped talking." State how you feel. "I feel like your pulling away from me."


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Why Do Airlines Seats Face Forward Rather than the Safer Option of Having Airline Seats Facing Backward?.

This is a question I get along with why do we all face toward the door on elevators.

Airlines don't have backward-facing seats as they are heavier and have to meet higher safety standards, and they would have to have all the seats face backward, so there is a cost issue.

But the other reasons are more customer service/ body language-related.

Some people feel more nauseous facing backward,

When we are a passenger in a car, we are used to facing forward toward the driver, so it gives a sense of familiarity and control over the experience.

Nonverbally the primal limbic brain wants to face the body is going.

Sitting backward triggers the same limbic brain fear response that having your back to the door (as in the caveman does not want to have his back to the entrance to the cave) makes you feel.

Some people want to face the way they entered the plane as it calms them down as they think they know where the exit is. (Thus, the flight attendant's speech that says the closest exit may be behind you.)

It's easier to get the passengers off if they exit up and out of their seats toward the front.

 

 





Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

What Can You Do If You Think Your Partner is Pulling Away By Dating Coach and Body Language Expert Patti Wood


New research says that Nerotics have less job satisfaction and more job turnover. 
 https://medicalxpress.com/news/2022-03-personality-traits-well-being-satisfaction-life.html). I speak to business owners and C-suite executives across the US. Most of their employee problems, complaints, and HR issues are with younger employees who seem afraid of interacting face to face and on the phone or even speaking about the personal issue in an email. They also describe these employees as stressed and having difficulty making simple decisions, especially those related to a lack of interpersonal skills. That personality seems to fit the definition of neurotics. 

To avoid hiring Neurtotics I recommend job interviews with problem-solving scenarios and taking the interviewee out for a meal with two or three other employees to see how they handle the interaction.

If you currently have an employee with these issues, I recommend they give them a mentor or someone to work alongside so they see how to handle everyday interpersonal problems. I also suggest a three-day interpersonal skills class or role-play or modeling interpersonal problem-solving.

For example, I had a team leader having problems getting excessive emails from a stressed team member and other interpersonal issues, and the company was having issues with high turnover. So he hired me to do a team-building program and then roll it out for the whole company.

In working one-on-one with each employee over the three days, I discovered his stressed team member was afraid of talking to the team leader because he always wore black t-shirts, which made him tense. So he was sending emails to his team leader instead of getting up from his desk and going to the NEXT CUBICLE because he was so afraid.

 I gave the team step-by-step instructions on how to have different kinds of conversations, and they practiced them with each fellow team member until everyone was more comfortable. It was a group of young employees who hadn't had a lot of practice working face to face.

 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Harry and Meghan's Body Language at Invictus Games

Photos are in the link to the article at the bottom


Prince Harry and Meghan Markle gave the crowd at the Invictus Games the royal treatment on April 16. The couple kissed onstage during the Games’ opening ceremony, and the sweet moment was one for the books (and not just because the royal family rarely, if ever, indulges in PDA). According to a body language expert, Harry and Meghan’s kiss was “intimate” and genuine.

Though body language can’t tell us everything about a relationship, this snog speaks volumes for the once-royal couple. And their actual words were just as telling. Apparently, Meghan gushed about her “incredible husband” right before their kiss. “It is my distinguished honor to introduce someone that I think you’ll all be very excited to hear from. I could not love and respect him more and I know that all of you feel the same,” she said of Harry. His response? “Thank you, my love.” (But in a British accent, so automatically 10x hotter.)


The kiss that followed was just as sweet as Meghan’s quote, and despite the fact that this smooch literally happened onstage, it doesn’t seem like there was anything staged about their PDA moment. Patti Wood, body language expert and author of SNAP: Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language, and Charisma, tells Elite Daily, “[The kiss] is not for the cameras. This is not about showing off.” Apparently, their connection is something they just “can’t help.” Here’s how she breaks it all down.

Even though Harry and Meghan’s kiss didn’t get too passionate, there were some signs of deep love. See how their bodies make a sort of triangle? That “mutual lean” is key.

“Look how much leaning he is doing,” Wood points out. And he’s not the only one who seems to be seeking closeness. Though less drastic, Meghan’s body is also reaching for him. “She’s lifting up through the body. She’s got a slight body lean (through her pelvis, belly, and chest) that matches his,” Wood adds.

Even their microphone hand-off was significant. “He wraps his fingers around her hand,” Wood says. “His hand curving around her in a way that shows more intimacy than just a simple [microphone pass].” The main takeaway? “It seems like they just want to touch hands as they kiss.” Aw!

Their special moment didn’t stop at the kiss. Per Wood, the duo shared “laser-focused eye contact,” too. “It’s as if it’s just them, and no one else was there,” she says. Not to mention, it looks like Meghan is feeling all the looove.

“The smile on her face is full of wonderment and innocence,” Wood says. “Her entire face is lifted up in an impish, shy smile.” TL;DR: In this picture, Meghan’s expression is basically the heart-eyed emoji.


Even when Harry and Meghan’s attention was elsewhere (like on the huge crowd surrounding them), their attachment is still palpable. “Harry has his arm on her back as if to draw her closer and make sure they’re seen as a unit,” Wood analyzes the photo.

Though Meghan’s arm isn’t wrapped around her husband, Wood notices that “she’s doing a ‘symbolic reach.’” According to her, “Meghan’s outreached arm is showing him that her body is responding to his touch.”

It’s a notable moment, particularly because they’re looking at the crowd—not at each other. Wood says, “Both of their heads are pointed towards the crowd, but they need to connect to each other even as they’re connected to the audience.” It’s not a show though—it’s “just the way they are.”


https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/prince-harry-meghan-markle-intimate-kiss-invictus-games-2022Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

What Makes a Guy Look Sleazy? First Impression Don'ts for Men

what makes a guy look sleazy?
A shirt that pulls tight across his chest because it is way too small.
Any shirt or piece of clothing with a curse word or put down or dirty saying
Wearing a t-shirt that is not just small, but from what’s printed on it, is obviously from his high school wardrobe
A pinky ring
More than one necklace on anyone but a rock star
Slick backed hair
A pompadour or other out-of-date hairstyle (Don't make me get started on Politicians that can't seem to get an up to date style)
You know what I mean. Some guy with a high school style shows that they are still a teenager emotionally and can’t face being an adult.
A gold tooth
Collars on his shirt that are on ironed and or worn or curled or brittle
Shirt unbuttoned more than three buttons, two if the shirt is too small as well
A belt with worn down leather and or cracks in the leather
Shoes that are scuffed, have worn down bottomed dirty, and or don’t fit
Shoes that clomp or clap when he walks
Dirty nails
Dirty teeth
Bad breath
Greasy hair
Hair that needs to be cut
Hair in his eyes
Pants that are way too tight in the crotch
Pants with an outdated print



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.