I speak on how to deal with difficult people.
1. What types of people narcissists tend to seek out in romantic relationships (people-pleasers, etc.)
1. What types of people narcissists tend to seek out in romantic relationships (people-pleasers, etc.)
Narcissists choose people pleasers, and good listeners. They want someone who is empathetic, in fact, “Hyper Empathy is preferred” and kind. They want someone who is “High bonding”, “High Sentimentality.” They want someone who gives readily, gives of his or her emotions, who is low in “Harm Avoidance” and high in “cooperation.”
2. Signs that you are dating a
narcissist (i.e. what kind of qualities do narcissists generally have?)
Charm,
Charisma, Intense mesmerizing eye contact, high touch behavior that starts very
quickly, such as holding hands on the first date, or hugging spontaneously
right away, or touching to push back their dates hair or take a thread off a
jacket on the first date. Close talker
and or just plain standing or sitting closer than normal, a space invader. May
talk slightly louder or very loudly and may gesture in an over the top manner
and may interrupt in a charming enthusiastic way. May have a loud or unusual
laugh, and may use the laugh to interrupt you, though it may sound like they
are indeed laughing at something you said, if you listen closely it interrupts
your “turn” to speak. And if you listen even more closely you will notice they
interrupt when you take away too much attention from them. High self-discloser
on a first date. They will sweep you off your feet and charm you. Love bombing
you so that you feel like you are on an emotional high, they will put you up on
a pedestal complimenting you in an over the top manner and perhaps showering
with small gifts. “Love bombing” is a
phrase describing this stage, in which the narcissistic person may smother you
with praise, courting, intense sex, vacations, promises of a future together,
and designation, essentially, as the most special person ever.
3. Tips to help readers avoid dating narcissists.
Notice the first
date. Do you feel overwhelmed swept up? Highly emotionally charged. Does the
conversation seem very intimate? Are you sharing stories of your bad
relationships? Do they claim they were a victim in their last relationship and
tell you the horrible details? Do they complement you more than once? Do they
say you are different or special on the FIRST date? Do they lean in close or
touch you on FIRST date? If they describe their ex as crazy, bi polar, a drug
addict, and or anorexic or a bitch run, because they are not just a narcissist
they are a sociopath. RUN!
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
