Here are my rough notes for an article I contributed to today on signs of jealousy.
1. Starring - They look at you with a focused intense gaze. They are reading your every emotion to know how to act. Their gaze is a way to test you and reduce your actions and set boundaries. They may do or say something uncomfortable right before or after the hypnotic gaze to test how you respond. You need
to check in to your feelings and body. If the gaze makes you uncomfortable, afraid, controlled if it seems too intense, too exciting, or dangerous. You can test the “Health” of the gaze by breaking it. Even moving away from there and or getting up and move or leave the room and monitor if your relief. See if breaking the gaze and your partner’s response to the break is overly negative.
2. Controlling your space, and body, time, and choices wanting you to be by their side, in the same room with touching or line of sight, they want to control your body, how you look what you were.
3. Setting “boundaries and other Rules and getting mad when you change them.
4. Breaking Boundaries and Rules -They set boundaries and rules for you, but they break normal human interaction and relationships with you. If someone boundary-breaking note how you feel. For example, if you find yourself freezing in place, that is your body saying you are in danger. Narcissists may mask the intimacy in sweetness or politeness, for example holding hands or putting their arm around you after they have done something that upsets you and makes you very uncomfortable. Are moving into show ownership when you are talking with someone else.
5. Abrupt mood changes and Parent/Adult/ Child role changes. If someone is jealous is not getting what they want they can shift all their nonverbal behaviors in the blink of an eye and transform themselves. For example, if they chastise them or question they can take on all the nonverbal behaviors of an innocent victimized child, with doe-like eyes and softly rounded body language cues. They can also shift into sudden anger.
