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Dating Recommendations for Extroverts.

Extroverts – Extroverts, especially extreme extroverts, love loud, fast-paced, overlapping conversations filled with energy. Extroverts may think an introverted date is a great listener, but it may be because they are not given a turn to talk as they need silence to speak. So introverts can feel talked over and interrupted when extroverts feel they are just having a great energetic conversation.

 

So extroverts on dates can overwhelm introverts and may seem like a selfish, self-absorbed show-up. So to make introverts feel comfortable, they need to ask them open-ended questions; ask them to tell about a fun vacation or the best thing that has happened in their life recently. Then let them go for it and be silent (TOUGH FOR EXTROVERT.) According to research, Introverts like as much as 8 seconds of silence after being asked a question before they have formed the perfect answer and are ready to speak. Give introverts more eye contact even when they are pausing. Extroverts sometimes drop eye contact when an Introvert is talking softly or pausing. A listener should give more eye contact than the speaker. Research suggests that if you want to have good rapport, you should maintain eye-contact 60 to 70 percent of the time that someone speaks to you. Females have been shown to be better at this than men and need more eye contact from listeners to feel comfortable in the conversation




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