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Why the SIX Second Kiss Hack Works to Increase Intimacy and Other Hacks You Can Use With Your Mate.


By Body Language and Relationship Expert Patti Wood

Recently, TikTok has become been sharing a six-second kiss relationship hack to increase intimacy and connection by kissing for six seconds or longer every day. 

Some of the reasons it works.

Time/chronemics is a nonverbal communicator. By extending a kiss to six seconds, instead of a quick peck you are communicating to your partner, you are worth more to me.

In addition, it may offer an opportunity for each partner to take a deep breath from the diaphragm and hold it and release it as they kiss, creating a moment with your partner to be connected for both pleasure and relaxation.

Also, the way we hold our body sends a message through the central nervous system to the brain to create matching chemicals and hormones. For example, the LOVE hormones oxytocin and vasopressin are produced in the part of the brain near the hypothalamus and cause stronger feelings of attachment. Those chemicals and hormones can be created and released back into the bloodstream in as little as a 1/40 of a second. Extending the kiss to 6 seconds extends and increases them.

Other rituals to increase connection that I recommend.

Hold hands more. Create an anchor cue, such as when you are out walking together at night, or as you stand in line at the grocery store or coffee shop, or when you sit together on the couch watch certain kinds of movies and or television shows as the time you hold hands. This creates a bonding ritual in your lives.

Intertwine your fingers occasionally to send a message that you are connected physically and emotionally.

When one of you is washing the dishes or standing at the kitchen counter or bar preparing food create a ritual where the other person comes behind you and hugs you gently for six seconds or more. This offers a bonding ritual, a sexual attraction signal, and a thank you to the partner who is providing a nurturing cleaning or cooking service to you.

Working out can increase adrenaline and research shows that there is a significant positive correlation between adrenaline and attraction. So you could create a ritual of either both of you working out and ending the workout with a long hug and kiss and or one of you working out and immediately going to your partner and giving them a long sweaty hug and kiss.

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.

     

Duggar's Documentary Body Language Secrets, Jill Duggar reveals

I analyzed the body language of Jill Duggar in the Documentary about her family.
TRUE FEELINGS Jill Duggar reveals ‘anger & betrayal’ over pressure to defend Josh & has ‘lack of respect’ for dad’s power, says the expert. Carly Stern

JILL Duggar has shared her candid reactions to her brother's abuse and the pressure her parents put on her to do damage control.

In a new interview, she reflected on the "burden" she felt to help her family retain their TV show after the scandal and even laughed about the "umbrellas of authority" that made her so obedient to her father.

The rest of the article is here 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Danny Masterson's Body Language, The Duggar Family's Body Language, Nausea As a Signal Someone's is Dangerous



Have you ever seen someone on a TV show and felt uncomfortable or nauseous? I don’t mean his, her, or their character on the show. I mean the actual actor. If you have body may have been signaling to you of that star’s true toxicity and danger in real life. Nausea can be a very clear sign of danger.
Years ago, The 70’s show was wildly popular, the problem for me is I couldn’t stand to watch it. The actor Danny Masterson gave me the creeps. I was physically nauseous when I tried to watch him in the show. Later there was a popular reality show called The Duggars about a large Mormon family. I have friends that are Mormons and I love fictional comedies about big families, so I turned it on. Something felt off and I started to feel nauseous. This has happened to me all my life as a signal that someone is “Off” and that there is something potentially toxic or dangerous about them. It does not happen every time I see a toxic person, (Oh how I wish it did) but when it does, I pay attention. Couldn’t even finish one episode of the show.
In a strange coincidence This week I consulted with the media on the upcoming Duggar family Documentary and the rape trial of former 70’s SHOW and The RANCH star Danny Masterson. Your body is a human lie detector. Nausea can sometimes signal that you are in a dangerous situation and or you are seeing a dangerous toxic person. bodies evolved to trigger anxiety symptoms such as nausea when we are under threat or in danger. When a person's anxiety is not related to a real danger, like when stress is triggered by a perceived threat, nausea can be especially distressing.
When you feel stressed or anxious, your body releases a rush of hormones to prepare you to face or flee from a perceived threat. These hormones light the fuse that sets off your freeze, flight, fight, faint, or friend response. Neurotransmitters in the limbic system of the brain react by sending messages to the rest of your body to:
• get the heart pumping faster.
• increase the breathing rate.
• tense the muscles.
• send more blood to the brain.
Anxiety and stress can affect virtually every body system. This includes your cardiovascular, endocrine, musculoskeletal, nervous, reproductive, and respiratory systems.
In the digestive system, stress can cause:
• nausea, vomiting
• heartburn, acid reflux
• stomachache, gas, bloating
• diarrhea, constipation, painful spasms in the bowel

Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Body Language Reveals In the TV Show Succession, Touch Tells Between the Siblings On Succession.



Here are some of the insights on the body language of the siblings I shared for this article. The link to the full article is in the comments.
Succession’s Heirs: Touch Me Gently
Body language experts evaluate the Succession kids' bizarre hugs
May 27, 2023 By Kyle Mullin Photography by Macall Polay/HBO WEB EXCLUSIVE
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Succession’s characters often reveal more with their body language than with anything they say. This is in part due to the privilege and trauma of billionaire news baron wannabe-heir Kendall Roy (Jeremy Strong) and his siblings Shiv (Sarah Snook) and Roman (Kieran Culkin) whose awkward movements and physical interaction are wince-worthy. That trauma stemmed from their manipulative, outburst prone father, the late Logan Roy (Brian Cox). But the ruthlessly successful businessman also endowed the squabbling siblings with enough wealth to alienate them from the comparative peasants they need to interact with.
When the siblings gingerly reach out to one another – wary of betrayal, but desperate for validation — their odd gestures convey multitudes. Their body language also draws attention when they simply speak or sit. Ken’s halting tone is a prime example of the former, while Roman’s oddball posture stands out as the latter.
Since the Roys’ eccentric and acidic behavior has turned so many viewers into armchair psychologists, we asked true experts to weigh in. Patti Wood holds an MA in body language and nonverbal communication. Woods has been called “the Babe Ruth of body language experts” by The Washington Post. She is also working on a book about body language in cinema, which includes It’s a Wonderful Life and The Godfather. Former FBI agent Joe Navarro utilized his body language expertise to catch real life crooks. He has since appeared in numerous viral videos in which he breaks down the nonverbal communication of politicians, gangsters and more. His book What Every BODY is Saying is an international best seller.
[Author’s note: spoilers follow]
In an early first season episode Wood was struck by the siblings’ cold, derisive nonverbal communication while doctors tended to their ailing father. More recently, Wood was focused on another dynamic: that infamous recent episode when Logan suddenly dies and Roman becomes uncharacteristically earnest. At one point Roman not only reaches out to his half-brother Connor (the always hilarious Alan Ruck), but lunges at him (director Mark Mylod told GQ the strange hug between Roman and Connor was not in the script, but instead happened between the actors “organically in a lovely, clumsy way.
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Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Amy Robach Body Language at Half Marathon, What does it mean when you wear a promise ring around your neck?


Here is the article on the nonverbal 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Bryan Kohbeger's Body Language at his Idaho Murder Arraignment by Patti Wood



I will post my article on Bryan Kohbeger's Body Language at his Idaho Murder Arraignment when it goes live. Here is the link to the video I analyzed. 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

How Do You Encourage Reading in Your Children? A Nonverbal Communication Expert Recommendations.

As an expert in nonverbal communication, I would recommend the placement of books all around the home. Placement that may communicate honor and respect for the books, such as organized placement on shelves and placement that indicates easy accessibility like low-level coffee tables, low-level side tables, and low-level bookshelves for children. 

 It's also interesting that children will model their parent's nonverbal behavior. Children will also watch how their parents and older siblings hold and focus on their books, specifically, does it hold their undivided attention, do they stare intently at it, hold it close, curl their body around it, and other subtle nonverbal cues such as and if they carry a book with them when they leave the house, do they see their parents reading a book as they wait at the doctor's office, or they see that their parents read in bed before sleep, or after dinner in the living room instead of watching TV or in a cozy spot, or at the beach, etc, they are more likely to model that reading ritual.

 For example, my dad studied a lot and had his textbooks that filled their shelves in the bedroom and also had a stack of steamy bestsellers on his bedside, and he had a subscription to several newspapers including the Wall Street Journal and many many magazines that where left on the coffee table, my parent's bed and side tables always available to read. I started reading the Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, Newsweek, and a host of other magazines and his potboiler novels when I was ten or so.

Now have bookshelves filled with textbooks and other books on my expertise (nonverbal communication) in my house. I have over 1,000 books in my house! And I always have novels stacked on my bedside table and books and magazines of all kinds on my coffee table. 

 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Workplace Bullying and What You Can Do About It.



I speak and write about how to avoid workplace bullying and how to deal with it in the workplace. 
Here is an article I contributed to on bullying.

What does workplace bullying look like?

Patti Wood, a human behavior expert, spoke to us about what bullying can look and sound like.

She says there are physical cues to look out for, such as a head jutting forward, teeth-baring, and space invasion. It can look like vocal intimidation, “Raising the volume of the voice, lowering the voice, speeding up or slowing down, punching certain words, or growling”.

It can also include targeted jokes, threats, humiliation, unjust criticism, and continued denial of requests without a valid reason. Workplace bullying can often be subtle and can include ‘gaslighting’, which is where a bully engages in abusive behavior but then denies it occurred. It’s important to be aware of both overt and subtle bullying behaviors to identify them.

Patti says you can identify bullying by noticing how you feel in the presence of someone else. If you feel bullied, pay attention to what the other person is saying or doing that could make you feel targeted.. A lot of workplace bullying can be subtle, so this can be a practical way for your employees to identify bullying.

Another marker employers can look out for is a change in workplace behavior. This can include increased absences, low morale, and changes in performance. There may be other reasons behind these changes, but noting them and enquiring can help managers monitor the early warning signs of workplace bullying.

Here is the link to the rest of the article. 





Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

PROTECTIVE POSITION' Kouri Richins’ TV interview showed red flags she was ‘hiding the truth’ about murdered husband’s death, says expert




When a journalist you work with frequently says, “When I heard about this murder Patti I immediately thought of you.” and you laugh and laugh and laugh.
Look in the comments below for the article I did with my analysis of the body language and other cues of the mom who has been accused of poisoning her husband over a year ago and wrote a children's book about grief.
In April, she sat down with a local news outlet to discuss a children's book that she had published on how to deal with grief after a loss. One month later, she was arrested and charged with murder.
Here is the video of her interview that I read for the media.
I would be interested to hear your thoughts on how she presents herself to the public in this interview. below that is my nonverbal communication read.


The interview I interpreted

https://www.abc4.com/gtu/a-childrens-book-to-aid-in-coping-with-grief/?fbclid=IwAR3CM3QEcmEe483AfmxzDqmDWrpol0ch5PE5QTQBsjyELgAVzEnHKVPJwA8



Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

A Trick To Look More Confident When Your Speak



Years ago when I was teaching my nonverbal class at Florida State I consciously started using every principle to increase my confidence and look powerful.
I am 5 feet 2 and blonde so I needed some help to have any presence at all to my 150 to 200 students in dark staired seating auditorium in my nonverbal communication class. One of the power-boosting behaviors that I started doing that I use to this day is using the whole room! To this day I never stand behind a podium. I use the whole stage, and always come off the stage into the audience and go all the way to the back of the ballrooms!
I love being with my audience. I just sent my room set up for the opening speech I am giving and the client got excited that I wanted stairs to come down the front of the stage so I can easily go out into the audience! She said, she never had that request.
I love my work!
Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Patti Wood body language expert, What Does Taking Off Your Wedding Ring Mean, Wife Who May Have Murdered Her Husband and Wrote a Book





Here is some of my interpretation of the murder suspect taking off her wedding ring means. 

The mom-of-three showed up to the interview without her wedding ring in what acclaimed body language expert Patti Wood said was a "strong choice."

"Writing a children's book about grief after losing your husband and promoting it without still wearing a wedding ring is an interesting choice," she exclusively told The U.S. Sun.

"Everybody grieves differently, some widows want to hold on to the symbol of the union they can see, feel, and touch all the time, and some don't.

"Nonverbally, she is not just promoting the book, but the fact that she has processed her grief enough to advertise that she is single and available." 

There is more of what I shared in this article. 





Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

LORI Vallow appeared to be suppressing her anger as she was convicted of murdering her two children on Friday, a body language expert Patti Wood reveals


The "cult mom's" sentencing hearing will take place in about three months, Judge Steven Boyce said.

Patti Wood, an internationally acclaimed body language expert, analyzed Lori's behavior during the verdict for The U.S. Sun.

"She's suppressing her anger," Wood said.

Here is the rest of the article I contributed to 

https://www.the-sun.com/news/8108335/lori-vallow-verdict-body-language-expert-anger/


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.
     

Marine Daniel Penny’s anger outfit and posture during arrest reveal two key emotions after Jordan Neely’s death, Body Language Expert Patti Wood says


Subway Murder Suspect Daniel Penny's Body Language
Here are a few things I shared the rest are in the article. 

"He believes he's highly attractive," she told The U.S. Sun after examining photos of him making his way to court.

"It's obvious his appearance is important to him."

According to Wood, there was an air of confidence in Penny's upright posture and pushed-back shoulders.

"He's not showing fear, he's not showing shame," she said.

The full article is here. 


Patti Wood, MA - The Body Language Expert. For more body language insights go to her website at www.PattiWood.net. Check out Patti's website for her new book "SNAP, Making the Most of First Impressions, Body Language and Charisma" at www.snapfirstimpressions.com.