"He believes he's highly attractive," she told The U.S. Sun after examining photos of him making his way to court.
"It's obvious his appearance is important to him."
According to Wood, there was an air of confidence in Penny's upright posture and pushed-back shoulders.
"He's not showing fear, he's not showing shame," she said.
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I am a body language expert this article is from my Book SNAP Making the Most of First Impressions Body Language and Charisma.
Give an eyebrow flash when you see someone you want to interact with. We raise the brow and fully stretch open the orbit of the eye when we see someone we know and like. It’s actually a signal to others that we feel they are safe; we like them and we want them to approach.
Stand to give room. One of the keys to
approachability the key is to make yourself approachable is to stand in a way
that shows you have room for others to approach. Men typically stand with their
feet 10 to 12 inches apart indicating they have power and control over their
space. So stand with your feet a couple of inches closer together.
Open up your body windows. Years ago I labeled
certain parts of the body windows in the research on nonverbal communication
because in my research I noticed that people open and closed certain parts of
their bodies as they interacted. We know the old advice, don’t cross your arms
so you look open and approachable. It’s a more complex phenomenon. You have
WINDOWS at your feet, your knees, your stomach, heart, throat, mouth, eyes, and
the palms of your hands and you open and close them depending on how you feel,
who you are with, and what you are discussing. If you feel safe, to be
approachable, ideally you should keep your windows open. For example, we tend
to trust and approach people who have open exposed palms. This window is
particularly important as the limbic system sees a hand in a fist or possibly a
weapon as potentially dangerous so we stay back. The heart window is also
important as shielding the heart indicates you are not open to approach or
conversation. You are shielded from the interaction.
I can give you more details about this or other body windows. if you
wish.)
Relax your body as body tension makes you look apprehensive and not open
to approach.
Maintain good look/look away
eye contact.
Nod, and head tilt to signal you're listening to what
the other person has to say
Stand and sit side by side with men. Adapt the position
you take when sitting or standing with someone. Though we typically think that
sitting or standing face-to-face is the best way to greet and interact with
someone, the real skinny is that it depends on your gender. Five Reasons to Stand or Sit Side by Side
When Talking to Men
Take Care,
Patti
Both are difficult, and now there are certainly issues of
personal safety that come into play in face to face in customer service
interactions, but in my experience designing and conducting customer service
training for a broad range of businesses is that phone interactions are more
difficult.
First, the customer may have been frustrated or angered for
a longer length of time before they get on the call, often escalating their
emotional state.
They may have had to wait or be transferred before getting
on the call with the right rep so again their negative emotions can escalate.
There is an entire body of research on hold time and transferred calls' effect
on customer service.
They may feel safer and shielded by physical distance
anonymity, they are not right there in front of you, so even a little old lady
customer who never yells or cusses in public could become a ranting maniac.
You don’t have all their body language cues to read so you
can understand them and help them and relate to them personally more easily on
a human level. You can exchange up to 10,000 cues with one person in a
face-to-face interaction and you miss out on that rich information on the
phone. It can be harder for you to relate to them if you are just going from a
bad complaining customer to a bad complaining customer.
In addition, they
can’t see all your nonverbal cues and may react to you as a nebulous faceless
“other” the company that, “Did them wrong” the enemy instead of a living
breathing real human being.
You also don’t have access to many “de-escalating”
techniques, such as nonverbal listening cues, like head tilts and head nods,
look/look away constant eye contact, open body windows (like open heart, open
palms, relaxing posture moves, side by side engagement, the list goes on and
one. On the phone, you can do vocal matching and mirroring, which is very
powerful, but you have to learn all the intricacies of matching and mirroring
so it is authentic.
Research shows that our limbic responds to danger by going
into Freeze, Flight, Fight, Fall/Faint or Friend response. When we are stressed,
doing something wrong or dangerous, or when we are in the presence of someone
who is out of integrity, who is lying, doing something wrong, and or is dangerous
and or pathological our limbic response to the danger. Our blood pressure
rises, our heartbeat increases, our cortisol levels may rise, we may flush to the surface of the skin, or blood may rush from the face and to our extremities, leg,
and hands so we can run and or fight.
Surrendering is realizing you can’t control everything. But
you can let go of people that are out of integrity in your life. You surrender
to the fact they won’t change; they won’t suddenly be who you want them to be. If
they are close to you, you surrender to the loss, surrender to the fantasy of
how you would like the relationship to be or even how it use to be.
And if you must interact with them the best way to stay safe
and stress-free is to surrender your emotional response to them. Go grey rock. Stay
calm and centered. Don’t let them trigger you. Let go of emotional responses or
reactions. If your limbic system still gives you a message of danger listen and
respond, but if it’s just gameplaying don’t play.